DD is growing up (supposedly) so when when I root out a book I think she will enjoy do I get arguments??Hmm??

[KatyMac]

She is growing up

I am carefully selecting books I think she might like

Each time, I don't want to read that; and each time, without fail she has loved it

Grump, sigh, grump

Why??

How old is she?

Having said that, whatever age she is - don't force the issue. Make the book available to her, let her read it, talk about it with her afterwards.

I'm dealing with a stroppy almost 10-yo with a reading age of 15+ but still emotionally 10 - we go by trial and error. There are things I loved at her age that she probably won't go for, because she has to deal with homework (I had none until secondary school), two full-time working parents (my mother was P/T, evenings only) and so she's tired and hasn't the energy to take on what I did. She'll get there in the end. Keep offering the opportunities, don't feel rejected if she says no, as long as she loves reading she'll be fine.

DD is 13

Reads voraciously - library can't keep up with 'teenage' books so I am carefully selecting adult books

Her reading age is good (off the scale according to school) but her understanding is that of a 13yo

& never gets homework

That is just life!
I can remember my Mum recommending her favorite books to me and being very sniffy about them,and I read anything I could get my hands on...and as an adult we loved a lot of the same books.
At one point I resorted to getting Mum to give DD a book I was sure she would like because she wouldn't consider it when I offered it to her,and I did get to the point where I'd say to her "have I ever recommended anything you didn't like" to which the answer was no!

Oh its just about asserting independence. Its fantastic that she loves your choices. Imagine the conversations you'll be having when she's at university!

I know it's life - but oh boy is it annoying

I can't see her getting to uni tbh

I understand you wanting to be careful about what she reads but maybe it's time to give her the freedom to choose what she wants?
By that age I only read adult books with no censorship, and my mum was way over protective.

Its more fun to find books for yourself than to have them selected, I guess. As a teen I read whatever was on the bookshelves which typically included a mix of Womans Weekly Romantic fiction (do they still exist? Lovely stuff, no explicit sex at all!!), my brothers' Alistair McClean stories, but also a lot of classics - Brontes, Austen, Dickens. And occasionally something which may not have been strictly suitable (for some unfathomable reason my clergyman grandfather possessed a most interesting book on dealing with frigidity )

I guess - but they are books she will love & she is missing out by choosing not too

Blasted child

When I was 13 I read only that point horror crap. Voracious and very fast reader and my mum despaired. She tried to get me to read Pride and Prejudice so many times....

Now we have identical taste in books and swap all the time. But then? Wouldn't have read anything she liked in a million years.

I was the bookworm child of non-reading parents, so was allowed to read pretty much what I wanted.

My weekly trip to the library at that age usually involved checking out two or three Sweet Valley High books, a couple of Point Horror's (especially Christopher Pike) - all of which were very age appropriate. Not so much the James Herbert, Shaun Hutson, Dean Koontz and Graham Masterton books that I used to supplement my checkout pile with though!

My two are very resistant to suggestions although they moan about not having anything to read on a fairly regular basis. I am a total bookworm and have a very large collection of childrens books (my two are 11 and 10) all of which I think are great and they would enjoy.

Cnversations tend to go like this, ds/dd "I've got nothing to read" me, "there are loads of books here, what about x, y, z" ds/dd "I don't like any of them"... so I go to the bookshelf and pull out five or six books that I think they would like and then I throw them at the said child (who is in bed at this point) who promptly rejects half of them whilst saying they will try the rest. Then I usually throw some more books at them (the bookcase is just outside their bedrooms) along with much giggles. The rule is they have to read a chapter before total rejection, and sometimes they decide they love something and then read it round and round until they get bored again...

I do find it a bit upsetting, hence the silly game. My parents on the other hand took no interest in my reading at all. I took myself to the library and got out all the family allocation of books (in the days when you had 3 tickets each) and read many unsuitable books that were lying about (I'm the youngest of four and from a big book reading family). I think at 13 you can probably cope with most things, except perhaps for very violent or psychologically dark stuff. I just skipped stuff I didn't understand.

My 14 year old is into science fiction/fantasy so the vampire, werewolves,dragons,gargoyles,living dead,magic etc there are more and more books aimed at this age group. I used to work at WHSmiths and they have a seperate YA young adult section. I remember reading the Virginia Andrews flowers in the Attic etc when i was that sort of age. I have tried the library as both myself and my daughter love reading but as you have found they dont seem to have a great selection and what they do have seems to be falling apart!
I noticed someone mentioned Christopher Pike who has some books out ...i saw them in a store before christmas think it was asda aimed at young adults. My daughter also reads books that i would she has read "the Island" by Victoria Hislop (its brilliant).I have joined a group on fb love fantasy novels where we swap reviews on books etc. Fantasticfiction.com is good for looking up different authors/titles helps decide if they are suitable or interesting enough {smile}