I'm a giant failure

[Gemi33]

A couple of weeks ago I posted on here about joining WW and go some very helpful advice but since then it's all gone a bit wrong - first I was ill and then my relationship was ended very abruptly and I have been a bit of a mess - the diet has been completely forgotten and I am heavier than ever.

I'm not sure what to do really. In the one hand I just feel really low at the moment and don't really believe I can do it, my head is all over the place. On the other hand, I feel awful about myself and in 6 weeks I will be at an event attended by my now ex and would love to feel ok about myself (although I don't know how much difference I could really make in that time). I did attend a meeting and I can see that they would be helpful but long term I will not be able to make meetings on a regular basis so would be looking at doing it online long term if I try again. Not sure why I'm posting really - I want to believe I can do it but I'm just not sure!

xx

You are not a failure. So don't beat yourself up over this. Obviously you were ill your first week and then circumstances have taken over. Sorry to hear about your relationship. Not an easy time for you at the moment. It is difficult to advise. As you say, really your head isn't in it at the moment, so sometimes if the time just isn't right, it can be very hard to follow any plan. But it does sound like you have some motivation, to do as well as you can for the next six weeks! Depends if you really want to try your hardest over the next few weeks and that is enough to drive you forward, and get you off to a good start. I suppose you need to look at pros and cons of your situation now and why losing weight now would help and what the benefits would be health wise too. See if there is enough there to motivate you to get back on it. Whilst you may not feel like it, following your relationship break up, it may be this is the best time to start taking better care of yourself, weight and food wise and the beginning of something better. It doesn't always seem like it when things go wrong , but remember when one door closes another door opens. This could be a new opportunity to change your lifestyle. Only you can decide if you have enough motivation to want to do this now!

I know you say you won't be able to get to the meeting regularly longer term, but maybe go in the short term to get all the help and support you need. I know some people can't always make their regular meeting due to shifts, so go when they can, or go to a different meeting, that fits in better. Not sure how many meetings are in your area, but I think WW seem to be having a bit of a promotion at the moment to get more coaches on board and to open more meetings. So even if there isn't an alternative meeting option available at the moment, it is probably worth checking back every so often to see if there are any new ones. You can go along to any meeting.

Personally for me, I need to support of the coach and other WW members, as well as the regular weigh in at the weekly meetings.

Take care of yourself, whatever you decide to do at this time. x

Thank you for such a supportive reply. I know my head is really not in the right place at the moment but I really want it to be! I have both the event in 6 weeks (closer to 5 really) and a holiday in the first week of December and I know I will feel miserable if I haven't lost weight. At the same time with everything else going on I'm finding it really hard to focus on eating healthily and sticking to plan.

This week is quite stressful and busy at work but I have next week off. My usual weigh in day is Saturday so I'm thinking about drawing a line and making a fresh start on Saturday and then I will have more time to try out different recipes and eat well while off work. I'm hoping then that a good first week might be the kickstart and motivation I need. I do like the idea of meetings but I just don't have the time right now so think I might have to do it online.

xx

Sounds like a plan. A week off to maybe get your head around the plan, planning meals, working out points etc. Hopefully it will kickstart you! So you have the motivation to lose a bit in the next 5 weeks and then you have the motivation to lose a bit more before December. As I have said before. One step at a time, one day at a time and one meal at a time. If something doesn't quite go right, look at what has gone well, learn from your experiences and maybe look at how to approach it differently another time. If you want to do this, believe in yourself. If I can do this after messing up time and time again, for a good many years, anyone can! It is a lifestyle change, so think about the things you enjoy and try to have some treats, in moderation, so you don't feel deprived. Definitely worth looking a some of the FB groups, even if it is just to get some different ideas and inspiration. Good luck! x