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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Why am I not losing more weight?

48 replies

WhatamIdoingwrong · 05/06/2010 18:46

Hi all,
I am hoping that someone can help me speed up my weight loss. I am 46 years old and I have yo yo dieted for the last 25 years.

Generally speaking I gain weight in winter and lose it each spring. BUT, this spring weight loss is so hard and slow. In the past weight loss has been purely through diet and it has always been successful, losing about 3lb per week.

This year I just can't shift the weight. I am cutting more and more calories (around 800 per day now) and I have even started to exercise! I alternate 30 mins cardio with 30 mins resistance work Monday to Friday and an hour of combined gym work Sat and Sun.

So Ladies, Is it my age, have I finally buggered up my metabolism so that I am destined to be a porker for ever or do you have any ideas that might help?????

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msboogie · 06/06/2010 14:44

I know what you mean about defying science!! I have defied the laws of thermodynamics myself on many occasions whatamidoingwrong

I don't know how long you can continue to maintain your weight while eating 800 calories a day but what has happened to me in the past is that I will start a diet, lose weight for 3 or 4 weeks - then stop losing - and cut the calories down to 1000 or 800, still lose no weight and after a couple of weeks of that I give up and start eating normally again. And the weight goes back on in a week or two.

Diet fail.

ruckyrunt · 06/06/2010 20:48

but this is famin mode - during famines the people still had to run around after there dc etc and this is why your body has stopped lossing weight as you have switched the switch over to this type of mode.

Start eating proper meals and snacks and keep running around and then you should start to balance out.

it will take time though the average diet is 6 weeks and the average time to put weight on is 104 weeks - try going the distance this time and look at 3 -4 years to get fit and into a better shape for your body

just in time for your fab fifty

WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 21:01

Oh crap ...It will take until I am 50 to lose the weight I had planned on losing by August? I don't think that I can get my head round that

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ruckyrunt · 06/06/2010 21:43

but think about it - would your rather get in great shape and eat a healthy diet and go tot he gym etc and take your time to get there - then stay there

or would you rather lose this weight with a fad diet and lose a stone by august and then by december be two stone heavier again?

I know which one I think you would really like but

HurleySatOnMe · 06/06/2010 21:48

It's obvious to me that you see food in emotional terms which is always rocky ground to be on. No food should inspire guilt, and while I understand wanting comforting food in winter, it is not healthy to put on a whole 2 stone every year. What you are describing is a very unhealthy diet. I think you probably know that you have a problem with food. Would you feel comfortable talking to your GP about it?

WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:03

You are quite right HSOM, but I have tried that route several times over the years. I have tried counselling with 3 different people (psychologists and counsellors), CBT and hypnotherapy! The only times that I have not really struggled with food were when I was pregnant and breast feeding.

RR I know that what you are saying makes sense but I don't believe that I can do it.

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WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:04

Oh and apologies for not fessing up about all this from the beginning.

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HurleySatOnMe · 06/06/2010 22:09

Then you are aware that there is an issue, which is half the battle. I do understand where you're coming from. But it really is worth finding a counsellor you click with. Speak to the eating disorders association (B-EAT I think they're now called?). You know that you need to break this cycle, and honestly, the thought of you existing on 800 calories a day and feeling guilty about what you do eat should be enough for your GP to refer you

WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:17

No I can't go through all that again. It is exhausting and it doesn't work for me. I have given it enough goes now. Never Again.

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HurleySatOnMe · 06/06/2010 22:20

Would you really rather live like this? You need to take back control of your eating.

Melody4 · 06/06/2010 22:22

Hi. I am currently trying to lose weight. I'm actually on Weight Watchers and doing it properly helps loads. I really am not a rep by the way! why not try going to a meeting? It is really only healthy eating, portion size and allows you treats, I have a Chinese most Saturdays and am still losing weight! One major thing that I find helps is fluid, fluid and more fluid! If I make sure that I have 8 drinks of water / water substitutes a day, it really helps, also soups as well as a normal lunch, lots of casseroles, jellies, etc. Hope that helps. Please please try it as the moral support helps loads!

WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:26

I think that control is the key word. I am not unhappy about eating this amount and exercising. I have taken pleasure in my ability to control my body in this way - it is a way of proving my strength IYSWIM. The trouble comes this year because it seems that no matter what I do I cannot control my body shape anymore. V Stressy.

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HurleySatOnMe · 06/06/2010 22:29

That is the very definition of an eating disorder. There's not much else I can say. Please book in with your GP tomorrow. Don't live with the illusion that you have to be 6 stone and bedridden to deserve or need help with this. You are treading a dangerous path.

WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:32

Thanks for your message Melody. I will try to drink more water.

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WhatamIdoingwrong · 06/06/2010 22:36

Thanks for your posts HSOM. I appreciate what you are saying.

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Showmeheaven · 08/06/2010 22:57

I have read your thread with interest. What you describe sounds just like me. Myself and a colleague in work started a health kick at the end of March. My colleague joined WeightWatchers (I joined and failed at WW dozens of times) so I opted to do my own thing. I am 44 and my colleague is 38. This was her first time on a diet. I am a serial dieter. She has been eating like a King and has lost 24 pounds since starting and looks amazing. I have only lost half that amount

Like you, I have issues with food, and eat for emotional reasons and have lost and gained many times over the years. I am currently on a low carb diet i.e. eating good protein & veg, no carbs or fruit. I have increased my exercise to try to increase my weight loss. I'm convinced my motabilism is completely wrecked from years of yo-yo dieting.

I have no answers for you with regards how speed up your weight loss as I'm struggling myself, however, I am now considering doing LighterLife as I know this will definately work for me (I lost 2 stone 3 years ago on this plan).

I can recommend a book to help with your emotional eating. Its call "Hungry, lessons learnt on the journey from fat to thin" by Allen Zadoff. Its an honest, funny account of an American man who used to weigh 350 pounds. This book has helped my overcome so many issues that I have with food (I use to weigh 18.5 stone, I'm now down to 13.5, with 3 stone to lose). Its my bible and I keep it beside my bed and flick through it when I need inspiration/advice. I now have the tools to keep the weight off permanently as a result of this book. You can get it from Amazon, or read more about it on Allen's webside (sorry I can't do the link thingy)

www.allenzadoff.com/Allen_Zadoff_author_website/hungry.html

Hope this helps and good luck!

Joby1970 · 09/06/2010 08:17

I have read that book too & it's good. Very inspiring.

emmanana · 09/06/2010 12:40

This helped me when the going got tough a few weeks ago. I have lost 3 stone, another 7 to go. Hang in there, and good luck xx

STALLS -- WHY THE SCALES CAN LIE
A biologist at Berkeley shared something very revealing on the low-carb BBS system about 4 years ago that helps us all through the erratic weight fluctuations you invariably encounter: Fat cells are resilient, stubborn little creatures that do not want to give up their actual cell volume. Over a period of weeks, maybe months of "proper dieting", each of your fat cells may have actually lost a good percentage of the actual fat contained in those cells. But the fat cells themselves, stubborn little guys, replace that lost fat with water to retain their size. That is, instead of shrinking to match the reduced amount of fat in the cell, they stay the same size! Result - you weigh the same, look the same, maybe even gained some scale weight, even though you have actually lost some serious fat.
The good news is that this water replacement is temporary. It's a defensive measure to keep your body from changing too rapidly. It allows the fat cell to counter the rapid change in cell composition, allowing for a slow, gradual reduction in cell size. The problem is, most people are frustrated with their apparent lack of success, assume they have lost nothing, and stop dieting.
However, if you give those fat cells some time, like 4-6 months, and ignore the scale weight fluctuations, your real weight/shape will slowly begin to show. The moral of the story - be patient! Your body is changing even if the number on the scale isn't.

PATTERNS OF WEIGHT LOSS
Common patterns of weight loss from tracking a lot of people who become assimilated into the lowcarb lifestyle (hehe...resistance is futile!) a pattern emerges.... the 2 week induction is pretty heady...weight lost just about every single day, enormous and unbelievable amounts of weight loss are reported. This is often followed by complaints that weight loss "stalls" or that the rate drops to only 1 pound per week.
Many people just don't know that fat-loss ...the actual goal when on a weight-reduction" diet, is rate-limited. In other words, the human body has factors that prevent more than a certain amount of fatty-acid release from storage...and even more factors that prevent those released fatty acids from being used up instead of stored back into the fat cells.
A priority of the human body is survival. Anything that threatens its survival results in the cascade of events to maintain the previous status quo. Water fluctuations are one way the body does this. OK...so you done good on Atkins' during induction...lost 10 pounds the first 2 weeks. Maybe 7 the first week and 3 the second. But, whoa!Weeks 3 and 4 there is NO loss! And weeks 5 and 6 is only 1/2 pound each!
So... what gives? Initially, the body jettisons the water attached to the glycogen stores that we diligently deplete to get into ketosis...this accounts for about 3-5 pounds of water. In addition, muscle stores of glycogen are not being replaced when used...which will account for the rest. All in all...MAYBE 1/2 pound of fat was metabolized during the first week... and MAYBE 1/2 pound of fat was metabolized the 2nd week. Of that 10 initial pounds, only 1 pound was fat and 9 pounds water... The body senses this lack and sirens start shrieking: Warning! Warning! Losing water... new thing...got to get back to the status quo! Brain tells body to produce and release that vasopressin antidiuretic hormone....more water is retained, and no weight loss noticed. Fat loss is still occuring, MAYBE even 2 pounds per week, because ketosis is firmly established and appetite supression is in effect...but water retention is hiding that continuing fat loss. The body is preventing dehydration with this mechanism, and that's a good thing.
From the perspective of the scale, it can be discouraging. Which is why the mantra: Water retention masks fat loss (repeated frequently to oneself ) is helpful. Water retention will mask ongoing fat-loss for as long as the body retains the water. We can combat this by drinking more water...but we aren't going to totally overcome this mechanism during the initial water-loss phase of the Atkins diet. By weeks 5 and 6, things start to get back in balance, and the scale will begin to reflect the true fat-loss...which, as mentioned before is rate-limited. Individuals vary, but max weight loss runs about 2 pounds per week...under extremely optimal conditions... or 1% of body weight (whichever is the lower number).

So don't use the scale as an excuse to undermine your progress. Even when the scale is in a stall, fat loss can be occuring.
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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 09/06/2010 17:18

Are you retaining water? Are your scales broken

I disagree that eat less and move more is "crap".

bunjies · 11/06/2010 16:20

WhatamIdoingwrong - do you think you could be metabolically resistant? Or perhaps your body thinks it's reached it's optimum weight, even though you don't agree! How much do you want to lose? I do think 800 cals is unsustainable. Perhaps try and cut out refined carbs for a couple of weeks and see what happens. And I endorse the water tip. At least 2l a day.

Showmeheaven - that book looks good. Can I ask where you bought it from?

Showmeheaven · 11/06/2010 20:04

I got the book in Borders a couple of years ago but you can get it from Amazon. My shelves are groaning with "diet" books so I nearly didn't buy it, but I'm so glad I did -it speaks to me like no other.

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