Help! Waant to lose this "tyre" without heading back to ED land!

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I have just got a handle on the current cycle of ED. Back up to normal weight and BMI. However, around my hips is "excess" that i HATE. I want it gone asap before it turns into an obsession! ANd it is excess compared to the rest of me. It adds a clothes size and makes me feel uncomfortable.

ANy ideas how to go about i so i don't over obsess?

If you are normal weight and BMI, the flesh on your bones is not excess, it's the tissue you need to be healthy.

well you coudl exercise rather than changing your eating habits BUT NOT MANICALLY

I was never bones - i just am not comfortable with this bit.

LOL @ caps Cyb !! ha ha! Bit worried about upping my exercise too much tbh.

I just realised that this is quite a pointless thread

sorry

oh gawd it sounds like you could tip back quite easily.

I think coldtits advice was the best.

Adult women are MEANT to have flesh on their bodies, our goals should not be to have bones poking through.

have you had help for your ED

mumof monsters, def not pointless but it sounds like we are not qualified to give you the help you might need with your self image

What support have you had for your ED? I have struggled with eating problems all my life and just got out of a bad period of it last year. If I am being honest there is no good way for me to loose weight, I have to not think about it. Now I have no scales and I don't go to the gym and I am still not ED free in my thinking. If you have just got on top of a bad cycle then I honestly don't think you should be thinking about weight loss at all, to risky.

Thanks for your honesty everyone.

My support for ED? erm ....

So I guess i have spotted my next "trip" before it arrived

Sounds like it but that is a good start! Easier to stop earlier. Could you talk to your gp? A therapist and/or a dietician might be helpful.

If your BMI is normal for a weight-restored ED patient ie. BMI between 20 and 25, then you should under no circumstances restrict your food as this can trigger a total relapse. If your weight is below a BMI of 20 or if you have any medical problems such as lack of periods then you'd need to gain weight and/or see your doctor. If you've never seen a doctor or therapist about your eating problems, now would be a good time to start.

Love your hips....

I went to my GP last year - supposed to have been referred to ED clinic but tbh i9 don't know how to not have ED behaviours. I have struggled with food for literally my entire life! My mum was telling me the other day that she fed me nothing but noodles for 2 whole years as i would touch nothing else!

Right now (as in today!) I feel stuck in the middle! MY ED is comfortable, it's safe, it's what i know and i like the numbers being lower. HOwever, i know that its not right and i think that i am a normal shape now even though i have this bit i don't like. But i don't want the numbers to go up anymore.

I hear what you are saying, it's not easy and I don't think there is an easy way to recover either. I wouldn't say I am totally recovered but I am a lot better than I was. I had to literaly force myself to do stuff even when it felt totally hellish to do so. I had a dietician who would give me little goals like to always eat breakfast no matter what had happened the day before or to get rid of my scales (well that was a big one actually but totally essential).

For ages I thought there was a middle ground where I could keep some of the behaviours - just enough to keep the weight down but that's a lot of crap. Behaviours lead to more behaviours. You need to stop thinking about numbers and weight and start thinking about health and wellbeing. Not easy which is why I would really suggest support. It's scary stuff but not impossible but you have to be horribly honest with yourself which can be really painful.