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Where the hell do i start? please help

15 replies

MilkNoSugarPlease · 07/02/2010 19:43

I really need to do this properly now, I've kidded myself I'm happy for far to long now.

Have no children

Im a size 26,19st probably, 5ft 6inches,weight is almost all on tummy and back, Im huge and desperate and unhappy,

But this is an insurmountable task.

everywhere i look i see people weighing what i do or LESS having gastric bypass etc...is this the only way i can lose weight?...its such alot to lose, i dont even no where to begin

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DLI · 07/02/2010 20:28

i think you need to look at it in stages, i want to lose, for example, 9st is a scary prospect and you probably think its not do able. I lost four stone and it took me a long time to do it BUT i looked at it as i wanted to lose 1/2 stone in a month's time, by summer i wanted to lose 1st. Break it down and it doesn't seem to be as daunting.

i lost weight with weight watchers. i bought everything i needed off ebay and didnt go to any of the classes. i used it as a basis rather than sticking to it religiously and one day a week i had a treat day.

making little changes, such as cutting out cheese, reducing food portions, filling my plate with salad, stopping nibbling between meals worked for me.

my dh did it with me to help me stick to it.

good luck,

MilkNoSugarPlease · 07/02/2010 22:18

Thank you

Have been told so many times that i should have surgery (gastric bypass etc) as thats the only way to do it once you get to a certain point

Dont believe this and i want need to do this on my own without surgery but god knows how!

I think im scared tbh! i just look and see one huge huge problem and i dont know how to begin...how the heck DO you begin?

Im very very scared that i've forever affected my health and loosing weight wont help.

Im honestly completly and utterly lost at where to start right now!

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 07/02/2010 22:18

Oh and
A)well done on your weight lose!

B) i have nothing against surgery is just not something thats right for me!

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EsmeWeatherwax · 07/02/2010 22:46

Of course surgery isn't the only option for you. It does seem insurmountable, and as someone with 8 stone to lose, I know this very well. I just joined Slimming world three weeks ago, (whichever club doesn't matter, just whatever works for you!) and here I am, 9lbs lighter than I was three weeks ago. I'm just trying to think, every pound lost is a step closer. It doesn't matter how long the overall process is, the goal is to just keep taking steps along the road, and every step forward is a bonus. With every pound lost, I get healthier, look better, and feel better about myself.

Every doet I have done in the past, I've felt the same as you, just desperate to lose it all now, and thinking how awful I look in the mirror, and how I won't look better until its all gone, but thats rubbish...it just takes so much pressure off you to just think well, if I've lost a pound, thats great. And next week will be another pound, and if its not, then the week after, and so on and so on..

So just what everyone else is saying basically, only a lot more rambly, but I'm really feeling like I've had a lightbulb moment with this stuff.

EsmeWeatherwax · 07/02/2010 22:48

lol...every diet, see, I can't even spell the word!

MilkNoSugarPlease · 07/02/2010 23:06

I'd love to join a slimming club but the hours i work means i couldnt get to a meeting unless on a weekend-. do you think the online one would work?

What you have said makes a huuge amount of snese...ive never really looked at it like that before!

Oh god im going to have to get on some scales arent i

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EsmeWeatherwax · 07/02/2010 23:15

I think the online ones work too, although the SW one is really expensive upfront, but its for three months membership, so might be more motivation there too!

Look at it this way. Its like ripping a plaster off getting on the scales for the first time. Two seconds, its over, and you'll never be that weight again! Its just a starting point, you gotta start somewhere!

Naetha · 08/02/2010 11:55

Have a look at the slimming world / weight watchers website to see how many classes are near where you live. Unless you live in absolutely the middle of nowhere, you'll have a choice of several classes a week. I live in semi-rural West Yorkshire, and there's 12 classes (7SW, 5WW) within 5 miles of where I live. Although there aren't any on a weekend, there are some on a morning, so it's not necessarily evenings.

You don't have to do the paid-for classes though, there's a great website called www.foodfocus.co.uk where you log all (and I mean ALL - no sneaky snacks!) your food and exercise every day, and based on your weight loss target (I'm aiming to lose 1lb a week) it will give you a calorie target. I've found it great though because it's made me aware of how many calories are in my favourite KFC meal (880) as opposed to a Wetherspoons large cooked breakfast (1550) for example. If anything, it's made me realise that I can eat chocolate and crisps, as long as it's in moderation, and as long as I make up for it somewhere else. Mainly by having smaller portions.

Smaller portions seem like much harder work at first - you just don't feel full afterwards etc, but after a week of cutting your portions by 2/3 or just cutting the protein/carbs/fat by 2/3 and making the rest up with veg you really get used to it.

It's the same with snacking - the more you snack, the more you want to snack, because it sends your blood sugar on a rollercoaster. After a couple of weeks of eating low GI foods (ones that release their nutrition slower, e.g. wholemeal bread compared to a baguette) I hardly snack at all, except for some fruit/yoghurt in the evening when I'm watching TV. And like I said, often with the calorie counting I have enough "free" calories left over at the end of the day so I can have a bar of chocolate or a small bowl of ice cream if I want. Obviously I know this will slow down my weight loss, but if overall it will make it more sustainable (and the dieting more bearable) then I'm happy to do that as long as I'm not putting weight on!

www.minimins.com/ This is a really good weight loss support forum - you'll find loads of good advice and product reviews and a really good support structure.

The main thing is to try and stay motivated - even if you do put on a couple of pounds one week. It's a marathon, not a sprint and it's so much easier to stick with it if you've got something to aim for. Set yourself small, realistic goals (e.g. lose half a stone by the end of the month). Set yourself tangible goals (I have a pair of really nice size 14 jeans waiting in my wardrobe!). If you can, try and find a weight loss buddy - someone who's looking to lose weight as well, and you can keep eachother going when you have a tough day.

This may seem a little extreme as well, but how about signing up for Race for Life? It may sound a little extreme if you're just starting out, but you are allowed to walk it, and with 5 months to prepare, you shouldn't have too much trouble at all.

Also, have you tried going to your GP about your weight? THey can prescribe you Orlistat which prevents your body absorbing fat. THe down side of this, is that it comes out in your poo which I've heard can be a bit nasty, but it's avoidable by having a low fat diet in the first place. They can also prescribe Reductil which is an appetite suppresant, and might help you stay in control if snacking is your bug bear.

Sorry if I've just done a brain dump, but I'm another one that's had a weight loss epiphany! I've lost almost a stone in a month from watching what I eat, but still enjoying a takeaway once a week and chocolate now and again.

Losing weight is hard work, but it is very possible, you just need a lot of will power and self restraint, a fair amount of motivation, and you need to learn that feeling hungry isn't a bad thing! I now relish feeling hungry, because I KNOW my body is burning fat from my tummy and bum.

Best of luck, and I really hope you're able to stick with it

Ivykaty44 · 08/02/2010 14:26

try this

Chil1234 · 09/02/2010 13:23

I think online groups are an excellent resource. I use a free one called www.caloriecount.com to help work out the calories in recipes, for example. Another good one (although there is a fee) is the Tesco Diets site. Especially good if you have no idea where to start.

Other than that I'd suggest a few simple things to get going that don't involve calorie-counting or anything else complicated.

  • Keep an honest food diary for several weeks (everything you eat and drink) and use that to judge where you could make improvements. If you don't eat breakfast every day, for example, include a breakfast. Just the act of writing down what you eat, being more conscious of it, means you will eat a little less... and that's all you need.
  • Deliberately aim to get 5-a-day fruit and vegetables and fit other foods in around those. Vegetables and fruit are filling, nutritious but low in calories... so your calorie intake goes down, you still feel full & you feel healthier and more optimistic because of the better nutrition
  • Get moving... a good tip is to get a cheap pedometer and aim to get 10,000 steps a day. A walk after meals, parking further from your destination, getting of the bus a stop early... all helps more than you think.
  • Include the whole family in everything you do. Don't be 'mum on a diet' or doing exercise whilst everyone else tucks into pizza and chips in front of the telly Set the example to the family and that way everyone improves their eating & exercise habits together.

Good luck

Chil1234 · 09/02/2010 13:26

Sorry.... as you're not a mum the last part should have read "Don't be 'the one on the diet' etc..." If you live alone, even better, you've only your own needs to cater for.

MilkNoSugarPlease · 10/02/2010 22:05

Thank you for your replies!

chil fab idea about food diary, although it may end up being looong ...I buy those prepackeged fruit salads recently...pricey but i know if i eat one that 2 of my 5-a-day sorted!
Dont have kids but am a full time nanny so eat most meals at work...setting an example to them is a good idea
Is stupid because i have no time for the gym or organised exercise but i could do loads more walking with the baby in the buggy!

I'm not massively unfit...i can run around a park for half an hour without dying but i know i could be waay more fitter...and i would LOVE to see a small space and not think "shit can i fit through?"!

I'm feeling more positive that i can do this now still scared about the health issues i may have caused myself but now im thinking "ill cross that bridge when i come to it" and at least im trying to do something about it!

Thank you all!!

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 13/02/2010 12:04

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mummyloveslucy · 13/02/2010 19:43

I think a good way to start, is by getting rid of all the unhealthy things in the house. Then buy only healthy foods. Then the temptation won't be there.
I'd try to eat far more fruit and vedge, and drink a lot of water. That way, you'll fill yourself up with good things and won't crave the unhealthy things so much.
I'd try weight watchers or simmilar, as you'll have support, make new friends etc.
The hardest part is always getting started on a diet. (Best not to think of it as a diet, more a healthy eating plan).
Once you have started and got used to it, you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. I know I felt that way.
Also keep positive about your apperance, I know it's hard but it really helps.

babyball · 15/02/2010 11:38

I am currently just under 16 and a half stone and only 5 ft 2 inches (extremely obese). I was 17 stone after the birth of my son in September. I went to the doctors to ask for help losing weight as I had heard that there was some help paying for gym memberships. She referred me to Slimming World which is working well for me. I lost 2 pounds in the first week. This is my second week and I am not feeling hungry (just missing bread ). I got 12 weeks free and can take my son there. It's an hour walk to the class so I lug my son and the buggy up the hill! The people are really lovely there, and I spoke to someone who had lost 10 stone .
I was also referred to the YMCA gym. I go twice a week and as I'm on a referral scheme, I get use of the facilities and the classes for 1 pound a time. The way I lost the half stone was doing Wii Fit, walking, cutting out rubbish and attempting to manage my bread addiction. I had a EMCS with my son and had trouble breastfeeding so as a result I ate like an idiot after the birth due to feeling depressed, ill, in pain and useless. I was also too scared to exercise due to my scar not healing properly. Now I can exercise it has made the world of difference to my general well-being and attitude. You need to start slowly though and don't try to jog a mile on your first day if you haven't exercised for some time. Although I am obese and I have a hell of a lot to lose, I feel that I will shift the weight and get myself healthier for my son. I strongly recommend speaking to the doctor, and don't listen to negative skinny lurkers on these threads who tell you that it's so simple, you just eat less and do more. Yes, that is true, but it is getting into the right frame of mind that is harder. Good luck. You can do it! Keep us updated xx

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