The 'Are you pregnant ' comments... bitchy or not..?

[Luxmum]

I started back to work and severely cut back on breastfeeding my DS. I also FINALLY learnt to drive, so dont walk everywhere pushing a fat baby and a ladened buggy. So.. I have put on a dress size. And today someoen at work came up to me and asked me if I was pregnant. I nearly cried. Am I overreacting, or did she mean no harm, because I'd effing NEVER ask that to someone, it's effing rude if you ask me, because what you are basically saying is, are you fat. Aparently (because she was kind enough to clarify) my belly is bigger. I am NOT pregnant. But clearly fat enough. I hate her. And me. Most of all I hate me.

I am overweight and my posture is bad and I look pregnant. Sometimes when I look in the mirror, I cannot believe that I am not actually pregnant myself. And I am always conscious when people size me up trying to work out: is she or isnt she? And the worst is if someone asks or offers you a seat.

So basically what I am saying is that I feel your pain, Luxmum. But I am sure she didnt mean to be bitchy. And she is probably much more embarrassed than you.

Sorry this happened to you

Don't hate yourself. You're only 'fat' because you have a child which is the most natrual form.

Before becoming pregnant i was extremely thin, i was battling my demons of Anorexia and so when i became pregnant nobody noticed. They thought i was recovering.

But when the baby bump really did kick in and people realised that i wasn't fattening up just pregnant i cried every night and willed myself to die. I had tried to deny being pregnant... not seeing a period was pretty normal for me. I didn't want to be fat and i certainly didn't want to be pregnant whilst i was still at school. It was awful when people saw me in the corridor, the teachers would open doors knowing i was fragile fat pregnant girl.

And then after having my girl in August i returned to school to sit my GCSE year at school. It was a school joke... 'hey that's the girl who starved, you've put on some weight on or is it another baby bump?'

Just never give in to thinking your fat. You'll never be the same again.

Luxman- I know it's hard, but just try and ignore it. My mil said the same to me, just three months after I'd given birth to dd2, and it really hurt at the time, but now I look back and shrug it off as a very thoughtless comment.

And well done for driving that's more then what I can do!