Friends criticising my weight loss and calling me too skinny now

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I’ve just come back from a get together with 2 of my “friends” and I’ve never wanted to cry so much in my life. I’m now 12st size 14 clothing I’m still classed as over weight but started at 18+st and I still have 2st to go but today from one of my friend I got absolutely piled on about I’m “too skinny” “I don’t eat” “you should stop” this same friend that has said she’s the “fat friend now” I never realised I was the OG I never saw that and that’s how she saw me it’s devastating.
I sat there defending myself and they didn’t believe me that I fucking eat that patronising head nod like I’m lying also said I’m always at the gym literally max 3 days a week (didn’t go at all last week) 😅😂 and again with that fucking nod and she would not give in like she was beating me down and shitting on everything I’ve done the last year. I found myself taking photos of my meals as proof next time I see her (if I ever do) and thought wtf am I doing so I’m here to rant……why are people so shitty

Most people are not shitty. These are not your friends.

They're not your friends. They sound jealous. Wide berth and all that. You're doing great.

Firstly..well done on a fabulous result! These are not your friends. Friends should be happy and supportive of our achievements. Sounds like a lot of jealousy going on there.

Don't see these people again, they are very unpleasant and not your friends. Don't try and prove anything to anyone.

You've answered your own question, in that the friend who started on about your weight clearly has her own issues around weight that triggered her response. In other words, it was all about her and her insecurities, not really about you.

Well done on your weight loss.

Echoing other posters, these are not your friends... sometimes people make these comments from a genuine (but misguided) place of concern as it will likely look quite drastic to them, but I wouldn't think that's the case given the 'fat friend' comment.

I'm sorry they were unkind. How tall are you and how long has it taken you to lose 6 stones? They could be finding it hard to adjust to your new look because rapid weight loss can be a shock.

Wow. What bastards. So they just liked you being bigger than them.

What she meant is 'you're too skinny for me because I liked you being fatter than me'.

Well done. How did you do it?

Fantastic weight loss. Congratulations on that, and on going to the gym to stay fit and healthy.

I think a lot of people under 40 or so genuinely see size 14 as a healthy weight, because increasingly it is the norm to be a bit (or a lot) overweight. So I wonder if it could be simple ignorance, rather than malice, that has prompted their remarks?

I’m not sure why she went to hard today I mean she’s been making remarks for a while now and she’s put on a lot of weight herself. I would say tho she’s a very self centred and can’t read a room to save her life so it is possible she’s just not thinking about my feelings and how rude she can come across

I’m 5’6 I’m coming up to the year mark so it is fast I did lose a lot at the start because I was so big but now it’s slowing down ive seen her every few weeks recently and I do get some of the comments as a good friend would be worried but it was the pile on and not believing me I felt like a child and started to get upset but didnt stop her. She also made comments on how I eat is well and basically says she’s been watching me 😅 I’m a picker and she took one day where I only ate half a sandwich and a salad as im clearly not eating

You are 100% fine with your weight loss, and as you know still have some excess weight if you so wanted to lose more.

I’ve lost 6 stone over the last couple of years too, there were some comments from people - like don’t lose any more from your face… (yeah cos that’s how weight loss works 😂)

for me it was just passing comments, not a pile on like your lot.

In your place I’d tell them to zip it. They have no right to comment on your weight.

im sure they’d come back with “oh but we’re only speaking up cos we’re worried about you”

thats when you ask them why don’t they comment when you were fat? That’s way more unhealthy than being a size 14…

ultimately, tell them to STFU and stick to concerning themselves with their own health, you’re doing just fine TUVM.

"Im the fat friend now"

Says it right there.. jealous and not your real friends.. real friends would be happy for you and not with the shitty comments..

Throw more in the mix if you see them again and say your going up a dose to lose even more..

Sorry wrong thread

You so called friend is jealous of your new found willpower. You are empowered to succeed. But the toughest stage is yet to come. She wants you to fail. She is not your real friend. Carry on with your new regime . Make some new friends at the gym. Take up running. Running clubs have beginners couch to 5k programmes and you will.certainly meet people you can be friends with . I started trail running at the age of 64 and have made several new friends. We sometime go for a coffee afterwards. No cake, no judgement.

I get similar remarks from some people. I've lost 7.5 stone over the last couple of years and still have 2.5 stone to go,but I get comments that 'You've lost enough'. Yet when I saw an orthopaedic consultant a couple of months ago regarding the severe osteoarthritis in my hip, practically the first thing he said to me was 'Have you tried losing some weight?'. Pissed me off a bit but then again he wasn't to know that I'd already lost 7.5 stone.

They’re jealous op, plain and simple. Get some better friends who celebrate with you, rather than try to tear you down.

I’m 4lb off no longer being overweight, nearly 4 stone off since last May. Keep at it and enjoy your hard work, feels amazing doesn’t it 🥰🥰🥰