I’ve been single for almost a year now. My husband left me last year for another woman, and to be honest, it’s been a really awful year. But over the last couple of months, I’ve started to feel more and more like my old self again.
Over the past year, I’ve also lost nearly 11 stone. I’m currently 11 stone, and I feel great. When I’m dressed, I think I look great too.
So here’s the problem. I’ve met someone and we’ve started dating. He goes to the gym and has a great body. My body, on the other hand, feels like a mess to me.
I’ve had two children, I’m covered in stretch marks, and after such significant weight loss my stomach sags and hangs quite low. My breasts are very saggy, have lost all volume, and they look quite wrinkled, I’m only 38. My thighs are the same, saggy and unpleasant to look at. I do plan to have surgery: a breast augmentation and skin removal on my stomach and thighs.
So my question is this: do I stop seeing this man because I feel so ashamed of my body? I know that if I wait until I’ve had the surgery, I might not be able to date for another year to eighteen months, until my divorce settlement comes through and I can afford it.