Fed up of being FAT

[Sellingsunsets]

I'm very overweight. I've always had issues with my weight and with food my whole life, I've been up and down over the years but now I've ballonned to 287lbs. I'm embarrassed and ashamed and I hate my self. Stood looking in the mirror and I look disgusting. My belly is hanging down right touching the top of my thighs and my foof. I have to lift it up to clean underneath it, can't even see my c section scar. I've got back rolls and over hang. Love handles hanging over. I've tried every diet under the sun over the years, I cannot afford weight loss jabs and I have medical conditions which means they won't prescribe to me anyway. I'm so embarrassed and scared that I'll end up getting a bigger apron belly until it's at my knees! Or I'll just die early cos I'm fat. Not a pity post, I don't really know what I'm wanting from this. I'm starting a fresh because I really dont want to stare at this oversized body and feely big belly hanging down. So uncomfortable. Had anyone lost a huge amount of weight and managed to correct and apron belly?? I'm so upset and ashamed and embarrassed. I'm only 33 and my stomach and body is just absolutely disgusting

Hello
Just wanted to say I'm in a similar position and also fed up. I've started making an effort and going to the gym a bit and going on long walks as well as watching what I eat. I feel better having made some small changes but I know it's a long road ahead. I have a wedding to attend in October 2026 so that's my motivation and deadline to achieve some weight loss.
Please don't feel down about it just start making some changes bit by bit. You'll get there!

Honestly I would get some help from ozempic or similar theres no need to suffer these days. Get some advice from a pharmacist or practice nurse ?

I cannot take the jabs due to my medical history and I also cannot afford them either

I feel the same OP. I’ve got a family funeral to attend this week and I’m so ashamed of how I look.
Im much older than you though so you still have time to turn things around.
Have you tried speaking to your GP to see if there is any other help you can be given if you can’t take the WLI?
Best of luck x

Intermittent fasting + home workouts on YouTube
The fasting reduces cravings dramatically.

I second IF it's hard at first, but becomes so much easier and you won't want food when you're fasting, try reading up on it to help.

Sean Casey might get worth a follow on social media, alongside any advice from your GP. Good luck!

If you can’t afford jabs, then do meal replacement like I did, it took all the thought out of it. I went from 20 stone to 11 stone in 9 months and then just ate healthily, kept the weight off for over 6 years now

Start small. Look at your calories and what you should be eating to lose a 1lb a week then focus on just today, then just tomorrow and then soon just that week and see where you are:
ive lost 3 stone this year using Nutracheck, happy scale and work outs from YouTube. All sustainable and manageable and at a pace that fits with my life.
the hardest bit is starting - goodluck!

oh and join us on some of the chats, we’re really friendly, all at different places and all doing different things. But these strangers on here have motivated me every day

What @socks1107 says.

Totally agree.

It's very difficult to establish a routine first but thereafter very easy to adhere to and really does help with food noise. I did for two years and helped me manage my weight for first time ever at age 48.

Unfortunately I have developed a health condition recently and IT fasting isn’t compatible with my recovery plan. However, I’d be back on it like a shot if I could - really simplifies an otherwise seemingly impossible task 🤞

Weight loss jabs are a game changer.

They’re costing me around £30 a week but I easily save that and more by no longer snacking or drinking and eating smaller portions. I used to demolish bags of crisps and chocolate but haven’t touched them in months as no interest in them. It really is life changing!

I did OP.

I lost 8 stone on keto and it didn’t cost me a penny beyond normal food costs.

It does the same thing as the injections without the eye watering cost and risky side effects.

Ive kept the weight off and got a tummy tuck and back lift. My stomach is completely flat now.

Im a carb addict so keto is the only way I can stay slim. I eat meat, veg, eggs and dairy and I’m healthier now than I was at 25.

As others have said, intermittent fasting has been a game changer for me. Once I start eating I can keep going, if I delay it’s much easier. Worth looking into and also thinking about the foods you’re eating, if they are upf they are designed to get you to eat as much as possible. I’d recommend Prof Chris van Tullekens book and the fast 800, completely changed my approach and my taste buds.

Definitely high protein low carb is an easy change, drink plenty of water too. I was prediabetic and had high BP. Blood test this week normal HBA1C. Track your food on myfitnesspal app which is free and eat in a deficit and your weight will drop off you.

Can I ask what contraindications you have for the jabs? I only ask because I was told there’s only a couple which rule it out completely and they tend to be quite rare. I also know some people are refused when actually Eli Lily don’t have them listed as a contraindication.

Team RH all the way , I lost five stone and have never looked back

I think a history of eating disorders mean that the jabs are not appropriate?

Sorry I didn’t read that in the OP. It’s weird because I guess obesity itself is a bit of an ED isn’t it? Though not in the traditional sense of anorexia/bulimia I guess.

I don’t think the OP said she had ED but I was just mentioning that would likely be a contraindication for the jabs. My psychiatrist said they were not suitable for me because of my history of EDs even though I have just had BED for most of my life with anorexia as a teenager.

I think you need to stop thinking about how look and how much you want to lose and try to focus on what makes you feel better. Don't try any life changing things because its too hard and any negative feelings or fear of failure will make you want to eat more. A brisk 15 min walk every day would help a lot for your MH. Replace one thing only with a healthier version or cut out one snack. See how you feel after a few weeks. Then cut out another thing and increase your walks by 5 mins. Baby baby steps and don't think about the next goalpost until you are ready. Short easy achievable goals.

Atomic Habits by James Clear is really helpful to reset your mind.

It's easy give advice isn't it!! I need to start doing as I say