Weightloss advice?

[charlielou90]

Hey all,

I really need some advice; I’m currently 21 stone 9 pounds, I’ve been trying to lose weight for 3 months, I have big boobs too which I hate 40LL, I can’t afford a breast reduction, I want to lose weight but nothing is helping! I’ve been to my GP, had my thyroids checked and everything is normal, I do around 6/7 thousands steps a day, “on a treadmill” I also have a 6 month old so limited to exercise I do as much as I can when baby is asleep or settled. I’ve not lost no weight since trying ! I’ve been eating healthy, not drinking fizzy drinks; not snacking junk foods, why am I not losing weight?? I can’t afford them weight loss jabs either.. any advice??? I would like to lose at least 3/4 stone and shrink my boobs! Please help x

This does sound odd given that you appear to be eating not a lot. I would up protein and weigh and track everything you eat. Use my fitness pal and log everything. Do this for 4 weeks. Eggs for breakfast not crumpets. Snack on lower sugar items - carrot, cucumber and peppers cut up.

You don’t say how long you’ve been eating less, you need to be very consistent over a period of time. Are you sedentary when not on the treadmill? 6-7K steps a day isn’t a lot especially if you do it in one go then sit for the rest of the day, it’s much better to be up and moving throughout the day with a decent 30 mins of additional exercise.

This journey always starts with being honest with yourself. It’s not possible not to eat and put on weight at the same time, you would solve the world hunger problem otherwise OP.

You don’t have to list what you eat for strangers online, but being honest with yourself is important, otherwise you are sabotaging your own efforts from the start - it’s no wonder your GP won’t help you - if you tell them that you eat next to nothing and gain weight from thin air, there’s very little the modern medicine can do.

I also have a baby (8 month old) and although I weigh 50 kilos I would starve if I ate what you listed, I eat three decent meals every day and 1-2 snacks.

Try walking outside daily, it’s good for you, great for your little one and great for your mental health. If you feel good you have one reason less to cheer yourself up with food.
As for the food, you don’t need to overthink this, aim to fill half of your plate with vegetables (green, red, yellow) and only then add the rest. Seasonal vegetables are cheap. The season is not overly exciting at the moment but there’s kale, cabbage, leek, beetroot, brussel sprouts, carrots, cauliflower and lots of inexpensive frozen vegetables. I used to post photos of my meals on one of the long running threads here, feel free to get some inspiration - I eat tons of vegetables and my diet helps me to stay sane with my little one who wakes up every hour during the night 🫩

A couple of things:

Yes, people do have different metabolism and some can eat more than others, even when they are the same weight and muscle mass. It is possible for 2 people to eat the same and one would be gaining weight. I am one of those people, probably messed my metabolism up with stupid diets when I was younger, so indeed I can't eat like 'normal people' if I don't want to gain weight. But it is what it is.

However, it is still not possible that you weigh 21 stone on a lettuce leaf and crumpet. More likely it's the case like in the Secret Eaters trash tv, where people genuinely believed they barely ate, never had breakfast, super healthy etc etc - but turned out consuming thousands of calories in excess. First, you need to track every bite. Every single one. And no estimating portions by eye, people significantly underestimate their portion sizes. Weigh it out. And you need to add everything, don't forget that knob of butter and spoonful of mayo. There are also varios AI apps that can help you.

I would caution against relaxing and just eating healthy foods though. Very easy to gain weight from eating super healthy foods only, if the portions are too big. Speaking from experience.

If you can't get WLI, maybe consider low carb diets?

You are either not being honest with yourself and everything you eat (many of us have been there!) or you have a medical condition that needs investigating.

Calculate your TDEE and work out a decent calorie deficit, at 21st you can easily do a 750 calorie deficit a day which could be a 1.5lbs a week loss.

Get yourself an app such as My Fitness Pal and measure and track every single thing that passes your lips for at least a month (to take into account hormone cycles too). Measure and log all drinks, oils used in cooking/dressings etc.

Start changing your diet to stop the reliance on carbs and UPF bars, switching to whole foods with plenty of protein. Aim for protein at every meal including breakfast. If you are vegetarian/vegan (I can see no meat in your example day) you need to really look at ways to get protein through whole foods. ChatGPT is great for typing in things like give me a 7 day menu with 1400 calories a day and 100g protein with no UPF.

If you eat well, track accurately for a month, are within your calorie deficit and still don't lose anything take the evidence to your Dr.

A somber thought for you - you will be/soon will be weaning your baby. Don't let them fall into the same trap we all have with fucked up bodies and metabolisms caused by the UPF food industry. Be aware of how they aggressively market their addictive shite as healthy when it is anything but. Watch the BBC program Irresistible: Why We Can't Stop Eating and get angry, refuse to let them make you or your baby ill with obesity. Feed your baby whole unprocessed food from the start.

@ResusciAnniehow do you think WLI work? Mainly by reducing what people eat!
OP a weight loss therapist put it in an interesting way. If you were dropped off in the woods with no food and picked up a month later, do you think you’d be the same weight? Of course not.
Calorie counting and eating in a deficit is the ONLY way to lose weight, and if you are not losing weight you are not eating in a deficit (any steroid type drugs etc excepted, but you don’t say you are on any).
You must weigh/measure every morsel you put in your mouth. The milk in your tea, the oil in the pan you cook with, the dressing in your salad… and yes the vegetables in your salad! EVERYTHING. Figure out your TDEE, count yourself as sedentary, and take off 500 calories. That’s your daily allowance. Use an app like My Fitness Pal to log calories (do not add calories back from exercise- it is notorious for over estimating calories burned).
I have lost 19kg since Sept 1 by doing this, and I’m in my 60s.

Op at nearly 22 stone you are eating a lot more than you have said here. I can say that as this was my weight a little over 18 months ago. I've lost over 100 lbs using WLI to help control my appetite.

I think that you need to really look at what you are eating as others have said.

🙄🙄 how arrogant to assume that just because that was the case for you, it’s the same for everyone else.

NHS criteria in England are bmi over 40 and 4 co-morbidities out of a list of 5, similar elsewhere in the UK.

Where did I say that’s not how WLI work?! The only way I’m losing weight currently is by eating less due to WLI. Eating less without WLI didn’t cut the mustard. My inflammation and autoimmune symptoms reduced when I started WLI way before I ever lost any weight. But you do you and I’ll do me.

It is highly, highly likely that OP is still consuming too many calories. I gave her my experience. How is that arrogance??

Edited due to typo.