Critical mother

[Puddingwombles]

Does anyone else have experience of a mother who constantly criticises/comments on your weight? Admittedly I was heavier than I’ve ever been this summer and have been losing weight by dieting/exercising. Today she made the comment “Oh you’re a little less fat now” and proceeded to laugh. She has always commented on figure- even when I was a child- be it telling me I’m too thin or have put on weight. Whenever(and I mean almost every time) I’ve told her it’s rude to comment on my weight, she just laughs and says it’s her way of being kind! How do I make her stop?!

I've had experience of this from an aunt and now refuse to visit her. It's downright rude! Well done on your weight loss! That's amazing. Be proud of yourself and ignore your mothers remarks.
With regard to getting her to stop I'm not sure what you can do beyond telling her straight that you find it hurtful and if it continues you may not visit her as much. You don't have to be around someone who makes you feel bad.

Not my mother so much (only occasionally), but the rest of my family, since childhood (I was quite big back then already).

The last memory I have of my great-aunt before she passed is her grabbing my cheeks and telling me how fat I was.
My aunt made nasty comments when I saw her earlier this year.
My grandmother insulted me with nasty comments about my weight as well.

All of them also regularly comment on other people’s weight - my aunt is obese herself and has been pretty much since her 20s but seems to feel she has the right to comment on everyone. My grandmother has just a couple of days ago told me how my brother’s DP has a “big belly”.

Having had weight issues from early on (before what I ate was under my control), it always felt like weight is one of the most important things defining me as a person.

I have lost just over 30kg so far this year now and will be back home for Christmas. I am dreading it, as no doubt, there will be comments again - I actually didn’t see my family for eight years at one point.

No suggestions on how to change them, but I sympathise.