Anyone else a slow loser?

[thenewaveragebear1983]

That’s me. I’m a very slow loser. I try, but it’s incredibly demotivating sometimes.

is it age? Perimenopause/ HRT? I exercise, I cook, I do all the right things. I’m on a few chat groups etc and everyone else seems to be able to eat more and still lose more. I don’t want a pity party, but just wondered if anyone else was experiencing the same and fancied a chat threat for a bit of accountability and to celebrate our (very tiny) wins! I find it difficult to lose 1lb a week consistently, and I have a stone to lose. I’d love to think I could lose that by Christmas but it seems unrealistic for me. I don’t qualify for WLI.

I have started today with my vitamins (I have low ferritin and b12 and really suffering with the side effects of those at the moment)
I had a couple of coffees (black) and then took the dog out. I’ve made soup with veg and lentils and I also had some pork mince that needed used so I have made some meatballs and some little egg muffins with seasoned pork and egg. I probably won’t have anything else until dinner, we are having a roast today. I’m going to prep some extra portions for the week ahead.

i gave up gluten about 5 weeks ago and feel a lot better for it, but I am also struggling when I eat gluten free subs (oats and rice especially) so I’m going totally grain free for the next 2 weeks.

I’ll join you. It’s taken me 3 years to lose a stone eating 1000 calories a day. I’ll lose a few pounds over months, then one holiday, weekend away or one decadent birthday/christmas meal and I’m lbs heavier again. It’s really disheartening.

But as my friend pointed out “If you weren’t constantly on a diet you’d just keep putting on weight every time you went away, and you’d weigh 20 stone by now!”

I’m just back from holiday. I went to SW yesterday and I’d put on 7lb! I didn’t even overeat and I barely drank while we were away. But I’m gluten free so there isn’t much choice for healthy eating when eating out, I just have to eat whatever the healthiest gluten free option is. I’ve still got two stone to lose, so not big enough for WLIs.

I thoroughly bored of it now!

Should add, I also don’t bother with gluten free substitutes. They’re always crap and £££. I used to eat a lot of eggs to fill up, but my cholesterol is high for the first time ever. I think the key is definitely to prepare veg-based and low-fat high-protein snacks that you can just grab if you’re hungry. I try and plan everything I eat now.

@R0ckandHardPlacei agree about the GF subs, the choice is dire and they aren’t even that nice (and they are shockingly expensive!)

You have done well to stick to 1000 a day for so long. I was very strict for the first half of the year and painstakingly lost around 10lbs, on my birthday in July I was the lowest I’d been in ages (was under 11 stone which was a huge milestone for me) then over the summer I regained it all and am
now back to painfully slow losses.

I find balancing the calorie goals really hard as well, I try not to include my exercise calories and I do a sedentary job. My tdee is 1600 so should I be aiming for 1100 ish? But if I do that I really struggle to run and do my workouts, so I am constantly in this state of flux 🤷‍♀️

It’s really tough isn’t it. I can’t exercise because I’m disabled but back when I could I would be starving hungry after I’d exercised and eat even more!

From your post you seem very food focused. I understand that. When I cook picking and tasting adds invisible calories. Spending long periods of time in the kitchen prepping food probably stimulates your appetite.

I’ve lost 2 st inn10 months on 1400-1500 calories a day. No exercise apart from everyday activities. But I have changed my relationship with food. I don’t obsess over what we are eating on a daily basis, but shop with a menu in mind and then wing it from day to day. What did help, initially was using a food prep delivery service. I could choose meals for 3 days that were cooked from scratch but the calorie content was taken care of. I wasn’t constantly thinking about food and not in the kitchen picking while preparing a meal.

We no longer use the meal plans and I have reset my food relationship. I have no idea what we will eat this evening. I e just eaten brunch, and it leaves me with about 1000cals for this evening.

We often develop a behaviour pattern with food according to a set meal timetable rather than eating when we are hungry. DH & I have fallen into a pattern of two meals a day. DH will have a snack mid afternoon ( he has never had a weight problem) which means he’s usually hungry around the same time I get hungry.

I don’t snack but if I haven’t had my full calorie allowance, after my evening meal, I may have something as a pudding.

None of us have a particularly sweet tooth so a packet of biscuits wil last months in our house. I occasionally treat DH and I to a cake if I’m food shopping but again they may sit in the fridge or cupboard for a while.

DH likes a bit of chocolate and is a crisp adduct. To stop me indulging I buy stuff I don’t like so I’m not tempted to pick.

I love baking but again it tends to sit in the cupboard for weeks unless DS is home from uni but he took a batch of brownies and a birthday cake back to uni and they were a hit with his flat mates. He came home to play rugby yesterday with a list of requests. So I have a new outlet for my baking addiction. I used to bake for work ( I was the boss so it kept the staff sweet) but I only work one day a week so don’t bake as much for them.

I think that I have accepted that as we age we need less food. It does take a while to adjust. I still have another stone to lose but losing about 2-3 lbs a month is fine for me.

@Crwysmami think 2-3lbs a month is not slow weight loss, I’d be chuffed with that.

Maintain for me this week. 11st5.5

I’ve loosely planned the week ahead, booked my gym classes and planned my running and rest days. I need to do a shopping order at some point but I have enough in for today and I want to use up some bits first.

its my day off today and I am going for a run, then meeting my friend for lunch. I’ve already checked the menu and I’m going to have a chicken, bacon and avocado salad 😋

I think it gets more difficult the closer to target you get. I lost 7st in a year and a half and I've spent the following year and a half trying to lose the last stone!
I just keep going up and down by half a stone, it's very frustrating.

@henlake7i agree, and also the ‘set point’ theory really rings true for me. I seem to have a weight which my body would like to be, and I will keep getting drawn to that point, especially if I lose a bit of weight, I will then have 2 weeks where I just cannot stop eating and I end up back where I started.

I’ve had an ok day today except I didn’t stick to my calorie goals , I went about 150 cals over. I did run (almost) 10km though, and walked the dog. I went for lunch with my friend and had the lightest gluten free option on the menu, a chicken and bacon salad, but it was still 550 calories! Despite that though, I feel quite positive today and I have planned my food for tomorrow so should be on track.

Hopefully you manage to have a good day @thenewaveragebear1983
I think alot of my problem is that I have relaxed too much as I've gotten closer to target. I was Def stricter when I was properly overweight but little treats seem to keep sneaking in now!

I didn’t have a great day today, I’m in a new job and I’m finding it really difficult and I just got myself all stressed out. I went for a walk at lunchtime and stupidly bought some chocolate. It wasn’t even nice, I can’t remember the last time I ate cadburys chocolate but this was just a greasy lump, it didn’t even melt in my mouth. Horrible. I still ate it though 🙄 so I ended up over my cals today- again. I’m so tired I am going to go to bed when ds goes at 8.30.

Good morning slow losers, how has the week been? I’ve had an up and down week to be honest. I’m trying to stick to 1500 calories a day, but I haven’t quite managed it every day. I went to bootcamp on Wednesday and for a run, and I want to do a longer run at some point this weekend. My meals are planned out, and I’m not drinking this weekend although I must admit I had a tricky week and last night I was tempted by a glass of wine. I resisted though because I know it makes me feel dreadful the next day.

anyway, I weighed this morning and I’m up 1lb 🤦‍♀️

I did my shopping order yesterday and I have some really nice things in for a bit of variety this week. I am going to batch cook some meals for my freezer as I have run everything down - I am finding now I am gluten free that there isn’t always anything for me to eat when I’m hungry.

anyway. Looking ahead to the weekend, I’m keeping busy with jobs, probably a trip to the tip and to b&q and other jobs. Shepherds pie tonight with lots of veg 😋