15 and a half stone and 5’2

[sobloodyfat]

I can’t possibly afford mounjaro.

I am so fucking fat! I’m vast, unattractive, husband is lovely but I’m pretty sure I’m not exactly sexy. I don’t feel pretty, clothes don’t fit, no point buying new ones.

It’s my daughter’s birthday party next month and I wanted to lose weight for it so I wouldn’t be embarrassed to have my picture taken.

All my friends are slim and attractive.

I have got to get a grip on myself but food is just my absolute best friend and without it I’m constantly fighting myself!

Don't go on a diet. It's pointless and soul destroying.

Think instead about changing your eating habits. Stop eating crap. Do it one step at a time.

Sugar is the worst.

Cut out one thing at a time. Dump the highly processed shite.

Find out exactly what is in your food. Then think about it. I swear, once I realised what was in a donut never ate one again.

No, I'm not skinny. But I'm not as fat as I used to be.

I’ve lost 50lbs over the past 2 years OP so I’ll give you my tips and hopefully they’re helpful.

1. Strength training and cardio - doesn’t necessarily have to be the gym but if you can make the time even twice a week and the up to four times this made a big difference for me
2. Upping fibre and protein intake. Lots of people talk about protein nowadays but I think fibre is underrated on a weight loss journey. Make sure there’s a decent portion of each at every meal. E.g if I’m making spaghetti bolognese I’ll still have mince but I make sure there’s plenty of veggies in the source and only have 50g pasta whereas I used to have over 100g
3. Try to think about what you can ‘add’ in to every meal to make it healthier rather than what you can take away. E.g I never stopped myself having pizza but instead of a full one I’d have 2-3 slices with chicken on for protein and a side salad. If you keep the portions of the ‘unhealthy’ stuff small and up the fruits and veggies surrounding it then that’s an easy way to cut calories while feeling more satisfied

I know everyone says it’s all about small lifestyle changes but it really is true for me. I’ve been yo yo dieting for years and taking an approach that is about actual health and nutrition rather than just weight loss was life changing

Tell yourself you are going to do something about it today and then take one day at a time.
We are all different but what is working for me is not having breakfast. No snacks , except fruit and veg, no cake , very little bread and then eating normally but watching portion sizes. I do have the very occasional treat but I have almost lost the taste for sweet things and chocolate . I had a biscuit today and felt it was more than enough.
I have also been trying to be more active but all that has meant is walking more and a Pilates class
I am losing weight very slowly about a pound a week but it is coming off and I feel so much better.
Good luck and don't beat yourself up if sometimes you lapse

@AmandaHoldensLips honesrly if I don’t go on a diet I just end up as I am. I realise that for some people they can just rein
their eating in to a sensible point but realistically for me I need to deal with this drastically and in a way that works for me.

I’ll have a think about strength training. I’m planning on a meal replacement diet which I know isn’t for everyone but I desperately need something to address the problem drastically.

It sounds so so hard. Sorry you’re going through this. Getting a wearable watch and setting it 600 calories a day made a difference for me. I am still overweight but it helped.

I am in a similar boat but am very, very slowly losing weight. I go to the gym so I my fat is firmer fat than before which means I have lost a few cms here and there but I do understand.

One of the fist steps I took was trying not to eat past 6pm. I used to nibble on biscuits or have crackers and cheese or chocolate late at night when relaxing. It helps me feel more disciplined to have a cut off point and only drink water. I like to think I am saving 500 cals a day without feeling I am denying myself.

I do have a smart watch but I think it’s cleverer than me - how do you do that? 😂

Already some great advice up thread and I would suggest ………don’t set unrealistic goals as this will phase you, portion control is a good friend and dumping the UPF’s too. I drink lots of water, more so when it’s been hot like the last week or so. No sugary drinks. You don’t have to join a gym to get exercise and swimming is a great way to tone up and of course your body weight is supported in the pool so there’s less strain on hips and knees.
I hope this helps and I wish you all the best……good luck, you can do this!

Drastic is the only way I can deal with weight loss too. I did the Fast 800 plan and lost 6 stone. It’s brutal but somehow doable if you’re desperate enough. Better than replacement meals for sure.

Which kind is it? I have an Apple Watch but some types have other metrics like steps or heart points x

Thanks - it is an apple watch, quite an old one though.

Kindly, diets might work in the short term but long term they clearly haven’t worked for you. The long term statistics aren’t great for diets full stop. You need to commit to making proper lifestyle changes that are sensible while still being firm

I didn’t have as much to lose as you but I was the heaviest I had ever been at 13st 1 in January and I’ve lost 2st 7 by intermittent fasting.

I do 16/8 so fast after my evening meal and miss breakfast. I gave up milk in tea and coffee and slowly gave up sugar and sweetener which has helped my sugar cravings immensely.

I joined a gym but 2 dumbbells and you can do a great strength training program at home. I’ve got stronger and fitter than I’ve been for years and the debilitating knee pain I suffered from is so much improved!

I hadn’t managed to lose more than the odd pound in more than a decade and my diet was crisps and sweets so a lot has changed.

I feel like the real challenge is keeping it off and I don’t intend to stop intermittent fasting when I reach my target…only a lb to go.

I wish you luck op, it’s a tough journey but it does get easier. I really think the first few weeks are the toughest.

Honestly, reframe your thoughts. Your reasons for being unhappy are all vanity based. You have a daughter, your concern should be getting yourself to a healthy weight for her. The risk to your health is massive right now.

And that said, it’s not easy. I have had to resort to Mounjaro because I was pre diabetic, on meds for BP, struggling with sleep apnea and the pressure in my bladder meant I wet myself regularly. Now I’m lowering my weight I’m losing my health issues too.

Reading the Fast 800 and also ultra processed people, particularly the latter, will help you view food and diet in a whole new way.
I’ve now been fasting for years and avoiding upf’s more recently, kept the weight off that I’d struggled with for years.
once you realise the food itself is what is perpetuating the vicious cycle it’s easier to break.

I’m planning on a meal replacement diet which I know isn’t for everyone but I desperately need something to address the problem drastically

I was the same...I'm all for gradual changes but I needed something more drastic to begin.

I'm on day 10 of a DIY meal replacement diet (shakes) and it's been good so far. 10lbs down in week one which was a massive spur for me to keep going.

My weight has yo-yoed all my life and I’ve been on so many fad diets that I haven’t been able to stick to. The only thing that has worked and I’ve actually been able to keep the weight off is by calorie deficit, I eat whatever I want as long as I don’t go over my calories, 7 stone down and kept it off for 2 years. Type TDEE calculator into google and you’ll be able to work out what calories you’d need to be on to lose weight.

That’s amazing.

I’ve definitely noticed my weight loss slowing down, which means if I stuck to a ‘normal’ diet it would be years before any discernible difference happened. Besides, I’m just not great at sticking to a diet without the incentive of eg by Halloween you’ll look normal ish.

Just to say as of this week, Mounjaro is being prescribed by Doctors, with some conditions. Worth asking the GP?
I'm also 5ft 2 and was probably almost 15 stone this time last year. I'm now between 9 st 11 and 10 St. Life changing.

I can ask, but what are the conditions?

I don't think you'd get mounjaro on the NHS atm as it is really strict, you need to be over BMI 40 with 4 health related conditions

Is the meal replacement diet not quite expensive? I have noticed some people on mpunjaro actually save money because they are buying less food.

So it might be less expensive than you think.

Not 100% sure but pre diabetes is one. Have a Google and honestly, I would just contact the GP and ask. I did when I knew there was no way they'd do it but the Dr told me to go for it privately if I could afford to as he'd seen brilliant results in 2 family members.

I'm also 5ft 2 and was 16 stone last September, now around 12 stone and feel much better, still have a bit to go though. Started mounjaro in September.

www.monj.co.uk

This tells you the latest prices and discounts.

Don't go for drastic change OP, it won't work. Try to think where you could be this time next year if you start with something small and manageable. Build those small changes into your lifestyle and, most importantly, maintain them. Once you've mastered one goal you can start on the next one. It's very motivating.

For each 1lb you lose, you should aim to 'get it off and keep it off'.