My husband let himself go during lockdown when everyone else was getting fit.
He was an avid gym goer who loved to run and lift weights, but lockdown hit we had a newborn and then the aftermath of staying indoors, and being a public servant during the pandemic, receiving abuse from the general public just for doing his job.. created an anxiety about leaving the house.
Meaning he wouldn’t want to leave the house unless it was for work and he ended up gaining more and more weight. Fast forward to now he has a Hernia that cannot be operated on due to his weight yet he struggles with exercise because of the hernia.
I’ve just had a baby and I’m trying my best to get fitter but he seems to be stuck in a vicious cycle of being so big he’s embarrassed / can’t excercise due to the hernia / can’t get rid of the hernia at his current size.
I've tried to be supportive but I’m now at a point where it’s irritating me that as much as I understand his hernia is stopping him, he realistically needs to do something to build up his tolerance and get shifting that weight.
Ive struggled with my mental health so I understand his battle but I’ve had enough of seeing him so down but not really doing anything about it, or enough from my perspective!
Any ideas on what I can do?
I’ve tried to be nice, tried to be strict, I’ve been horrible,practically every tactic I can think of but nothing is working.
Ive tried diets together but he secretly eats, I’ve tried walking together to spur him into more activities but … nothing is working.
I feel he’s at the point where I think something drastic needs to change.
I’m scared my children will grow up without a dad, his family have a history of early heart problems / attacks and diabetes so it’s a real concern. Even scaring him with that thought isn’t working.
Pease help.