Ugh. Summer is here again and I’ve not got my shit together again.

[DunnoMate]

Every year I dread summer because I’m overweight. I love the warmth, the sun, the buzz everywhere but I just feel uncomfortable and self-conscious.

in my head I’m still a svelte size 10-12 but the reality is over the past few years I’ve got gradually bigger and now I’m more like a 16-18. And I’m so sedentary that I’m very blobby with it. And pale which doesn’t help.

2st over ideal weight a couple of summers ago felt gross, now it’s 3st. Wearing floaty clothes used to cover up some blob, now they just accentuate it. Everything looks hideous on me.

And it feels like starting now is too little too late. I know that’s not a reason to not start at all but I’m just kicking myself for not starting earlier. And quite frankly I don’t even know where to start, which is kind of why I’m on this situation now.

Big fat ugh. That’s me that is.

If you want to do this you need to change your entire lifestyle

Yes. And that feels very overwhelming for my mid-40s probably adhd brain…. Unpicking lazy habits is a lot. I know what I haven’t donbit actually doing it feels nigh on impossible tbh.

Its all mental/psychological.

This time two years ago I decided I needed to change. I'm restricted as not able to do any form of exercise. It felt very overwhelming. So I did it in stages, never weighed myself and according to my gp in that time I've lost five and a half stone. Been maintaining for a year.
I started with intermittent fasting doing a minimum of 16:8. After the first 2 weeks I felt fine and it was my new normal. I still do it now but flexibly if need be.
I then added calorie counting in which I still do. I do my calories over a week so I never fail and give up.
Then I found if I meal planned and batch cooked I always had meals there and no excuses. Snacks in the house are fruit, crackers or things I don't eat for the dc.
Basically you need to find what works for you, your lifestyle and don't overwhelm yourself with too many changes at once.

I'm the same size and joined slimming world on Tuesday. I'm not particularly crazy about the diet, but I just needed ANY framework for my eating and the accountability of a weekly weigh in and its next to my house. It's going ok, I'm just eating lots of fruit and veg and will have to learn some recipes which I find extremely difficult. But if nothing changes, nothing changes. Even getting the first stone off will make me enjoy summer more and hopefully won't take too long. Pick something, anything, and stick to it.

SAME I HATE EVERYTHING it is literally the start of summer and I binged like 15kg on 😭😭😭😭😭 I'm still trying to lose what I gained over christmas jfc

It’s so depressing. I’m finding I avoid social situations because I have nothing to wear / everything looks gross.

There’s a lot of swimming in the summer here. Dreading it.

And I say all this yet I still reach for the chocolate. Just to add to the self-loathing…..

Yeah, May always arrives, we have a mini heatwave and I realise I STILL don't fit into my old clothes.

I'm probably 2 stone overweight. Better then after DD was born but she's FIVE now.

I've started swimming twice a week but this is more for fitness. I also find taking healthy action in one way encourages more as you don't want to 'waste' it.

I do already eat healthily though. My issue appetite. It's always been big, any diet makes me hungry all the time. Even keto. Unfortunately I'm allergic to fat jabs too.

I've been like that every year for decades. Last June I started Mounjaro and now I am 4.5 stone down. For the first time in my adult life really I have really enjoyed shopping for clothes. There is also strong evidence that this drug is very good for ADHD. I can't recommend it highly enough.

I had a shock wake up call. Because of my shockingly awful diet I got gallstones. The pain is shocking. I wish I could go back in time and smack myself in the face and tell me to put down the bloody pizza.

Inhad to change everything. Still now two years later and still waiting to have it out I can only eat fruit and veggies. I have lost four stone. I also started to go to the gym. I paid for entire thing upfront and no way I wasn’t going after spending all that money.

everyone can do it. But u need to want to do it enough to keep going.

Think of a few small changes you can make, slowly and one at a time. For example - finish eating 30m / 1h every night for a week. Drink an extra litre of water. Find and make a low calorie and filling recipe you like. Have a go at that for a few weeks and then repeat / reflect on what you can keep. And so on.

I was in the same boat aged 58, kept covered and hidden, kept thinking one day Ill do it

Then I had an injury, kept me confined to the sofa and bed for weeks and on more piled

I caught sight of myself sideways on bending over and it shocked me into action - I took my fat arse into SW

Now people all have their ideas about SW, I had as well, but I was desperate , I was not going to be spending another summer with thighs chaffing and underboob rashes . I needed help and I needed support - and SW certainly support you

Its not easy to loose when you are peri or menopausal but you still loose and now this summer Im enjoying wearing shorts and dresses and have really enjoyed this heatwave

I keep it off because I just dont want to go back to those miserable days of making excuses not to go anywhere or do anything . Im enjoying life, I walk and hike and have just got myself an E bike so I can cycle again

I’m like this ever summer. This year I started in January and now I’m half way to my goal. I’ve been using monjaro, it’a not accesible by everyone but it’s the only thing which has worked.

Girl same 🥺🥺🥺

I had my first Slimming World weigh in and lost 3.5lbs. Another week here we go. It's not a massive amount but I could easily have put ON 3.5lbs.

Gosh this all rings soberingly true for me, I’m the one sat here hoping that the weather turns because I have nothing to wear. And I found an excuse to get out of meeting friends for brunch at the weekend over it. I just have absolutely no will power it’s insane