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Can't get the weight off for the life of me

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Miraclemuma03 · 22/04/2025 09:30

Il be 40 in July. I had a baby 15months ago. Whilst pregnant and by the time my baby was 6 months old I had gained 35kg due to a lot of medication I was taking during pregnancy for a variety of reasons. After I had baby intern started going through premenopause. For the last year I have busted my rump to get off this excess weight and in that year the most I have been able to budge is 6kg and nothing else is moving. I joined weight watches 6 months ago or something and have maybe lost 1 or 2kg of the 6kg over the year iv lost . I have joined lots of workout challenges, I have done a few charity challenges whilst also raising money and still nothing is coming off. Iv had my thyroids checked and they seem in normal range. My doctor has put it down to perimenopausal and says i might need help medically. I'm hoping someone has some insight on how I can lose weight in this time of my life? Has anyone successfully lost their excess weight while going through the very early stages of menopause? Before I had my daughter weight loss was very easy, I had no issues losing any baby weight and in fact never really gained weight during pregnancy previously. I'm at a loss, at the moment I had given up while I went through some ivf treatment but since back on the weight loss train and I feel there is nothing I'm able to do differently to get a better result..

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sillyfrilly · 22/04/2025 13:34

I’m the same!!!! Literally cannot shift the 28lbs I need to get back to myself. I’m 41, my last baby is now 11 so I can’t blame her but I seem to put on weight so easily and it’s frustrating me. I’m now trying to focus on eliminating ultra processed foods as I have spent a few weeks researching and it turns out all the processed foods we eat ( which is shockingly everywhere) is part of the reason a lot of us are over weight. Im trying to eat more whole foods and less Diet Coke. Xxx

OSU · 22/04/2025 14:04

Human Being Diet by Petronella Ravenshear. Amazing. Am on day 6 phase 3. Have lost 4kg in 3 weeks which I could not shift for the life of me previously.

TalkToTheHand123 · 22/04/2025 14:23

Miraclemuma03 · 22/04/2025 09:30

Il be 40 in July. I had a baby 15months ago. Whilst pregnant and by the time my baby was 6 months old I had gained 35kg due to a lot of medication I was taking during pregnancy for a variety of reasons. After I had baby intern started going through premenopause. For the last year I have busted my rump to get off this excess weight and in that year the most I have been able to budge is 6kg and nothing else is moving. I joined weight watches 6 months ago or something and have maybe lost 1 or 2kg of the 6kg over the year iv lost . I have joined lots of workout challenges, I have done a few charity challenges whilst also raising money and still nothing is coming off. Iv had my thyroids checked and they seem in normal range. My doctor has put it down to perimenopausal and says i might need help medically. I'm hoping someone has some insight on how I can lose weight in this time of my life? Has anyone successfully lost their excess weight while going through the very early stages of menopause? Before I had my daughter weight loss was very easy, I had no issues losing any baby weight and in fact never really gained weight during pregnancy previously. I'm at a loss, at the moment I had given up while I went through some ivf treatment but since back on the weight loss train and I feel there is nothing I'm able to do differently to get a better result..

What foods do you eat and what drinks do you drink?

Miraclemuma03 · 22/04/2025 23:07

TalkToTheHand123 · 22/04/2025 14:23

What foods do you eat and what drinks do you drink?

I eat lots if meat and veg. Very limited on junk food, don't really eat processed foods at all. Don't really eat bread, I don't eat take out except for rare occasions and usually it's just a maccas tomato and cheese toastie with a coffee. I don't drink soft drink, maybe 1 can of solo once a month, I don't drink alcohol at all. I drink water and 2 to 3 coffee a day. I also do the weight watchers point system which I'm pretty good at keeping to my points, sometimes I go over but nothing crazy and I usually have weekly points left over.

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Miraclemuma03 · 22/04/2025 23:08

OSU · 22/04/2025 14:04

Human Being Diet by Petronella Ravenshear. Amazing. Am on day 6 phase 3. Have lost 4kg in 3 weeks which I could not shift for the life of me previously.

Iv never heard of it. Il have a look into now.

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Miraclemuma03 · 22/04/2025 23:10

sillyfrilly · 22/04/2025 13:34

I’m the same!!!! Literally cannot shift the 28lbs I need to get back to myself. I’m 41, my last baby is now 11 so I can’t blame her but I seem to put on weight so easily and it’s frustrating me. I’m now trying to focus on eliminating ultra processed foods as I have spent a few weeks researching and it turns out all the processed foods we eat ( which is shockingly everywhere) is part of the reason a lot of us are over weight. Im trying to eat more whole foods and less Diet Coke. Xxx

I gave up while going through ivf, though still just ate normally and I gained back 2.6kg

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TalkToTheHand123 · 22/04/2025 23:51

Hoe much water do you drink?

Snippit · 23/04/2025 00:28

Menopause is a real bummer, you do nothing differently yet gain weight, it’s so unfair. I’m currently on HRT and Testosterone, these have helped me gain a little bit of my body back. I was so frustrated and read all sorts to try and work out how to lose the unwanted weight. Eventually I tried the intermittent fasting regime, it has been amazing, I can once again wear clothes I’ve had for year’s. I’m gutted I gave away some of my gear thinking I’d never get into it again, my favourite jeans were amongst them 🤦‍♀️

Just today I found a pair of linen trousers that I wore in 2008, I remember because we were in Vegas when I had them, low and behold they fit me, that’s 17 years ago, I was so chuffed. I fast for approximately 14/16 hours and eat healthily during the other 10/8 hours. It’s really easy once you get into it,

I’ve done weight watchers and other various silly diets, but this is by far the easiest I’ve ever done. I can’t exercise excessively due to having M.S, but at the age of 58, 5ft 3” I’m at 9st 9lbs, I’m happy with that, it’s lovely to wear my vintage clothing once again 🤗

Miraclemuma03 · 23/04/2025 01:38

TalkToTheHand123 · 22/04/2025 23:51

Hoe much water do you drink?

I try to drink 2ltrs a day, I can't really manage to do more then that.

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Miraclemuma03 · 23/04/2025 01:40

Snippit · 23/04/2025 00:28

Menopause is a real bummer, you do nothing differently yet gain weight, it’s so unfair. I’m currently on HRT and Testosterone, these have helped me gain a little bit of my body back. I was so frustrated and read all sorts to try and work out how to lose the unwanted weight. Eventually I tried the intermittent fasting regime, it has been amazing, I can once again wear clothes I’ve had for year’s. I’m gutted I gave away some of my gear thinking I’d never get into it again, my favourite jeans were amongst them 🤦‍♀️

Just today I found a pair of linen trousers that I wore in 2008, I remember because we were in Vegas when I had them, low and behold they fit me, that’s 17 years ago, I was so chuffed. I fast for approximately 14/16 hours and eat healthily during the other 10/8 hours. It’s really easy once you get into it,

I’ve done weight watchers and other various silly diets, but this is by far the easiest I’ve ever done. I can’t exercise excessively due to having M.S, but at the age of 58, 5ft 3” I’m at 9st 9lbs, I’m happy with that, it’s lovely to wear my vintage clothing once again 🤗

O have tried the fasting and though the first week and a bit I lost 1.4kg but after 6 weeks that's all I managed to get off so gave up, got sick of eating on a time line and went back to logging points with weight watches which isn't working for me so really should cancel my membership.

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coxesorangepippin · 23/04/2025 01:43

How many calories are you eating per day?

You don't say how tall you are, but I'd probably guess you need around 1400 cals per day to lose

Watch out for the treat and blow out days - these are very detrimental to weight loss

It's brutal and I really feel your pain, losing weight is so hard

Vatsallfolks · 23/04/2025 01:57

How tall are you and what is you actually weight . ? Knowing your specific TDEE will help a lot

Vatsallfolks · 23/04/2025 02:10

Actually ignore the TDEE thing . I have just reread your OP and realise you said KG when I had assumed lbs. If you have 35kg to lose you will almost certainly have a BMI over 30 and would qualify for Mounjaro. I went from 95kg to 64kg between May and November. In the terms of negative side effects, I had one day of mild constipation. As for positive side effects - no more pre diabetic meds, no sleep apnea machine, no medication for high bp. No embarrassment getting in and out of a cinema or plane seat or bath.

it really is a miracle drug . Like a shot of cast iron will power !

nottheplan · 23/04/2025 02:48

I'm the same , 41 and had my final baby almost 2 years ago. I'm finding it very difficult to lose the weight this time round. I walk 2 miles daily, drink 2 l of water, I've completely cut out bread and I'm eating lots of salads. Since Jan I've only shifted 2kg. So disappointed as I've a few events this summer and wanted to look and feel great. My tummy is my main issue, my legs look toned from walking but tummy area remains a problem. I think it's definitely an age issue for me.

Knowitall2112 · 23/04/2025 03:28

Hey @Miraclemuma03 ,

I wondered if you had come across the work of Dr Stacy Sims? She's a scientist that specialises in nutrition and exercise in women, focused particularly on optimising health outcomes for women based on their stage of life, from adolescence through to post menopause.

She has written and spoken extensively about the changes which need to be made to support women through perimenopause.

The interviews linked to below, in which she discusses her studies and real world experiences are fascinating.

The long and short of it is that once a woman is in perimenopause she needs to overhaul her approach to fat reduction. Exercise needs to be centred around Power Training:

  • Power Lifting,
  • Sprint Interval Training (SIT), and
  • Plyometrics

And diet/ nutrition needs to complement this Power Training, centred both on the quality of food consumed and most importantly the optimal time of the day to eat certain nutrients.

Example of Power Training
SFM_Fitness
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCCLsNrRml7/?igsh=eXZpanBib21rbjIy

Dr Stacy Sims Interviews:

  1. Huberman Labs
  1. Zoe | Science and nutrition
  1. Diary of a CEO

I recently reduced my dress size from a size 16 down to a size 6, purely by fasting - I was eating all my daily calories/ energy in a max 2 hour window - I did this for 14 weeks. I basically just ate one meal a day (OMAD) during that period, I didn't socialise, didn't do any exercise - other than commute to work (cycling or walking) and was only ever at home or at work. My husband prepared all meals for himself and our children, and I just ate a reasonably healthy subsidised lunch at work. As I was only eating OMAD I didn't worry too much about what I was eating as I knew that unless I self-sabotaged by using the entire eating window to eat atrociously, that I would automatically be in a calorie deficit. This was a very intense approach, but I had specific aesthetic goals that I was working towards. Additionally, I wasn't breastfeeding, nor was I trying to become pregnant, so I only had myself to worry about.

Once I'd dropped the inches from my waist (and rest of my body!), from week 15 onwards I reduced my fasting window, so that I then ate during a 4-6 hour window. Additionally, I also joined a gym. Because I was now routinely exercising I needed to up my calorie/ energy intake, hence why I expanded my eating window.

Dr Sims' research suggests that once in perimenopause that fasted training is counter productive, however, I still continue to complete all my training early on in the day and consume my energy/ calories in the late afternoon, and I seem to be OK, although, suffice to say, I'm not sure that I've actually entered perimenopause as yet. So this could explain my continued progress...

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCCLsNrRml7/?igsh=eXZpanBib21rbjIy

Miraclemuma03 · 23/04/2025 09:19

Knowitall2112 · 23/04/2025 03:28

Hey @Miraclemuma03 ,

I wondered if you had come across the work of Dr Stacy Sims? She's a scientist that specialises in nutrition and exercise in women, focused particularly on optimising health outcomes for women based on their stage of life, from adolescence through to post menopause.

She has written and spoken extensively about the changes which need to be made to support women through perimenopause.

The interviews linked to below, in which she discusses her studies and real world experiences are fascinating.

The long and short of it is that once a woman is in perimenopause she needs to overhaul her approach to fat reduction. Exercise needs to be centred around Power Training:

  • Power Lifting,
  • Sprint Interval Training (SIT), and
  • Plyometrics

And diet/ nutrition needs to complement this Power Training, centred both on the quality of food consumed and most importantly the optimal time of the day to eat certain nutrients.

Example of Power Training
SFM_Fitness
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCCLsNrRml7/?igsh=eXZpanBib21rbjIy

Dr Stacy Sims Interviews:

  1. Huberman Labs
  1. Zoe | Science and nutrition
  1. Diary of a CEO

I recently reduced my dress size from a size 16 down to a size 6, purely by fasting - I was eating all my daily calories/ energy in a max 2 hour window - I did this for 14 weeks. I basically just ate one meal a day (OMAD) during that period, I didn't socialise, didn't do any exercise - other than commute to work (cycling or walking) and was only ever at home or at work. My husband prepared all meals for himself and our children, and I just ate a reasonably healthy subsidised lunch at work. As I was only eating OMAD I didn't worry too much about what I was eating as I knew that unless I self-sabotaged by using the entire eating window to eat atrociously, that I would automatically be in a calorie deficit. This was a very intense approach, but I had specific aesthetic goals that I was working towards. Additionally, I wasn't breastfeeding, nor was I trying to become pregnant, so I only had myself to worry about.

Once I'd dropped the inches from my waist (and rest of my body!), from week 15 onwards I reduced my fasting window, so that I then ate during a 4-6 hour window. Additionally, I also joined a gym. Because I was now routinely exercising I needed to up my calorie/ energy intake, hence why I expanded my eating window.

Dr Sims' research suggests that once in perimenopause that fasted training is counter productive, however, I still continue to complete all my training early on in the day and consume my energy/ calories in the late afternoon, and I seem to be OK, although, suffice to say, I'm not sure that I've actually entered perimenopause as yet. So this could explain my continued progress...

Thank you for these links. Il have a look at them.

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