Weight loss when vulnerable to disordered eating

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I am seeking some help from those who have experienced this if possible. To put it simply, if I restrict or calorie count it leads to obsession and disordered eating. I discovered today that I am now the top end of overweight and I don't want to go any further - I would like to head back to the healthy zone! 😅 I am in my early 50's. I don't drink alcohol. Has anyone bene able to do this without calorie counting? Believe me, it triggers really unhelpful mental health issues for me, so I CANNOT go back to that. However I do need to lose some weight. Feeling 'deprived' can be another trigger. It is so difficult. Really want to make changes though. Has anyone near my age and stage ever managed some weight loss without calorie counting or serious deprivation?

I follow Lean With Plants and Broccoli Mum on Instagram. They are both vegan (I’m not) but call themselves ‘volume eaters’.
The basic principles they follow are to fill half your plate with non-starchy veg - loads of them.
They post ideas for huge bowls of food.

OOOOOOOH the broccoli mum food looks lovely!

Half a plate filled with vegetables for every meal
Eat on smaller plates
Good eating habits - eat always at the table, never in front of screens
Mindful eating - slow down, savour, make sure the food on your plate looks nice, eat with chopsticks if that helps to slow you down
Snack on vegetables - it’s much harder to overeat carrots than Kitkats
Don’t keep junk food at home
Cut fizzy drinks and fruit juices to zero

I have. I worked with a nutritionist to combat my ED. They made a meal plan for me which included regular amounts of food that i would have previously binged on. I don't record what I eat as that leads to obbsessing and binging. I basically put my trust in her and I've lost 9lb. No tracking , no writing down what I eat, no counting calories and I've had chocolate (in sensible amounts) everyday. It's the best approach to weightloss as it's helped me deal with the issues behind my disordered eating, and I'm able to eat far more intuitively than I ever have before. It's not a diet as dieting and getting over an eating disorder don't go well together, but it's more like reprogramming my brain and they way it views food and eating

Telling yourself that you can't have certain foods will only lead to binging further down the line. I don't view food as 'junk' or 'treats', as that creates emotional reactions to food. I'm aware that there are certain foods that i eat for pleasure that don't provide many nutrients, but there's no harm in having food like that in sensible amounts. I'm now in a place where I can have chocolate in the house and have a bit at a time rather than eating it all before I even get home which is something I never thought I'd be able to do.