Help me change my mindset and get motivated

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I need to lose weight asap (around 7stone). I lost 4 last year and have put a stone and a bit back on.
I wa so focused and motivated last year and I feel like I’ve lost that.

I feel like all I can think about all the time is how fat I am. I feel like I obsess over it yet struggling to change. Whenever I look in the mirror all I see is my double chin. I feel so self conscious I wear scarves all the time.

I am so careful with my children’s diets as don’t want them to be overweight (they’re not but never want them to end up like me) and then I eat absolute crap in secret.

I am a single mum so no support with cooking or meals and need to turn things around asap.

Please help 😭

I can empathise! I spend almost all my waking hours feeling gross and double-chinny. I say "almost", because whenever I am eating, and I'm aware I'm eating and I know it won't help, I ignore those feelings for the taste of food.

So feel shit but not shit enough apparently to stop shoveling food down my throat.

i know not for everyone but I wished I had started weight loss injections sooner & someone told me more about them.
great support groups on here.
I’ve been on Mounjaro from SheMed since January & it’s changed my life. I have lost about 3 stone so far but have lots more to go. Looking to the long term I think it will take me over a year but it feels doable for the first time. About 7 stone in total, so 4 stone more.

I really feel you on this because I have been feeling exactly the same. I used to be a size 8/10 and then out of nowhere I gained rapid weight and have struggled to get it off since and of course bad habits have also been a factor. I used to almost eat out of spite to myself for being this way. I used to love taking pictures and now I rarely take any because I think I look ugly. I also just had my 3rd baby 4 months ago and for a month now I got myself a PT and have been training for the last month and seeing where I go. I really struggle to be consistent and disciplined but I have forced myself to look forward to being "hot" but most importantly being healthy for my kids and not running out of breath to do simple things. My DD made a innocent comment about having a "skinny mummy" and it's been at the back of my thought ever since.

I've heard so much about these, how do you actually get access to them in the UK? Are they only prescribed?

As you say you have no support, would you not look at SW? The support is what got me to target and keeps me on target

There's no diet to follow , it's just learning that some foods have to be eaten in moderation whilst filling your boots with others. There are meal plans to help you get started but seriously it's about getting the fruit and veg in, going easy with the white carbs and getting the protein in. So its wholemeal bread and pasta and brown rice.

Going to group is like meeting a group of people who have the same struggles around food so there is no judgement, just encouragement and laughter , and a hand hold when required

It’s so hard to get and stay in the zone. I’m on meds that affect my weight too so it’s a real pain!

Heres what I do to get started in case any of it helps.

I do a healthy food shop and get low fat snacks in that I like - I stick to fruits and protein (like turkey or chicken slices) and use My Fitness Pal - just the free version. I link it to my Fitbit to include the steps. I find it quite satisfying filling in my foods and the steps are an easy win (some days!). It just makes me aware of what I’m eating and mostly helps me make better choices.

I also do some simple 10 min work outs in the morning from a You Tube Channel called Fitness Type (I think it might be for old ladies but it suits me 😆) and choose either arms/back/standing abs or lately I’ve shifted up to Happy Cardio which is 25 mins and also kickstarts the steps for the day.

I’ve lost half a stone in a month - not earth shattering but it’s a start ☺️

@Gifgaf >95% of people on them in the uk are private prescriptions.
You gave to meet criteria (BMI) & subject to health check to ensure safety. Lots of people prescription shop to find cheapest deals. I sign up with SheMed on subscription given my large amount to use. It is discounted as signed in & part of large clinical data collection study about use & women’s health/hormones etc.

Lots of options but unless diabetic it is not easy to get on nHS & as demand grows, getting harder.

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Yes hello. I got all motivated and put a load back on. But have got it off again and all the compliments are a bit addictive.. I have sadly found that being heartbroken/having a massive unrequited crush on someone/realising you want to break up your marriage while being in peri and having a really stressful job is the magic bullet I needed to stick to 1200 cals and that walking 1.5hrs a day has mental health benefits -as well as helping keep it off. For your sake I really hope your motivation comes from sources other than mine..