I know what to do, but can't do it

[needtomoveon123]

During the past 12-18 months I have gained a ridiculous amount of weight (around 5 stone). A lot of it has been due to my mental health following a relationship then breakup with a narcissist, I also have an underactive thyroid and have increased my medication this past week due to my last 2 blood test results being awful.

I am constantly shattered due to the thyroid (hopefully this will improve soon with an increase in medication) which results in no motivation and then snacking instead of proper meals.

I am now 5 months out of the relationship and doing so much better, but the effect it has had on me has been huge (no pun intended). As well as overeating I have also been drinking too much. Both as a tool to 'forget' things, but of course that doesn't work.

I know exactly what I need to do to lose weight. I don't want anything extreme as I just wouldn't stick to it. I just want to know how people stay motivated when they feel like they're struggling. I really have to do this for my health (mental and physical) but I just can't. Help please!

You can . . ..

• Take up a hobby like cycling, walking, running, tennis, badminton, or
• join a gym and go every weekday evening. - Out at the gym = less time at home.
• Stop eating between meals.

My advice would be to start with something that feels very small and achievable for you, and focussing on staying consistent with it.

Focus on how these things make you feel, rather than the number on the scale.

For example, could you drink a few bottles of water per day? Or could you go for a small walk?

These little things will give you a self esteem boost and you can build on them. It’s incredibly hard to leave a narcissist- so you’ve done amazingly well and you should be really proud of yourself!

What will you do next? Now that you’re free to focus on yourself. If I were you, I’d be excited to find out :)