Sister keeps going on at my mum and it's really not helping

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Thank you for taking the time to read this those of you who do.
My mum is 54 years old, and most people in her family are overweight.
She lost 3 out of 4 of her sisters and they were all in their 50s.
my mum had breast cancer two years ago and I don't need to go into how much of a nightmare that was.
Basically, we're all a bit concerned about her health because she has gained even more weight recently. She needs to lose at least 25 kg.
My sister keeps going on at her, and I know it comes from a good place but it really doesn't help the situation. She keeps telling her not to eat so much, and look at what she's doing to herself and look at how fat she's become.
As someone who used to be overweight, I know that these comments just upset her but not enough to make her do the right thing.
She has a stressful lifestyle and I don't know what to do.
Are weight loss injections an option for someone who has had breast cancer?
I'd really appreciate any suggestions.

Your sister needs to butt out. It is none of her business what your DM weighs. If your DM wants to lose weight then she will do it. Nagging will only make her dog her heels in. Weight loss injections might help her but again she has to want to do it. You and your sister need to accept your DM exactly as she is.

25kg overweight isn't a huge amount. I am over weight by about that much, maybe even more. I have chosen to use weight loss injections to help me. Neither of my DDs have ever mentioned my weight at all because fat shaming is not something they would ever do and they accept me at whatever weight I am.

Your DM has been through enough. Please just accept her and love her exactly as she is.

It is disheartening, but coming from a good place if someone is worried. I think the fact she has had such a terrible for years means she is stressed enough and is probably stress eating.

I would suggest being more supportive, and encouraging rather than critical. Maybe suggest going out for long walks together? Find some great walking paths and chat on the way. This would be great everyday to help her lose weight. Cycling is also fun if there is a great path to use. A fun game of tennis? (We tried that - we are terrible but was hilarious!).

Maybe suggest some dieting groups nearby you could go together as support.

Perhaps she needs someone to talk to about her ordeal.

Your sister would be better off looking at how she can help your Mum have a less stressful life, rather than harangue her repeatedly. Also, that's something you could also look at doing for your mum too. Exercise is great for fitness and walking good for getting out into the fresh air and into nature, but it is only a small part of weight loss. The majority is done through diet, but that's something only your Mum can change.

Weight loss injections are fine for people who have had breast cancer, although she would need to include any ongoing treatment in the consultation process. But, they are only an option if your Mum wants to take them and can afford them without adding to her stress.