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I bought a massive box of chocolates

27 replies

VividRobin · 15/01/2025 21:16

As the title says I've bought a load of chocolates today (500g+). At the time of buying them my intention was to eat them as and when I like over the next couple of days (this would inevitably turn into a binge as I have no willpower when it comes to refined sugar). I need someone to give me a talking to and help me get my head into gear before I fall off the precipice!

For context I'm early 30s, 1 more stone to lose. I've done well over the past year and lost 2 stone (before putting at least half a stone back on over Christmas) so I know I can do it. Unfortunately I'm an all or nothing person when it comes to calorie control, and in particular I struggle with eating refined sugar in moderation.

From around October last year I've not been able to maintain the consistent weight loss I'd been managing for months, due to various things happening with life/work/family/holidays/Christmas and basically so much going on that I didn't have the mental energy to manage my diet properly. Eventually I gave up and convinced myself it was all fine because I was going to start again in January and it would be easy because I've done it before. I then spent a couple of months in Nov/Dec eating to excess, and in particular chocolate has been my downfall.

And now here I am 2 weeks into January with half a kilo of chocolates that I just want to devour. It's not these chocolates that are the issue - I know I can eat them, gain a pound and lose it again, but it's the slippery slope that it might lead to. If I can buy and eat these chocolates then I can always buy and eat more and when does it end?

I've thought about giving them to my DP to "ration" them out to me but I'd honestly rather have none than 1 or 2 at a time which would drive me crazy like some sort of rabid cookie monster and I worry that I'd end up resenting DP as the gatekeeper of the chocolates (not to mention I need to learn to control myself rather than outsourcing my willpower).

I'm feeling so annoyed with myself at the moment. My saving grace at the moment is that they remain unopened so far!

Any and all advice/reprimanding is appreciated!

OP posts:
Snicksnacksnora · 15/01/2025 21:22

Nothing tastes as good as being slimmer feels. X

festivemouse · 15/01/2025 21:28

Honestly, don't buy in such quantities. If you can't be trusted and nothing works for you, then don't put yourself into temptations way.

You need discipline - not willpower. Willpower is flakey!!

ThePuppyHasZoomiesAgain · 15/01/2025 21:37

Just bin them. Or donate to a food bank. You're giving them too much headspace. Once they're gone you'll stop thinking about them!

EmeraldRoulette · 15/01/2025 21:41

Give them to me? What are they?

im losing weight atm but bought half price hotel chocolat in the sale. Got them after Xmas, just opened them today.

localm · 15/01/2025 21:46

Bin them. Yes, it’s a waste of money but your body is not landfill. It’s much better to just waste the money, than to waste the money and also gain a kilo you don’t need.

Put them in the bin, and then go for a walk.

Whatwouldnanado · 15/01/2025 21:48

Take them to work/hobby group and have one yourself.
Or put the unopened box in the donate trolley at the supermarket.

ErrolTheDragon · 15/01/2025 21:50

Give them away. If you don't have anyone specific to give them to maybe you or DH could take them to work to share or something?
You'll be annoyed with yourself if you eat them.

Iizzyb · 15/01/2025 21:52

I second the bin them suggestion otherwise you'll open them.

They are made so that you will want more/the whole lot. Have you read ultra processed people by Chris van tulleken? It's not just you/willpower etc

KeepinOn · 15/01/2025 21:52

Donate them. Tomorrow. Then buy yourself a new book, bubble bath, and treat yourself in a way that doesn't include food.

AmusedBouched · 15/01/2025 21:53

Iizzyb · 15/01/2025 21:52

I second the bin them suggestion otherwise you'll open them.

They are made so that you will want more/the whole lot. Have you read ultra processed people by Chris van tulleken? It's not just you/willpower etc

Currently reading this - mind-blowing!!!

ThisMustBeMyDream · 15/01/2025 21:54

I fully empathise with you. I'm coming to the end of what will be over 7st weight loss (half a stone to go). I have worked really hard and excercised what I thought was great discipline. Anyway, it turns out that there are certain foods that I have no bloody will power with. I've had to accept I can't have them at home. Ferrero Roche and Terry's Chocolate Orange are my nemesis it seems. I can eat other chocolate in small quantities fine (I've just eaten 4 giant chocolate buttons for example). But those, nope. I was consuming the entire box in one sitting (or one day at best!). The other thing I no longer have (I gave it up 5 years ago) is McDonalds. It is basically a gateway drug to me!!
Honestly, I ended up throwing them away. And will no longer buy them. I won't be defeated by it!!!

localm · 15/01/2025 21:55

Either take them to the food bank drop off point now or put them straight in the outside bin. If you leave them to donate tomorrow, chances are that you will eat them.

Do a Marie Kondo and thank them for teaching you that you no longer want to live like that.

Largeandsmall789 · 15/01/2025 21:56

Don’t bin them! Give them to someone for their birthday! Take to office, friend, or neighbour.

Largeandsmall789 · 15/01/2025 21:57

ThisMustBeMyDream · 15/01/2025 21:54

I fully empathise with you. I'm coming to the end of what will be over 7st weight loss (half a stone to go). I have worked really hard and excercised what I thought was great discipline. Anyway, it turns out that there are certain foods that I have no bloody will power with. I've had to accept I can't have them at home. Ferrero Roche and Terry's Chocolate Orange are my nemesis it seems. I can eat other chocolate in small quantities fine (I've just eaten 4 giant chocolate buttons for example). But those, nope. I was consuming the entire box in one sitting (or one day at best!). The other thing I no longer have (I gave it up 5 years ago) is McDonalds. It is basically a gateway drug to me!!
Honestly, I ended up throwing them away. And will no longer buy them. I won't be defeated by it!!!

Congratulations that’s an amazing achievement!

ShadowsOfTheDays · 15/01/2025 21:59

Just bin them. The money is spent either way, so bin them.

tigerlily9 · 15/01/2025 22:00

Me too I can’t resist. 😫
lost 4 stone and put 2 back and starting again is so hard after Christmas.😭
just step away it’s not worth it

Quinque · 15/01/2025 22:01

Take them to the food bank donations basket at your local supermarket and think about how happy it will make the family that receive them. Then treat yourself to a nicely scented shower gel or bubble bath, instead.

ManchesterLu · 15/01/2025 22:07

Snicksnacksnora · 15/01/2025 21:22

Nothing tastes as good as being slimmer feels. X

Unfortunately I could list many, many, many things that do.

MagentaRavioli · 15/01/2025 22:08

open box. Squirt detergent onto chocolates. Tip into bin. Fixed it for you.

Neilsfavouritechilli · 15/01/2025 22:14

You either chuck them in the outside bin or eat them. What will honestly make you feel better in the morning?

Newmumhere40 · 15/01/2025 22:33

VividRobin · 15/01/2025 21:16

As the title says I've bought a load of chocolates today (500g+). At the time of buying them my intention was to eat them as and when I like over the next couple of days (this would inevitably turn into a binge as I have no willpower when it comes to refined sugar). I need someone to give me a talking to and help me get my head into gear before I fall off the precipice!

For context I'm early 30s, 1 more stone to lose. I've done well over the past year and lost 2 stone (before putting at least half a stone back on over Christmas) so I know I can do it. Unfortunately I'm an all or nothing person when it comes to calorie control, and in particular I struggle with eating refined sugar in moderation.

From around October last year I've not been able to maintain the consistent weight loss I'd been managing for months, due to various things happening with life/work/family/holidays/Christmas and basically so much going on that I didn't have the mental energy to manage my diet properly. Eventually I gave up and convinced myself it was all fine because I was going to start again in January and it would be easy because I've done it before. I then spent a couple of months in Nov/Dec eating to excess, and in particular chocolate has been my downfall.

And now here I am 2 weeks into January with half a kilo of chocolates that I just want to devour. It's not these chocolates that are the issue - I know I can eat them, gain a pound and lose it again, but it's the slippery slope that it might lead to. If I can buy and eat these chocolates then I can always buy and eat more and when does it end?

I've thought about giving them to my DP to "ration" them out to me but I'd honestly rather have none than 1 or 2 at a time which would drive me crazy like some sort of rabid cookie monster and I worry that I'd end up resenting DP as the gatekeeper of the chocolates (not to mention I need to learn to control myself rather than outsourcing my willpower).

I'm feeling so annoyed with myself at the moment. My saving grace at the moment is that they remain unopened so far!

Any and all advice/reprimanding is appreciated!

You've got to eat something else sweet that's not as bad....trust me, do that and you won't crave them.

Original poster
VividRobin · 15/01/2025 23:13

Thank you so much to everyone who has replied. Of course everyone who has said to give away / bin them is right. So that I'm not tempted tonight I've asked DP to put them in his car this evening and take them to a food bank tomorrow (or he can keep them in his car for himself as long as I never know about it!)

Good points made here about the money already being spent - that won't change but at least I can stop the other consequences. Also this could be helpful in the long run as maybe next time I'm tempted I'll remember this as a lesson in how to waste money...

OP posts:
ErrolTheDragon · 15/01/2025 23:17

Well done! I was just about to suggest you hand them over to your DH to deal with.

Offleyhoo · 15/01/2025 23:23

Well done! Getting rid was the only option here. What I do is I say to myself, I.do love chocolate, I'm not going to pretend it don't, but I don't do that to myself any more. I have other yummy things (healthy things) and sometimes something like a Freddo if I really want chocolate, but I don't buy more than that or I will want to eat it and I just don't want to be tempted. You've done well there 😊

Turnups · 15/01/2025 23:28

Summon up enough willpower to last two minutes: then open them and immediately squirt washing-up liquid over them all and bin them. Then there’s no going back.