Calorie deficit dilemma

[fedupmum2023]

Hey everyone, i’ve having abit of a mardy this morning, please bare with me lol i started my calorie deficit middle of last year after struggling with health issues after having a baby in 2023, i went from 20st 7lbs to 16st 11lbs! Buzzing to be nearly at 4st loss.. anyhooo christmas came, i ate and drank what i liked it was fantastic lol! Got back on it in new year, i had gained 12lbs in 2/3 weeks! Water weight i know but still shocking.. lost 8lb of it in the first week back on it so was 17st 1 but now on the second week its fluctuating so much i don’t know where i’m at.. i weighed this morning im 17st 4 and its really starting to mess with my head.. i think i do struggle with IBS (never diagnosed) as i struggle to go toilet regularly despite eating and drinking well 3-4litres of water a day! Exercise is far and few because of weather and general tiredness being up everyday at 4.30am with a 1 year old 🙃 i’m trying not to let it get me down as i know its never going to be plain sailing with weight loss but f*ck me i just don’t want to do it anymore, i feel like giving up completely now but i’m going to stay strong.. sorry if it sounds dramatic but i love food, i don’t drink or smoke so food has always been my thing lol happy or sad food and i don’t eat nearly as much as i used too so for me its starting to feel like a waste of time even though i know deep down its not.. i’m just feeling sorry for myself and i know i’ll be fine later but any advice or words of encouragement would do me nicely ❤️

I can relate to you so much. Food, or at least the enjoyment of eating food was the driving force in my life and for many years the reason I had no interest in dieting. Now 6 months on and 4 stone lighter my view of food has changed, not as much as I would like, I still get cravings to just go buy loads of chocolate and have a binge session, but you will get that with any addiction. And that is the thing to remember. You have been living to eat for so many years it’s became the norm. We should all be eating to live and it should be just that. Live to eat when you occasionally go out to your favourite restaurant, but in between just remember you are eating to live. Stay strong if not for you for your 1 years old.

Weight loss isn’t linear op, I get it’s hard, everyone reacts the same when they see the scales go up instead of down.

id assume water retention this week, or dehydration last week,as 8 lbs in one week is a lot to drop,

just keep on, you’re doing very well. Remember that. Ignore all the noise about set points etc on here, just keep on.

also remember as your weight reduces you need less calories. So what was a deficit at 20 stone may not be at 17.

Have you considered weight loss injections they completely take the cravings away. Gamechanger.

Hi op. Could you try to reframe that it has been 2 weeks or less, so it’s not enough time yet to see consistent results?

You didn't gain 12lbs you gained 4, which isn't a lot to get back on track with. I completely understand how demoralising it is and how hard to stick to a calorie deficit (that's why I'm on Mounjaro!) but you're doing so well, don't let one blow out week ruin your motivation. You know it works, but your body is a bit discombobulated after having a big influx of high calorie high salt food and alcohol and is taking a bit of time to recover!

Honestly i relate so much! Food has been the driving force in my life for years, i’m 32 and its always been at the forefront of my mind.. and while since being on this diet it has changed my view on food because now i feel like alot of it is a waste of calories lol and i’m always looking at ways to be better e.g snacking so having fruit/veg or a caramel rice cake if im feeling sweet but i am doing this for myself and my children, i want to be around longer and i do feel better in myself for doing it and the non scale victories are worth more than feeling bloated, out of breath, joints hurting etc i need to stop letting that scale dictate my happiness! But thankyou so much for your comment it has gave a boost! ❤️

Thankyou! Yes i know it isn’t linear, not sure i’m feeling a tad hormonal as i have just finished my period or tired from the early morning calls lol but it really got to me today! Im feeling alot better now after reading these comments, its gave me the motivation and drive back ❤️

I have! I said to my partner today i was thinking about it! X

Well now looking i think my mind has ran away with me lol i haven’t been back on it 2 weeks, i think its been just over a week 🤣 ffs i am terrible but you know what i am feeling motivated again.. im not sure if its just hormonal feelings mixed in with tiredness but my god i felt deflated!

Thankyou! Yes i do need to remember i had a good run over christmas, plenty of alcohol, chocolate and cheese crackers 🤣 heres to next weeks weigh in! Hopefully some more will have dropped off because i am so close to a 4 stone loss, i was 4lb off it before christmas! X

a game changer for me was weight loss injections, but working out my TDEE minus 500 calories gave me a number to eat to. That really helped with my meal plans. As others said weight loss isn’t linear but keep going you’ve done so well.

Thankyou! I have tried but failed to stick at it i know i won’t gain it all back that quick but i feel so under pressure and again another week of not losing has made me spiral, im hoping to get my motivation back soon but thankyou ❤️

@fedupmum2023 stalls are tough. I tend to stall when I've not drunk enough water or eaten too many calories/too many of the wrong kind ie carbs/sugars. A low carb few days tends to get me back on track but appreciate it will depend on the diet plan you are following.