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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Really really stuck, what to try?

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Twoshoesnewshoes · 19/12/2024 23:22

I’m late 40’s, generally been middle of healthy BMI all my adult life.
now in peri menopause, I’ve been gaining weight steadily over the past three years. I’ve tried 5:2 which used to work, but had no impact.
i have been on HRT a few times, seems to add weight. Currently not on it and not wanting to try it again.
i had been weight training a bit but I can’t now due to a back injury . I walk (hills) most days and have started swimming twice a week.
ive been on FP for two months, weekdays on 1300 and weekdays max 1700 (which is my maintenance amount).
ive put on a pound.
im utterly despairing. My clothes are starting to to not fit, I really don’t know what to do now.
please help!

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/12/2024 14:09

Cormoran · 21/12/2024 07:48

Why would anyone trying to lose weight eat peanut butter is beyond me. Then ultra-processed food (UPF) for lunch and snack is never going to help you, and that in addition to the corn thins and flapjack, includes Activia, probably your toast and if your carrot sticks are shop bought and not peeled and cut at home, they will have gone through a chlorine bath and citric acid wash. Add to it, the Maltesers, even if only 3, and well, it is not surprising you aren't losing anything and slowly putting on.

Cut the UPF and start eating whole food.
For breakfast switch to a couple of tablespoons of rolled oats with a couple of tablespoons of flaxseeds. or Fresh berries and greek yoghurt, or a soft boiled egg. Even better, alternate.
For lunch have a small chicken breast, cook it at home and slice it into fingers to eat cold or heated with green beans and for dinner have a tiny bit of rice but brown, red or black, and a big mixed salad with at least 6 different vegetables and a piece of oven baked fish.

Tea is fine as long as there is no sugar, and stop snacking. If you absolutely MUST (it appears brits can't survive without snacking everyday, not a single French woman I know snacks ) , have vegetables. Baby Roma tomatoes, sliced red pepper, or fresh blueberries if you need sweetness.
Focus on fresh food, whole food, nothing that goes through an industrial process that can harm the gut microbiome, high in fibre, high quality and variety of vegetables. More than something very saucy like a chili, make a massive tray of oven roasted vegetables, aubergines, courgettes, pumpkin, carrot, leek, .. Ditch jars of sauces, tins of coconut milk if you are using them,

To answer your question about what to do: stop going through restrictive patterns of odd fasting, or macronutrient suppression . Do a pantry and fridge makeover. Eat the foods available when your great-grandmother was alive. Fresh. Real. Nutritious and good for overall health. You want to go fancy, have quinoa, tofu , both have existed for thousands of years.

I've lost 4 stone this year and have peanut butter most days

MilkToastHoney · 22/12/2024 14:20

Are you weighing absolutely everything? Weighing the peanut butter, weighing the milk in your tea, the oil you use for cooking, weighing the bread (even if it says 80 cals a slice), weighing the yoghurt rather than going on the pack size?

If you are calorie counting, you can go over really easily by not weighing absolutely everything you put in your mouth.

How much protein and fibre are you getting?

If 1700 is your maintenance (that seems really low for your weight) then it may take quite a while of consistently eating under maintenance each day.

Are you weighing yourself every day and taking an average for the week?

Monitor your steps each day. Increasing by a couple of hundred a day can make a difference.

AmazingGraze · 22/12/2024 14:34

Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/12/2024 14:09

I've lost 4 stone this year and have peanut butter most days

How have you done it?

Twoshoesnewshoes · 22/12/2024 15:21

Thanks everyone, lots of good ideas, I will definitely try taking soup to work, also did yoga this morning and will make that more regular.
im not going to weigh all of my food, i just don’t want to live my life like that.
ill cut carbs again- i always get a bit stuck for a low carb alternative to bread/crackers, and tips?

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 22/12/2024 16:16

AmazingGraze · 22/12/2024 14:34

How have you done it?

Nutracheck to start with and then WW

MilkToastHoney · 22/12/2024 16:18

If you aren’t weighing your food then you don’t know if you’re eating 1300 calories. You could easily be eating at maintenance or even in a calorie surplus.
Most people underestimate things like peanut butter, butter, cooking oil etc. It’s so easy to go massively over your calories while not really eating any more.

You don’t have to weigh everything forever but it can be really educational in understanding how many calories you are actually eating.

I was completely against weighing counting calories for years. I’ve never been overweight but have had to keep an eye on what I ate etc. Counting calories has been a game changer in teaching me about fibre/protein, how to eat a huge amount of food on lower calories, not being hungry etc.

Once you get used to the weighing and logging it’s super quick and easy.

I’m short and 7.5 stone and can eat around 1800/1900 calories at maintenance. Before I tracked, I thought my maintenance was much lower. It also means you don’t have to cut any food group, you just allow for it in your calories.

I now really enjoy my food as I’m not guessing and actually know what I’m eating. My portion sizes are absolutely huge too!
I feel so much better for eating the right amount of protein and fibre, loads more energy.

Scientifically, if you eat in a deficit, you will lose body fat. Better to actually know you are in a deficit rather than guessing and then getting disheartened when you don’t lose weight.

Chocolatey1234 · 22/12/2024 16:59

Increase protein and water intake and log absolutely everything on my fitness pal.

I am older than you, heavier and probably taller and I have lost almost 2 stone since mid August.

As well as doing the above I have joined a small group gym class the instructor adapts most exercises for me.

AlbertCamusflage · 22/12/2024 18:35

That's fantastic, @thisoldcity. What an achievement to beat pre-diabetes by eating well.* *I too valued the fact that the low carbing isn't really all about the weight. It is about health and well-being and energy. I never got to the point where a doc said I needed to improve my blood sugar, but I suspect I was travelling in the direction of pre-diabetes as so many people are. And I found that my energy and stamina improved massively when I cut the carbs.
For so many women, myself included, we have had decades of fretting about calories and pounds. The different focus of low carbing for health is liberating -- and it can have the effect of reducing weight even as it gives us the motivation and confidence to develop different goals in place of weight loss.

Disturbia81 · 22/12/2024 20:00

Slawit · 20/12/2024 02:02

I would be interested to know what your eating, I used to believe it was a simple case of calories in should be less than calories used. Unfortunately, its not that simple, not all calories are the same. I have lost a lot of weight recently just by cutting out 95% of processed food from my diet as well as portion size. If it’s not straight out the ground, straight of the tree, straight of the animal then I don’t have it. Then if I have a slow week, I reduce my portion size. How much water are drinking, chances are not as much as you should be.
I also try to include as much super foods as I can. The human body is a very complex machine superfoods help fine tune it to run as efficiently as possible. Best of luck, don’t give up.

Yeah I've never understood people who say it's all about calories in and out.. if I use my calories on carbs and snacks I will gain/maintain weight but on same amount of calories eating veg, meat etc I will lose.

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