Happy that lost weight then a really slim person next to me

[jellyg]

Feel disheartened as lost couple stone
Two more to go but felt better until a women who is probably a size 6 or 8 sat near me and my motivation goes and I think what is the point as I'm never going look like that! I'm size 16.

I’m from continental Europe and your size 6 is often bigger than our size M. So hardly very slim.

The last observation does make me feel rotten as like they said from continental Europe and our size 6 uk medium there. So it's observations like this that do make me feel big and I am big and need to lose two more stone but it's so hard.
Feel looked down on by very thin people at times. Not all people but last comment was an example although I know what poster is saying and it is true.

@jellyg that comment wasn't helpful though.

We all know it's easier to eat healthier when you are in a warmer climate when you want light and fresh salad. Not in the wet and windy UK where a lovely stodgy cottage pie is calling on those long dark nights.
That's not to say you can't have a small serving of cottage pie and fill up on veggies.

You will never be happy with yourself if you keep focusing on looks. Once you have your weight down your focus will switch to saggy skin, wrinkles, stretch marks etc etc. We age, our body's change and are fantastically adaptable to all sizes and changes through pregnancy but they are never going to go back to some golden age ideal of a 20 year old (possibly pre child) body you want. You need to accept your body for what it has achieved and aim for a healthy, nourished body. Not a teeny tiny size where that person may or may not be healthy themselves.

Yes I agree but find it hard to just concentrate on health as lost self esteem when I was told I was no longer attractive. Shocked me as I wasn't massive but was overweight and felt pretty broken as I am older now and have things that aren't perfect with my appearance and can't reverse the clock but when I had lost two stone 7lbs previously felt good then to be told I wasn't attractive just messed my head up. I think about that comment every day. Lost that feeling that someone desired me and never got it back. They had another person in the picture who was very thin and I had always been told you don't want to be too thin with no shape so surprised me.
I am not sure how to feel good anymore and when around thinner women just feel inferior.

I don’t think you can always tell what clothes size someone is just by looking at them. I’m a 14 just now, 5ft 7 and at my lightest weight in years (and possibly ever) but a friend who you’d class as petite due to her height is a size 10 and I’d say she’s a lot curvier/plumper than me. It’s the same with weight, I’d really beat myself up when I was a teen when shorter friends were moaning that they were 9 and half stone and it was the end of the world. Only as I got older did I realise that due to my height and build, 9 and a half stone would not be a healthy weight for me and I’d look unwell.

I think we put too much importance on numbers (I’m still quite bad for it myself).

Size 6 is absolutely not a M in continental Europe. A US 6 is, maybe you're confused. Size 6 is a very small frame not just slim. It could be a M in parts of Asia but not Europe.

OP maybe just sit next to some people much bigger than yourself and use the motivation to not be that big to spur you on.

If it works one way it should work the other!

Sizing seems different everywhere from what people saying.
I get confused with it all.
But I live in uk and would be pleased to be size uk 10 rather than uk 16.
Pathetic I know but that is way my brain working about what would make me feel better at present.