Annoyed

[Witchbitch20]

My husband is obese. Spends all day snacking, no portion control etc etc.

I am overweight but have recently lost a stone. Combination of things including catching Covid - which has resulted in me losing my appetite.

I often cook recipes which are ample for two days meals but he’ll regularly use the “leftovers” which are sufficient for two/three people for “lunch”, whilst I’m in work etc.

I normally eat one meal a day as I don’t have time to eat lunch and can’t face breakfast at 5am. I am fully aware I have bad habits and it’s contributing to my weight. I’m also insomniac, peri-menopausal and a workaholic.

Recently every time I am eating my husband is commenting I’m “stuffing my face” “again”.

I’m really trying not to react to him but I’m getting increasingly irritated and close to snapping.

I don’t know why I’m posting really but today he’s upset me with his running commentary every time I eat.

He sounds…. well to put gently, it the sharpest tool in the box

if you’re eating once a day

surely he’s only mentioning your intake once a day? 😕

That’s ok then @maldensalt

Portion the leftovers into individual tubs and freeze them

Start to track your calories on my fitness pal and encourage him to do the same

Tell him to stop commenting on what you eat and start focussing on himself

You both have bad eating habits, but that is irrelevant he shouldn't be speaking to you like that. What is wrong with reacting when he is being cruel? Have you told him not to? Is he an arsehole or is it misplaced humour?

Is he trying to be funny, in some way? Or does he say it as an attack on you? Either way, I'd tell him that he needs to stop commenting on what you're eating because it's untrue, unhelpful and unkind.

You both seem to have dysfunctional eating habits.

I'd give it right back to him but thinking longer term, you could also turn it around:

'You're right. We've both packed it on lately, haven't we? Let's come up with a meal plan and get healthy together.'

Projection. My ex had an (under) eating disorder and projected his food issues on to me.

portion the leftovers into containers and when he eats yours you ask him why he is eating for two people. And tell him you only eat once a day so you need a bigger portion whereas he is stuffing his face all day long.
Or be smarter with your response and do what @MattDamon suggests.