Jealous of partner’s weight loss

[Icepop79]

I started taking Wegovy on New Years Day this year. I lost 1.5stones quite quickly but my weight loss has plateaued. I’ve lost half a stone over the last 3-4 months. I’m very obese so I have a lot to lose (about 6-7 stone in total). As a result, absolutely no-one has noticed my weight loss.

My partner started taking Mounjaro about 3 months ago. He didn’t have has much to lose as I do, but has lost 2 stone in no time at all. He’s almost at goal weight already. Everyone we see comments on how good he looks and how much weight he’s lost.

I’m really pleased for him but I also can’t help feeling really jealous. He’s made no lifestyle changes. We’ve both found our appetites gave been curbed, and yet his weight loss has been spectacular and I’ve stalled for so long. I’m at the point of just giving up. It all feels so dishearteningly pointless. How do I get past this funk??!

It’s so hard but men do seem to be completely different. It took me 8 months to lose 12kg and my partner went on a semi half hearted diet and lost 12kg in 3 months! I can’t compare myself to my partner, I do think men have completely different metabolisms and bodies so it’s just so hard. My partner can eat double my daily calorie intake normally so even cutting a little bit off will help him but I can’t eat less. This is the downside to being shorter and female! Please don’t let it get you down - well done, keep going. You will get there. Make sure you keep an eye on what you are eating and maybe get a little more active this might help move your plateau?

This happened to me before my wedding. DH to be joined WW with me to be supportive. I lost two pounds week one; he lost 5 and got 'slimmer of the week'. I lost one pound week two; he lost 4 and said he should really stop coming before he lost any more!

@Icepop79 maybe think about swapping to Mounjaro? It may be that you get on better with it than Wegovy.

Eat less exercise more.

Men are so irritating. My DH cuts out biscuits and loses a stone whereas it takes me 6 months of starvation. Men have very different metabolisms.

Def not trying to teach someone to suck eggs here but injections or not, it's still calories in versus calories out so you may not be eating much, but what you are eating may still have too many calories.

Men do tend to lose weight quicker for a variety of reasons.

But Mounjaro has also proven more effective for weight loss, from what I read when I was choosing a weight loss drug. Lots of people have posted on here about the success they've had after switching over as well. And most people have fewer side effects. So I'd consider switching to Mounjaro.

Men do lose weight more easily than women.

now is the time to double down not to give up.

at 7lbs in 3months you are averaging a 250 calorie deficit per day. Bluntly that isn’t much if you are on a semi glutide

you need to:
re look at your food - try logging what you eat in my fitness pal
up your water
up your steps
Consider switching to Mounjaro although I struggle to lose weight and am losing about 5lbs per month on wegovy which suits me tbh

Not meaning to be harsh but giving up easily is why you're 7 stone over weight.

Stop making excuses and just get on with it. You need to adjust your diet too.

Men do lose weight quicker. But it usually comes down to them (usually) naturally burning more calories so it’s easier for them to get into a deficit.

If you are losing very small amounts of weight you are in a very small deficit. The advice of ‘eat less move more’ is simply about creating a deficit. Your weight came off fast at first because you created a big deficit. Now you have lost 2 stone you body doesn’t burn as many calories just moving around and day to day functions so now you are only in a small deficit. You may have also slowly started increasing the amount of calories you take in making the deficit smaller.

Jealousy of his weight loss won’t increase yours, though I understand it. Start really looking at how much you are eating and moving.

This^^

Why would you give up?
You’re desperate to be slim but not desperate enough it seems.
Really examine what you’re eating and tweak your diet.

Aim to eat 1200 calories a day and it will drop off. It’s very achievable especially with the back up of the injections.

Agreed at 7 stone total your BMR should be well over 2000 cals
you should lose 8-12 per month depending

She will make herself ill eating that little,with that amount of weight to loose.
Plus ,I did exactly that and lost a stone in 2 weeks on 1200 calories.
But I put 2 stone back on when I couldn't keep it up .
Slow and steady is the only way to loose weight and keep it of .
Men don't yo yo diet , generally
And it's the yo yo dieting that messes with our metabolism,which is why men seem to loose weight more easily.
Men didn't have the 90s telling them a bowl of cereal was a diet ,and if you can pinch more than an inch you need to diet ..
All the utter crap on dieting aimed at women ,and the medications we are now injecting ourselves with , because we are so desperate to be thin ...with a free side order of pancreatitis
It's not for me ,
Slow and steady wins the race

OK so 1600 calories a day. The NHS recommends people losing weight should eat 400 calories breakfast 600 cal lunch and 600 cal dinner.

Can you switch to Mounjaro? I was on saxenda for nearly a year, I lost weight quickly to start with then plateaued for months and months, I also found I could cheat it and override the effect too easily over time so whilst I didn’t gain weight I didn’t lose anymore either.

I had a break and now on Mounjaro and have been for 4 months ish, I have found it so much better and consistent, it’s a different drug and the stats for weight loss on it are higher

Keep going OP . You do need to look at your calories if you are not loosing weight with Wegovy. Think portions , cutting out alcohol etc. Your partner losing weight should encourage you! Particularly if you are both eating more healthily

So helpful!

I’m sorry Newdog but the “ slimmer of the week “ has had me in stitches. 🤣 I do get how annoying that must have been … but there’s definitely a funny side!

Men lose weight much much quicker, its just how it is.

Weight loss is not a competition, its for you, your health.

You need to calorie count to make sure you are in enough of a calorie deficit

Contrary to other views, I do think low calorie diets are positive at your weight, you will be motivated by the weight coming off and then later once you are much more in the habit of eating less, you can increase slight more, so that you are still in a deficit but your loss slows to around 1lb or half a lb a week to finish off

The more you lose, the easier it then is to move around and support the calorie deficit, its hard when you're very heavy.

www.glamour.com/story/when-weight-loss-is-noticeable

That article helps. Tells you when people will notice. Even if they are too polite to say anything!