it seems everyone struggles with weight fat or thin?

[melonsand]

It has come to my attention that every one is battling weight.
If thin always on it and watching what they eat all the time or been overweight previously and struggle all the time to keep weight down

Or fat and constantly on a diet of some sort to lose weight.

No one is just there and not worrying about it.

What do others think?

Ive never thought about my weight. Ive always been very sporty and eaten what I wanted and staying size 8-10. I only weighed myself when I was pregnant and had to for the Dr.

I have no idea what I weighed as a child, teenager or young adult.

That's good that you sporty as so good for you.
You say you always eat what you want does that mean you don't worry if you eat any very fattening foods as just burn it off?
Do you know what you weigh now?

I don’t think this is true. I never had to watch what I was eating in my younger days and didn’t experience weight gain. It’s only now I’m in my 40’s that I have to give it any thought- weight creeps on gradually if I try to eat like I did in my 20’s and 30’s. I had many years of never thinking about it, I'm sure there are plenty of other people who will be the same. I’m jealous of my younger self 😂.

For me it’s very true - a whole life time of weight obsessing.

I was a fat kid in the 70’s (even though everyone will tell you there were no fat kids in the 70’s) thanks to my DM’s very healthy and unprocessed food but huge portions and puddings. Where my weight was permanently discussed amongst my DP’s and GP’s; how big I was and my DM bemoaning that she couldn’t find any clothes to fit me.

I then lost it all in my late teens and subscribed to the Kate Moss way of thinking ‘Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels’ and tbf most of my friends were as obsessed too. Everything was low fat and minimal calories.

I have never put it back on but my god it’s been a lifetime of what feels like my body wanting to go back to set point constantly and always having to eat within a certain calorie range.

I eat very well, very sporty but it’s a constant battle to keep my weight down.

I always recall reading about a woman's mother who was lying in her death bed as it were. The woman who was dying (and in her 80s) told her daughter that her greatest regret in life was dieting for so many decades, "And for what? I wish now I'd allowed myself to have the extra glass of wine, that extra helping of something delicious. Now look at me, I'm thin but old and now almost dead. Don't diet all the time, dear". I try and remember that when I'm feeling depressed about my stomach rolls and chubby face.

Me yes, I’m slim but I’m short and have a sweet tooth so have the watch my weight. I don’t obsess though, I just need to be careful.

Yes ive always been slim but also always completely obsessed with my weight and keeping fit. I do feel guilty when i eat junk food at the weekend. its hard to let go and stop counting calories, when youve done it for years it happens automatically.

Yeah I normally weigh 7.5st and I've put on 3lbs

I'm distraught and probably won't eat properly again until it's off

I can't even relax on holidays, I literally cannot enjoy eating anything

I know some people that don't struggle with their weight, and they seem to fall into three camps:

1. they are people that just aren't that interested in food full stop. It doesn't occur to them to snack because they don't really think of food generally. They see food as fuel and eat just enough to get by, or eat the same thing over and over without getting bored because they just don't really notice or care. These people often miss meals because they kind of forget that eating needs to happen. (They can be incredibly frustrating to go on holiday with...)

2. they do so much exercise or have such active jobs that they can eat whatever they like without thinking too much about it, eg. that friend who does an hour on a rowing machine every day, has a 5 year peloton streak, does a 3 hour bike ride every Sat and Sun, etc.

3. they have lots of cultural rules around food that they follow pretty much unconsiously but have the result of keeping their calorie intake down, eg. absolutely no snacking between meals, never eating standing up or walking around, meals always at the same time daily, extremely small portion sizes, never have seconds, only one glass of wine, no bread except on the weekend etc. (thinking here of my French SIL and observing )

It doesn't mean they don't have loads of other struggles but this is what I've observed from the people in my life who don't appear outwardly to struggle much with their weight.

Another who has only had to think about it late 30s and early 40s, and more because I suddenly got hit with intolerances, bloating etc, literally overnight I found weight to be ‘a thing’. And now I remember my mum talking about the same thing at the same age! Yes, I think most people I know mention/ are aware of weight

That's an earring disorder.

No fully grown female adult needs to be stressing over 3lb weighing 7.5 stone. I hope you manage to get some help.

This is me also - I always loved food, but never really gained anything. Never had massive portions or anything but pretty much ate whatever I wanted and stayed slim.

I'm 39 and have only really felt aware of my weight creeping up by a few pounds in the last year or two. Mostly because my middle seems to have bloated out a bit (even though I'm still a size 8/10 like I have been for years). I'm still in the same clothes but a bit self conscious about my tummy whereas I never was before.

I have upped my exercise and feeling fitter, but also realising I probably can't go on eating like I did for most of my life and not worry about it.

Very annoying when I never had to think about it before.

I was stressed about food as a child as I had puppy fat. Lost lots of weight and then never really thought about it during my 20s and 30s - I ate pretty much what I liked and drank a lot of alcohol! Did no exercise and was always an 8-10. Now I eat more, drink less alcohol, do even less exercise and the weight has piled on!! Pretty unhappy about it at the moment I have to say, none of my clothes fit and I feel so unattractive. I do have a toddler now, so that’s the only thing I am happy about and trying to be grateful!