Can someone talk some sense into me please?

[iwantsunshine1]

I'm not overweight. I'm 36 5'0 and weigh 111 pounds. My bmi is around 21.8. The issue is I used to weigh 104 pounds and I looked so much better and everything fit me. I'm a pear shape and have massive saddle bags and since putting on this weight I've had to buy new jeans as nothing fits me. I feel so gross looking in the mirror but I've tried and tried to lose the weight and I can't do it!! I'm not overweight so why can't I just accept my body after birthing 2 kids. I'm unhappy with my weight but unhappy to keep unsuccessfully dieting. I just want to get to a happy place of not caring anymore and accepting, any advice?

Honestly? Exercise. I don't mean exercise for the sake of it to burn calories, but finding ways to move, something to enjoy - dancing, hiking, lifting heavy weights, cycling, yoga, anything that you enjoy.
I have become so much happier with my body when I think about what it can do, rather than how it looks. My body is there to help me run, climb, play with my nieces and nephews, not to serve an aesthetic dreamed up by men! You've created two humans, you should be well bloody proud of your body!

I know it sounds cheesy but that switch in focus has really helped me. I've followed some athletes and Paralympians on social media as well and that's helped me rethink

This article is a good starting point

https://fitisafeministissue.com/2013/12/03/the-shape-of-an-athlete/?amp=1

Also - try some new clothing brands, clothes should fit us, not the other way round.