Feeling discouraged

[Iwant2live]

I made steps in my diet to lose weight 23 days ago. I'm losing weight at a consistent rate, but I'm quite large. I have so far to go! I try to focus on making healthy choices day to day rather than setting a far off goal. My mind just keeps coming back to how much I have to lose and that's where I get discouraged. I'm in this situation because of my horrible choices. I've turned my body into a prison! I will not give up, but I'm just so down mentally. My husband is supporting me but not joining me. I try to encourage him to make better choices as well because I want him healthy. He just keeps giving me excuses. I want us to live longer healthier lives together. He's a smoker, and a big fella. A partner would make this journey a lot less lonely. I love him with every piece of my body and soul. It's been a long 23 days. I'm satisfied with my progress, truly. I will not give up on life. I want to live.

Sounds like you're doing a great job @Iwant2live It's been less than a month, keep it up, you've got this!
When your husband sees your progress he's sure to join in too. Do you do the majority of the cooking?
Keep in mind other people will only start to notice weight loss when you've dropped around 10% of your starting weight.
Best wishes x

Well done you! Getting started can be the hardest part.

I have a lot to lose and I have set myself mini goals along with rewards. So hand cream or cheapy earphones for walking, nicer shampoo than I’d usually buy.

Its helping break the weight loss into manageable chunks and train myself away from food-based treats.

@Dumpsterfire I do all of the grocery shopping, meal preparation, and cooking. He eats what I cook, but he's also purchasing a lot of fast foods and sodas when he's out. Maybe you're right. Once he sees my own results he'll make different decisions.

@LemonTurdCart I'm proud of you. I will definitely keep this up. It's easier now than it was in the start. When I realize how far I have to go, I guess I'm also realizing how badly I've messed up by letting things get this far. I want to forgive myself. I think if I can find a way to do that, then maybe I'll stop being so hard on myself.

That’s great that you are in command of the shopping and cooking, much easier for you to make a plan and stick to it.
Don't let your success be conditional on what your husband decides to do. It makes sense that you want the best for him, but you are also worth the best!

@LemonTurdCart Thank you. I needed to hear that. Good luck on your journey.

I'm in exactly the same boat. I posted a month ago after I accidentally weighed myself and found out I weighted 16 stone. I've been calorie counting aggressively for the past 4 weeks and have lost 7 lbs but it's been bloody difficult. I'm very discouraged. It'll take so long to lose over 6 stone especially as I'm over 50, sedentary with PCOS.

DH is very overweight as well and not helping.

I'm just trying to picture myself on next years holiday looking less like something likely to be accidentally harpooned on a beach.

@fresherprincess We just have to stay focused. We can do this. Hopefully the men decide to follow. I love myself enough to keep pushing. We deserve this 😉