I am 5ft3 and 105kg and I need to do something about it

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I am the largest I've ever been. I weighed myself and I am 105kg. I had a baby a year ago and I weighed 96kg when DC was born. I was 90kg when I got pregnant. I was trying to lose weight before I got pregnant and then when I found out I was pregnant the doctor advised against trying to lose weight whilst pregnant.

Since having DC, I've had pelvic floor issues and a very bad back - my pelvic floor physio told me to avoid anything high impact, no running, jumping, no heavy weights etc.

I really would like to have another baby but there is no way I can get pregnant while I'm this heavy. I already feel like I can't move or bend down easily sometimes. It is so awful.. I have been rough size 10 my whole life (perhaps not the most slimmest person ever but not fat). I always had to work very hard to maintain a size 10 - being careful with food and exercising regularly.

For some reason DH and I had an awful relationship after we got married - we were both awful and perhaps depressed and in 3 years I went from 60kg to 90kg (ie. when pregnant with DC). That is what I attribute to my weight gain. We seem to have figured out our issues and work well as parents and are happier/kinder with each other these days.

I have bought a walking pad and I know I need to stop getting take out for our meals. It's not necessarily fried foods we eat but I feel like takeout/restaurant meal portions are so big and I just eat myself silly.

I would very much love advice from anyone who has managed to lose weight from being so heavy/unhealthy. I find it exhausting juggling everything with DC and life and health etc. but I am very determined to change.

TIA x

I went from 55kgs to 80 kgs post pregnancy, eventually got back down after a year. Took a lot of determination and initially felt impossible. But I took up exercise and wanted to feel fit, the stronger I became the earlier it was

Have you thought about options like Orlistat?
I've just started on it and lost 6lbs in a week. It binds a third of the fat you eat so that it doesn't get metabolised. You can get it on prescription from your GP if your BMI is 30 or above I think. (I've bought privately, it's about £35 a month).
It also encourages you to eat more healthily as you can't eat too much fat - if you do there are bathroom-related side effects 😂

Mounjaro has changed my life, I know there's a lot of scaremongering going in about weight loss medication but apart from a small bit of constipation I have got on really well with it, I've lost a stone in a month, something I never ever thought possible but the best thing about it is how it's made me so aware of how I got big in the first place.
I will never, ever let that happen again.

I need to stop getting take out for our meals. It's not necessarily fried foods we eat but I feel like takeout/restaurant meal portions are so big and I just eat myself silly.

You probably know what you need to do, but you actually need to WANT to do it...... and do it.

My suggestions:

• intermittent fasting
• healthy Mediterranean diet
• eat food, not too much, mostly plants
• specifically: 60% of your plate is vegetables, 30% lean protein, 10% complex carbs - plus small amounts of healthy fats and dairy.
• stay clear of UPS, sugar, alcohol, 'snacks'.

And exercise daily, in line with your physics advice.

Me too. I was reluctant to use anything like that for ages as I thought it meant I was weak. Eventually I realised I just wasn’t able to do it alone after decades of trying and failing. It’s been like a miracle for me. I still eat and enjoy my food but never feel the need to binge or over do it. My appetite is far smaller than it used to be and the weight is dropping off. I haven’t noticed any side effects except some mild nausea when I go up a dose.

Walk. Not only on a pad, but also outside - with a pram, to a shop, to your exercise class. It is hard to muster energy and discipline to commit to daily workouts, but it is very easy to walk while listening to audiobooks or podcasts or music. Even if your diet slips, but you are walking a lot - you are still walking towards progress. Also get yourself a smaller size plate. It is hard to weigh and measure out portions all day, every day. Smaller plate makes it less precise, but easier to stick to.

The first easy step you can do is portion control. Unless you’re a bodybuilder or a competitive athlete you don’t need over 2000 kcal in a single meal and that’s easily a whole pizza. Eat half of your takeaway, eat the other half for lunch. If you buy Indian, skip naan and eat only half of rice. If you buy Chinese, don’t go for a five course option, just one dish and eat half of it.

The second easy step is to get rid of snacks, nobody needs a house full of snacks. Feel like snacking? Wait 10 minutes, drink a glass of water and only then get some fruit.

Walk outside. There are enormous benefits to exercising outside the house and walking on a pad sounds as boring as it is. If you have incontinence issues walk outside with a pad and listen to the podcast Why Mums Don’t Jump.

If you don’t feel motivated enough think about your back and your pelvic floor. With all the weight there’s a lot of strain on them and it doesn’t get better with time, it gets worse as you age.

I think I must be eating like a normal person, it's opened my eyes to how much I was overeating, I know it's not for everyone but I'm the same, struggling with my weight for over 10 years, nothing worked, because I literally couldn't get my head around eating like a normal person.
Hoping good habits forming will give me the motivation to continue when I eventually come off the medication, just seeing my collarbone again is enough motivation to never ever let myself get that way again.

If you can afford a personal trainer

Different situation but my DH is quite a bit overweight and has been battling with weight loss on and off for the past 5 yrs or so.

The things he has found that work for him and are not massively too hard work are:

• Regularly going running and/or swimming on an evening, at least a few times a week.
• Skipping breakfast, not eating anything until lunch time. Personally I absolutely couldn't do this but it doesn't really bother him energy wise or anything so it's an easy (for him) way to skip out on calories.
• Not snacking. So just eating lunch and then an evening meal, nothing else at all unless really hungry such that it's disturbing him from for example sleeping.

May not be good tactics for you but sharing just in case.

Thank you everyone. I would like to try without the medication. I am sure my GP would prescribe it though.

I think snacking is a real problem for me. In fact, I probably eat one meal a day and snack A LOT.

Yes absolutely. To be able to eat a meal, enjoy it, and not immediately be craving more food has been the most wonderful feeling in the world. I too feel like a normal person with my relationship towards food. Wish I hadn’t put it off so long by being silly and thinking it showed weakness. We only get one body and if a medication helps us to take better care of it then why sniff at it?

It's the food you (don't) eat that will move the scale. Don't go on medication until you've made a serious effort without.
Get a tracker app like My Fitness Pal. And a kitchen scale.
Plan your meals in advance and weigh and measure everything to get the right portion and log everything. The milk in your tea, that 'bite' off your husband's plate, that several tastes of whatever you are cooking.
Figure out your TDEE and reduce by 500 calories (should lead to about 1lb/week loss). As you drop weight recalculate. I eat two meals a day, mostly vegetables and protein at lunch then a normal dinner of about 850 calories, totalling about 1350 when I add a couple teas, an apple and a half slice toast I eat for snacks.
And as people have suggested walking is great, and you can bring your baby along!
Ask yourself: Do I want to look/feel like this this Christmas? No? Then get tracking.

Slimming world!! You can eat as much as you like of certain things. It’s great.

Mounjaro has only been a week for me and already has changed everything. I've hardly thought about food for a week. I haven't had a drink and haven't wanted one. I certainly wouldn't want to take away or a big meal. I feel sick at the thought of that. If you can afford takeaway you can afford to do this.

Basically the food noise in your head just stops. You don't think about food. When you eat it you are not eating it like an addict, just as someone who can take it or leave it. Therefore it's easier to plan healthy food. You feel full quicker and the food takes longer to leave your system so you're not as hungry so quickly.

Find another physio and ask properly. I got pelvic pain and back pain aswell and it was really bad when pregnant. I have to use a wheelchair because even standing its soo painful. I still have to be in wheelchair even after i giving birth. But my physio never tell me to not doing excersise.

now i’m lose weight and i’m doing weightlifting and my pelvic pain and back pain are gone. Pelvic pain and back pain its because the muscle not strong enough. If you have strong muslce it will really helps.

i used to be denial and i dont lift heavy at all. But i realise i was wrong because i’m getting bigger and bigger.

go to other pyshio and ask for opinion abiut excersize. Maybe you can start from stretching and doing light exercise then move to more dynamic exercises.

never in this world i hear exercise its bad.