Getting over your past to succeed

[Daisypod]

I've been overweight as long as I can remember and while I know I have to take responsibility for my eating there are also things I recognise from my life which haven't helped.
This has come about due to a random discussion today, completely unrelated and I just wanted somewhere I could put these thoughts down rather than hiding them.
Anyway someone was talking about raa raa skirts in the 80's and did I have one. My first thought was 'no my mum wouldn't let me as it made me look too fat', I couldn't have been more than 8 or 9. It was only after that thought that I realised I have loads of examples of these type of comments and it must have had an effect on my body image.
I need to move past this now.
Anyone else feel things in the past have affected how they are now.

I've comfort eaten for years. Blamed it on something from my childhood. Then I split with STBEH and I've eaten one meal a day since. It's made me poorly and I know I need to sort it. I hardly ever feel hungry but do feel weak, wobbly, sick but feel soo scared to eat in case I get hugely fat again. I still carry the emotional food will make me feel better when it won't. It's just fuel.

So hard. I feel for you.

I have lipodema and my legs always looked unusual. Even if I was tiny on top, I had these trunk legs and I was so self conscious. I didn’t know what it was till a few years ago. When I was 15 my then boyfriend sent me to slimming world with his mum.

Ever since then I have not got my legs out in public and swimming was always hard I would feel so anxious. I didn’t go on holiday for years so I could avoid being in a beach. I have had a lot of therapy and it’s really helped me accept my flaws and now I will have my legs out in shorts. Accepting ourselves for who we are is an important step to acceptance and self love, from there we then start to value ourselves a lot more. Good luck on your journey x

Thank you both, and good luck to you both on your journeys too.

@Menora an ex told me I had legs like tree trunks and so I lived in trousers. Got too hot in the summer. Then a couple of years I thought fuck this, if anyone looks at me in my shorts and doesn't like my legs they don't have to look again. I'm not being uncomfortable because of anyone else.

someone then pointed out how strong tree trunks are and what they hold up..

Someone once said they were envious of my legs as they are smooth and I don’t get shaving rash. This was a friend who had skinny legs. This honestly made me realise we all have our insecurities and even she didn’t think my legs were gross, she was more upset about her own! So I really think we worry more than people ever look or judge

I think most people dislike something about themselves and want or admire something in someone else. I always wanted to be a particular friend. She was pretty and slim and had gorgeous legs. But I've learnt she's not a true friend so I'll take my fat legs and enjoy that I'm a loyal and supportive friend to those who have stood by me.