Saw someone I'd not seen in a year today...

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And they immediately commented on my weight loss, even though I think the bulk of it was before when I saw them last, I must have lost more since then.

The thing is, I don't know if it's because I had a difficult day today (yesterday), but I feel really uncomfortable about it and I don't feel pleased, but I don't know why. I feel vaguely unsettled but I without being able to quantify why.

Has anyone else experienced the same? What did you make of it?

Well yes - I've had a lot of comments recently as have lost quite a bit in the last year. I think it's because when people say you look great - well by default that means you must have looked terrible before (!) - and also because I know how easy it could be to go back there and that would be even more humiliating after all the congratulations. Also it means they're looking at my body and that makes me feel uncomfortable.

That said - some people have not even mentioned it and that's also slightly weird as after 7.5 stone I do look quite different I suppose!

Can't win!!

Unfortunately they didn't say I looked great 😬

Yes, maybe you're right and it's the implications for their opinion of how I looked before.

Edit: Or maybe it's that them commencing shows that what I suspected when I weighed more actually was true: that people are evaluating your appearance and have it at the forefront of their mind all the time. They must be, or else they wouldn't have noticed the change in your appearance.

Ive lost 4 and half stone and am now at a 'normal' weight for the first time in a long time. We saw my dad over Easter and he kept telling me how good i look now and 'make sure you dont go back to the way you were before'. I found it quite insulting not least because my sister was there and she is also extremely overweight and just looked really uncomfortable. Obviously i dont want to gain the weight again but there is a chance i might and i dont like the thought of my dad judging me and thinking less of me because of the number on the scales.

Maybe they didn't say you looked great because they were not sure if it was all intentional weight loss. Generally if you haven't seen someone for a year they are not in your inner circle of friends so maybe they said about the weight loss but then suddenly thought that perhaps they were inappropriate.

Lost 6st and had somebody the other night (who hadnt seen me since I lost weight) actually not recognize me until she heard my voice!!😱
Had quite a few double takes as well and people telling me I look better....and asking if I meant to lose weight!😁
It is weird to no longer be recognized. TBH I veer between thinking I look exactly the same and being thrilled with how 'skinny' I now look. I think major weight loss does a real number on your self image. I know I dont feel like me some days.

If it was someone you hadn’t seen for a while they might have been worried you had a serious illness but did not want to pry. It’s a tricky situation. Especially if you were having a difficult day and were not twirling with joy.
probably feeling uncomfortable comes from you sensing there was something unsaid on their part and wondering what it was.

If I saw a friend after a year and she had pink hair, I would comment on it. It wouldn't mean I was judging her hair and thinking to myself that it had looked terrible when it was brown...
I think the comment made to you was positive or neutral but you are interpreting it negatively because of your own issues.

Coming back to this after a weekend of seeing people I haven't seen for a good 6+ months and a number of them feeling that my weight was an appropriate topic of conversation. It made me cringe. How much do you weigh...how much have you lost...you mustn't lose any more.... Honestly not questions you normally ask people. And kept coming back to it. So I asked them how much they weighed too.

I really don't want to tell people how much I have lost - it's a big old number and results in more shocked looks. Also - my bmi is just over 25 and I'm not yet at my goal weight (I'm certainly not skinny) and I absolutely don't have to justify whatever goals I have do I?!