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The CONSTANT comments... How to deal?

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StrudelStrider · 15/01/2024 19:30

I've lost weight, mostly intentionally as a result of diet and exercise, but I long story short I was also having panic attacks and generally in a bad place which is why I took up walking.
I've lost about five stone since April and , honestly, I am sick to death of the constant comments. It makes me feel humiliated even though I know people mean well, but when I heard the FIFTH comment from a random colleague today I just totally ignored it. Just today I've had an email from someone telling me how fantastic I now look, a "concerned" colleague telling me not to lose any more, someone literally stop their car pull over and tell me how much weight I've lost (?!) Someone else saying "you've lost half your body weight). It's just.too.much.
They all think they're the first to say it and coming from a good place but for me it's CONSTANT. I just don't want to think about it and rightly or wrongly, it actually upsets me.
Am I alone in this? Does anyone have any advice?
I just feel like I am being monitored, like I was never good enough before, not worth much when if truth be told I just want someone to tell me that they value the work I do, or that I'm a good friend or something , anything unrelated to my weight.

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 15/01/2024 19:34

Get a badge made. 'YES I'VE LOST WEIGHT. NOW SHUT UP.'

KissMyArt · 15/01/2024 19:38

It'll be yesterday's news soon enough.

Have you just got back from a long break or something?

It's unusual to get so many comments from people who see you on a daily or weekly basis, as weightloss is a gradual thing.

Doggymummar · 15/01/2024 19:40

I've lost the same and noone has said a word! It must be annoying tho, tell them I'd rather you didn't make personal comments, thankyou. Are you a healthy weight now?

Peeweelooloo · 15/01/2024 19:49

I’ve lost 5.5st and gone down to a size 8. I usually only get comments if someone hasn’t seen me for a while as it really is like part of me has disappeared. I enjoy the comments as see my weight loss as a huge accomplishment. I’ve had a couple of comments along the lines of ‘make sure you don’t lose too much’ but I just smile and say I’m perfectly on track.

if you’re uncomfortable with comments and don’t feel brazen enough to ask them to stop just change conversation. I find that works really well and stops any embarrassment.

if your overweight/obese then weight loss is a huge accomplishment. It’s not easy to do and if you’ve purposefully tried and managed to lose weight it’s a big thing. People want to compliment and praise generally. Embrace and enjoy your new body, you’ve worked hard for it x

DrJump · 15/01/2024 20:21

Could you have a stick phrase that doesn't mention weight as response. "Oh yes I have so much more energy". "thanks I'm feel really healthy"

On the whole people mention stuff like weightloss to be friendly and supportive.

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