Struggling, one last shot before surgery

[Desperateinseattle]

Some of you may have seen a recent thread I put in Aibu. I am considering a weight loss surgery because I simply cannot lose and keep weight off. I am 5’2 and 14.5 stone. I want to be 10.5st. It’s not HUGE, I should be able to do it, I have done it. But I cannot stop binging and I pile it on so quick. I was 12st 4 just 3 months ago. It’s beyond ridiculous now. I am SICK of myself, sick of day one. Over and over and over.

I’ve tried saxsenda, but had some early signs of gallstones and freaked out.

I have a lot of ongoing stress in my life that I won’t be able to change, there is so much noise in my life that I cannot seem to get going with anything right now. So not even a case of getting stuck in, getting it off and trying to keep it off now, I can’t even get started this time. I’m tired and I’m bored of my own shit.

what should I do? Try a different injection? Seems harder to get hold of than last summer, wegovy appears out of stock for most part. Is it better than saxsenda or am I just hashing another failure under my belt?

The thing is, if you can't keep the weight off now, then it's unlikely you'll keep it off after surgery. And if you have surgery but then gain weight, you'll be at risk of all kinds of serious problems. Don't do it.

You should be able to lose weight and keep it off for a significant amount of time before considering surgery to help further.

14.5 stone is not that bad. Any surgery is risky and it's crazy to consider it in your situation. You should be focusing on the root causes of your weight problem, not on an expensive and risky quick fix that is unlikely to work. Good luck.

I see a therapist week in week out, I feel that I’m doing all that I can. If surgery is not the final option then what is? Just accept I’m fat and continue getting bigger and bigger?

I agree with PP, surgery won't help if you have an issue with binging.

Is there any way you can pinpoint what is triggering you to binge in the first place?

It's an addiction issue. For some people it's drugs, alcohol, sex. For you it's food.

Re-setting your relationship with food is really hard. One step at a time.

First - ditch the sugar. All of it. It's a terrible addiction.

Stop crash dieting which I assume you will be, make small and sustainable changes you can keep up with long term.

It's head stuff. I do Slimpod. It has sorted out my disordered eating. It's not a quick fix, but then you've probably taken years to get where you are now. There's a free trial and a money back guarantee. It is liberating not to think or feel guilty about food. Eat less, move more, choose better and you do it without even realising.

As others said on your previous post -

1. Surgery won't fix binge eating disorder
2. If you had gallstones with something else, you will definitely get gallstones after WLS.

You need a therapist and to find a way of coping with stress in your life that is not binge eating. Whilst also actively trying NOT to lose weight. (Which is what I am doing currently. I actually also ended my relationship and most of my binge eating stopped after that TBH!).

That’s a lot of weight in 3 months, the issue is not going to be resolved by surgery, in fact it will likely make it worse.

there are binge eater supprt groups, you need to fix the mental health root cause, not the physical symptom.

Go on youtube and watch a video where Gary Taubes discusses one of his books.

Understand how your body works, what it does with the food you put in it.

Then watch Georgine Ede and see how diet effects your mental health.

Then for fun watch Zoe Harcombe analyse where our dietary advice actually came from.