Help me get my motivation to lose weight? Feeling really down.

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Sorry, this will probably be a bit long!

I'm 5ft 1 and 11stone 4lbs. It probably wouldn't be so bad if I was tall, but I'm not. And so I look terrible.

Cellulite everywhere now, even on my upper arms, wobbly, - you get the picture.

I need to lose weight desperately, but I keep eating crap food and I am addicted to carbs. I used to be able to exercise a lot and I went to the gym often but I now suffer with groin pain if I do to much and then I can't walk! This really has put a limit on what I can do, as I feel like I have to ‘save’ myself for work, as I need to be able to travel there and walk around during the day.
When my groin pain is really bad I can’t even take a step forward without crying out in pain.

I’ve been to physio and they said I need to strengthen my muscles , I did the exercises but then I was in pain?! I don’t handle pain well.

Now I’m in this limbo where what motivates me - exercise and cardio, feeling like I’m burning lots of calories is something I can’t do without ending up in pain for a few days after… and so I just don’t do it.

The other thing that I find depressing is that even when I was 8stone, I still thought I was fat. So am I just always going to feel like that?

I could go on and on… but I’m only mid 30’s. I want to set a good example to my children and I need to get this weight off.

I really feel so miserable :( but when I’m eating pizza, chocolate, chips etc I feel so happy! Ugh.

I also feel like my metabolism is absolutely screwed. When I used to go on holiday I would gain weight but within a couple of weeks after returning it would all come back off. Now, whenever I gain weight that becomes my new baseline until I go on holiday again!

Help. I really don’t know what to do.
Well; I suppose I do.
But how?
And what if my metabolism is sluggish after years of yo-yo dieting?

I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life and I have to do something before it gets worse :(

Hi there, I’m sorry you are finding it tough. It’s really tough to be in this position.

Im not an expert but having bad pain and injuries myself, perhaps you do need to look at more Pilates based exercises - to a basic level that you are comfortable with to build up your muscle strength and stamina?

you could go back to the physio and ask for more help, constant pain isn’t good. Why is it hurting, what’s the reason?

You know you will feel better if you cut down on junk food, it’s just trapping you into feeling miserable but it’s hard to do. Could you start by making some small healthy swaps?

your metabolism is not one singular function that is independent of everything else. It’s not one special organ or one chemical you need to do something magic to reset, or broken and needs repairing. Living and breathing and organs working and chemical reactions are metabolic functions and if you fuel your body with the wrong foods, your body, muscles, organs etc aren’t going to function as well together as they would if you were fuelling differently, sleeping well, exercising etc. Your metabolism only functions as well as you care for it. A doctor can’t give you a special pill or therapy to make you have a better metabolism

Does it hurt to walk? If it doesn't cause too much discomfort maybe start with walking? A brisk ten minutes can get your heart pumping but if that's too much just walk at a pace that gets you out? It's something maybe you could do with your DC? Being outside can lift our spirits. A walk round a green space could help you feel more positive.

Perhaps you're overwhelmed by the thought of everything you feel you need to change? It might be easier to set yourself some smaller targets to be achieved each day and slowly build up? I wonder if you're looking at the whole thing as a great big problem to solve. That is overwhelming so just start small.

As the last poster said, important to find out why you've still got pain as that is what's holding you back.

I'm sure you probably don't look as bad as you think you do. I'm short myself so I know that anything gained shows up quickly. We then beat ourselves up. It is something you want to change though so that's good - that's better than being oblivious and not being prepared to help yourself.

If it would help, I'm starting the next low carb Bootcamp on 11 September.

The sign-up thread is here

@Myfirstcarwasamini i agree too, small wins small goals. OP my first goal was to stop eating sweets and cakes. I did this, then the next week I was like now I am going to stop eating crisps. Then alcohol. Slowly, I built up to cutting out things that were not helping me. You can’t wake up and say ok I am going to change everything because it will be too hard. Just change one thing today, and stick with that for now.

You need the pain addressed before you exercise but your diet is how you lose weight so exercise can come later on.

You are older now and your metabolism is older, as your body ages you have kids, hormones, body changes. I also don’t have the body of my 20’s and can’t just lose 6lbs in 2 weeks and go back to how we looked none of us can, I’ve had kids I will always look different to how I used to.