How on earth do I stop being such a greedy pig?

[Givemestrengthorvodka]

Every single day I wake up telling myself today is the day I will stop eating crap and stop drinking so much. Roll on bed time when I'm 3 (strong) g&t's deep, face down in a family sized bag of Revels berating myself once again for being such a failure.
How the hell do i stop being like this? I understand what I need to do, I have all the info I need....just apparently a complete lack of willpower. How on earth do I change my habits for longer than 3 days at a time 😬.
Send help, please!

For me a lot has to do with what I have trained myself to see as that ‘and relax’ moment.

It’s a habit. And a sort of addiction because I depend on it. Plus the sugar and alcohol bring do actually hook you in.

I did have to struggle for 3-5 days to break the habit. Invent a new regime: an enjoyable protein based snack ( Brie and oatcakes / hummus and something..) at that danger moment, a cup of hot ginger tea, and taking care to recognise it as that ‘and relax’ moment.

Then I watched engrossing box sets (binge watched Shetland and Happy Valley) to take my mind off nipping to the fridge and back.

I’m slipping back now (summer ice cream habit) so need to re-introduce a regime.

Also, after even one successful snack time give yourself credit for looking after yourself. Use success , however modest, as your motivator. Find ways to see yourself as nurturing your body, rather than seeing changing your habits as punitive, and beating yourself up.

You've all remotivated me and I've just weighed myself which has also motivated (and horrified me!).
Ill try to focus on a week at a time. This coming week I have a night out on Saturday so will have a drink then but the rest of the week is quiet so a good chance to prioritise this. My main challenge this week is not drink any other day.
I've also had a look at keto and joined up to a free trial with diet doctor where the recipes actually look really nice and pretty simple.

Wish me luck. Bugles be gone 🫡

How was last night op and what do you have planned for today?

Does your partner drink too much too? Could you do this together?

@Strawberryboost partner and kids thankfully not like me! They will happily choose fruit and yoghurt etc to snack on..my husband has no sweet tooth and hardly drinks at all. He's probably about 5lbs heavier than when we met 20 odd years ago!

Feeling good today, just been out a lovely walk with a friend for an hour, about to make a carb free fry up (lean bacon, mushrooms, tomato, eggs and beans). And got my meal plan for the week so will go shopping this afternoon for that.

I hope I don't come across as 'woe me' on this thread. I'm really very happy, and active generally, I just really need to improve my eating habits and lose some weight.

I know you say you’re not depressed, but drinking every night or Most nights, especially alone, is surely an indication that perhaps you’re not happy?

brilliant you have been out. Fresh air, nature, perfect.

enjoy and good luck m
stopping the drink will impact everything, for the better

I appreciate what your saying @Strawberryboost but I disagree. I'm not drinking alone...I'm having a g&t and Crisps while cooking the family dinner with DH, kids and dog dotting about the house with me. I've had anxiety in the past and I'm very aware of how I feel and act when I'm feeling shit. But this is not it...this is just bad habits that although I enjoy, I recognise are not healthy and not doing me any favours. I also have an all or nothing attitude so that one g&t while cooking dinner is enough to make me feel like I've blown it for the day and so I eat all the Crisps and chocolate thinking ill start again tomorrow.

@Strawberryboost I definitely think stopping the drinking will help...it all spirls from there, even if its just one g&t it's enough to trigger that 'fuck it' attitude.

If you are the only person drinking, then you are drinking alone

Set yourself a challenge of not drinking today? You will feel wonderful tomorrow

Well no, she’s the only person drinking. But she’s not alone.

Exactly what my mother, a functioning alcoholic, used to say to my dad

Honestly my response was a linguistic correction. No more.

Alone in drinking alcohol

i should have said to be correct

So far so good for today, non carby fry up was a success, homemade lentil soup for dinner followed by Greek yoghurt with Blueberries and walnuts. No alcohol consumed and I'm going out tonight somewhere where i wont be eating or drinking. So I am feeling very righteous and will count today as a win 🏆😁

Keep it up and don't worry if you have the odd slip up. Your tastes do change and veg and salads start to become the norm.

How’s today gone oP?

Hey @Strawberryboost, going good! I've made a start and not had any alcohol or crappy food since Saturday. Its been tough but I have a few tasty meals in my plan that I enjoy enough to look forward to so I'm not feeling like giving in.

Two surprises so far are that it has been very easy to give up sugar in my tea. I haven't had any all week and don't think I'll ever go back to it. And I've discovered a love for fried cabbage. I can share the ingredients if anyone wants them but it tastes and smells like doner kebab filling and is delicious.

Scales this morning tell me I've lost 6lbs already but that must be water or magic 😁.

Thanks for checking in!

Sob, everytime I want to lose weight my target weight is my precious start weight. I can’t believe I used to be 10 stone and now I’m over 16 stone.

@Moonlightsonatas I'm exactly the same. I would kill to be the weight I was the first time I thought I was 'too heavy'!

It’s true when they say you waste your best looking years thinking you’re fat!

Wow!!! Op this is brilliant

Thanks @Strawberryboost - just need to try and stick with it long term this time around!

I am challenging myself to not eat in my car this week, I do a lot of rubbish eating when I am alone. It’s tough as I usually get through bags of Haribo while commuting.

Good luck @Moonlightsonatas , let me know how it goes!