Weight loss struggle

[Chewie92]

2 months ago I started my weight loss journey as I'm getting married next summer and I'd love to look and feel my best.

When I started I was 14st 4 which for my height puts me as obese. I've got a goal of 10st but I keep getting knocked down by no weight loss but instead gaining more weight.

I'm in a calorie deficit 6 days a week sometimes 7 (depends if I've caved to a bit of chocolate at the weekend), I exercise 4 times a week which is worked around being a busy mum to a 9 month old, the food I'm eating is as healthy as I can make it and I'm drinking 1.5 to 2 litres of water every day. How am I 2 months later 14st 8 now.

Any advise from others who have perhaps struggled to begin with?

Hi OP I'm five weeks in to my weight loss and I've lost a stone. Partly this is because I have a lot to lose so weight will initially come off quicker.
I use My Fitness Pal. I log absolutely everything, weighing it if need be. I totally ignore exercise calories. They are way overestimated.
I also do I F: 14:10 or if I can manage it 16:8. This helps me feel fuller and more satisfied with the meals I do eat. I'm not convinced about the other benefits but who knows - they are not quantifiable in the same way.
Due to my height (5' 10") I eat around 1500-1600 calories a day. I'm fairly sedentary but I do resistance training a couple times a week, and I'm over 60. I think maintenance will be 2000-2100.
Today I'm eating (planned ahead):
Breakfast: egg, 50gr smoked salmon, handful tomatoes, tea with milk (234 cal)
Lunch: big salad, dressing, toasted half a sandwich - with seeded bread - with ham and a little cheese, 1/2 avocado (447 cal)
Dinner: Hello Fresh bbq pork and pepper stew on rice (786 cal).
Total for Day: 1467.
If I didn't have the avocado I could have two caramel rice cakes after dinner as a sweet treat. I might still have one.
Fats are good fats from egg, salmon, avocado and the olive oil in the dressing and cooking dinner. Lots of veg - looks big on the plate. Complex carbs- not the rice I grant you but the seeded bread and vegetables. Protein - egg, salmon, pork, seeds.
I have had a few days when I've been away and have eaten BBQs, cake etc - but right back on the plan the next day.
Finally, we all have a body weight set point. This is not always where it appears on a weight or BMI chart. According to those, my goal of 80kg (176lbs or 12.5 stone) would put me at the very upper limits of healthy weight, but I have good muscles from weight training and am a 12-14 size at that weight which for my height is fine. To be slimmer, I'd have to do more exercise and eat less just to maintain and I'm not willing to do that. So think about what YOUR body would be best at without comparing your self to others or some fantasy size. Good luck!

It is good you have a year. Your goal should not be only be losing weight but improve overall health. The shape change will come.

Within a year of starting exercising the scales were only 5kgs lower. However, a machine scan showed I had lost almost 9kgs of fat. My muscle, minerals and water composition had improved/ grown. So the scale was not showing this. Not everyone has access to a Dexa/ InBody machine so I suggest you start measuring yourself, particularly your tummy.

Do you have Netflix? They have some free Nike and exercise classes. If you have difficulty to start off with do Yoga or Pilates inspired classes.

I would suggest you do some strength training. If you don't like it too much and need to prioritise - start with your legs. It has the longest muscle and likely to impact the most your metabolism.

Food is not about calories only, make sure you are having enough protein.

The way to work it out op, is if you really do average 2400 a day calorie exertion, and note Fitbit does overestimate exercise calories and underestimate food ones, they all do, then for you to be gaining, you need to be eating an average of at least 2500 a day.

If you weighed and logged everything religiously on MFP, plus weighed yourself then you have 2 months worth of data to analyse to your heart's content. I don't get the impression that you actually weighed your food though.

Anyhow, it sounds like 1800 calories or thereabouts is your maintenance amount. If you take off 20%, then round it down, it gives you 1400 calories to lose weight. That should give you about 0.8lb a week loss, which is slow and sustainable. If you stay consistent for a year, that's 40lb loss. Which is a bit less than you wanted, but it's sustainable.

You won't lose the same amount throughout, and weight loss isn't linear anyway. You'll have to reduce calories further, as smaller body needs less to maintain. You can counterbalance this with exercise though.

Its notoriously difficult to be sure about what you're burning and as much as other people hate to hear it, 1800 may be too high to lose weight

As you get older your metabolism drops dramatically, but your exercise will help this a lot

You need to weigh (not measure by cups) everything meticulously, dont just use the products on MFP or nutracheck without checking they match with the product you bought/ate, I frequently have to input my own products as people just seem to make so many mistakes when they put in their products.

Lower carb. Peri menopause does not help, if you are in that age range.

OP you are not in a calorie deficit, otherwise you would be losing weight.
I think you need to try MyFitnessPal to monitor calories accurately, and aim for about 1400 per day. If you can do that consistently you will lose 1lb a week.