Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Has anyone actually ever received help for BED?

12 replies

midnightblue12 · 25/07/2023 20:26

By bed I mean binge eating disorder.
I 100% have bed. I have all the symptoms listen, I've never felt more heard after researching it.
I struggle so much with binge eating and it makes me so unbelievably miserable and anxious.
My weight is ok but is gradually creeping up and it's down to the ridiculous binge eating I do.
I've decide I need some help so feel like ringing the go for an appointment tomorrow. But what actually happens? Would I see a dietician?
Anyone actually ever received help for it?

OP posts:
sadaboutmycat · 25/07/2023 20:36

I tried to talk to my GP about this a few weeks ago. I'm 60, and first raised it with a GP at 18...
I've never had any help or support. This time she told me to try Slimpod. It's very expensive...

Disgraceful attitude IMO.

XioXio · 25/07/2023 20:58

Sorry to read @sadaboutmycat you've had negative experience too.

@midnightblue12 I hope you manage to get help.

I have brought it up several times with GP and CBT psychologists. Received no help. Hurtful attitudes as well.

"Well you must have been anorexic before as you aren't that big". I wasn't, I had put on 2 stone on 6 months and as I am petite I was still only a size 10-12. So no, I wasn't big. That was at 19. I'm 34 now and 14 stone....

"I can't teach you willpower ". Great, thanks for that. I have willpower, bingeing isn't about that

"It's just a symptom of depression, so we'll work on that instead". I wasn't depressed.

Most help I've had is realising that bingeing on sweet foods makes me crave them and also feel like shit because sugar messes with me. The best thing I did was try to change the foods I binge on. At least the physical after effects aren't as strong

Also, realised I have ADHD and most likely autism. So the reasons I was binging aren't what I first thought.

I see a private therapist now, only a few sessions in but I am feeling positive for the first time in ages.

BeastOfBODMAS · 26/07/2023 10:19

@XioXio interesting that you mention autism like an afterthought! Autistic binge eater here and I have often wondered if it is a sensory seeking behaviour, rather than emotional, and if it could be replaced with a different, healthier sensory seeking behaviour?
It’s such an under researched area and I’ve never had any useful help with any autism related thing.

CountryStore · 26/07/2023 10:22

Geneen Roth has written several books about binge eating which are worth reading and will help you understand yourself better

Summerpussy · 20/04/2024 15:27

I'm just trying to find threads on binge eating,trying to get insight
I also have autism and ADHD
I've just ordered the binge code book , doesn't arrive untill Monday though

Menora · 21/04/2024 12:37

I paid for my own therapy as there is bloody nothing available. I did find CBT very helpful although it wasn’t specifically for binge eating it can really help you with unpicking some of your thought processes and behaviour.

I have sensory issues - I am a mouther, I chew hard things (pens, my vape, can’t give up vaping) and I’ve got addicted to things that physically hurt my mouth before (very salty, minty or sour). I used to have particular things I would binge on so it’s quite specific I would not binge on all foods. Sugar was the worst one for me I had crippling IBS for years - which is now better as I eat less sugar. I grind my teeth in my sleep so badly I have damaged them all

It’s absolutely nothing to do with willpower but it is everything to do with finding the right motivation and learning to understand yourself. If you can relearn some of your ingrained habits and stress responses you can over come BED I want to give you hope!

I am a year into what I think is recovery but I’m aware I can have a relapse but I am learning that it is not the end of the world if I do, and I now don’t let a small relapse spiral me into a bigger one.

I had a rough childhood and learnt from my parents about using food and alcohol as a coping strategy instead of talking and externalising, I was self harming by bingeing

a dietician may help you but I agree with doing research and acknowledging how you feel

The most important thing I need to stress is that you have to be kind to yourself. You are not a failure or a bad person, this is something we have turned to to cope with our feelings and our brains have become dependent on getting a hit of dopamine and endorphins. You can find other ways to stimulate yourself to get the same response from things like exercise, self care and hobbies, it is hard work but I think YOU and everyone else are worth investing in ❤️ learning to like yourself is very important in the process.

Summerpussy · 22/04/2024 20:37

It's so hard .every time I eat I feel like a failure.like I should be able to survive on air or something.
I just wish I could eat normally

Knickersinatwist36 · 22/04/2024 20:56

This reply has been withdrawn

This message has been withdrawn at the poster's request

Summerpussy · 25/04/2024 18:54

Currently waiting for ADHD assessment..it's a long wait

SisterImpera · 25/04/2024 19:15

The closest I got to bring given help was being told by a specialist nurse to avoid buying biscuits and to stay upstairs after work and get my husband to cook meals so that I wasn’t tempted to eat anything.

For the avoidance of doubt, This didn’t help.

In my case BED led to a severe weight problem (I know it doesn’t always) and I anvoided mentioning that I have it so that I could get bariatric surgery. Private, mind you - I wasn’t eligible for NHS surgery as I was unable to lose enough weight on my own beforehand.

Sorry to be cynical.

Loveliesbhhfd · 25/04/2024 19:49

The eating disorder charity bear do a program about binge eating called the momentum program..I was referred by the eating disorder cling. I was referred to the eating disorder clinic by GP.

I've also had an appointment with a dietician.

Summerpussy · 26/04/2024 13:59

SisterImpera · 25/04/2024 19:15

The closest I got to bring given help was being told by a specialist nurse to avoid buying biscuits and to stay upstairs after work and get my husband to cook meals so that I wasn’t tempted to eat anything.

For the avoidance of doubt, This didn’t help.

In my case BED led to a severe weight problem (I know it doesn’t always) and I anvoided mentioning that I have it so that I could get bariatric surgery. Private, mind you - I wasn’t eligible for NHS surgery as I was unable to lose enough weight on my own beforehand.

Sorry to be cynical.

I am on the waiting list for wls in UK...I worry even that won't stop me eating

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread