I'm just one big mass of a human. Is there any hope for me

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I'm going round and round in circles. Weight loss doesn't seem to happen for me. I have pcos and just seen to be getting fatter and fatter and I will literally cry at the uphill struggle I have now to lose weight.
I keep trying low carb or low calorie and keep failing.

Having dc has been the biggest obstacle to me succeeding because there's always crap on the house especially as they are sporty and so eat A LOT and I am stressed and tired all the time with work and give in far too easily.

Has anyone successfully lost weight despite feeling down about it and having incessant available snacks due to dc?! Feeling very down about it all.

I understand that pcos can cause insulin resistance so that makes things harder.
I couldn't do low carb unless my life depended on it but have happily counted calories in accordance with my tdee. Have you worked out yours? If not Google will give you a link to one. I use the tdee calculator dot something or other. I've lost 2.5 stone since last September. What's your starting point or if you rather not say then how much are you wanting to lose? How active are you? What are your healthy habits and what are your unhealthy habits? I didn't think of it as a diet but as a healthier lifestyle and my mindset has changed significantly. I use my fitness pal to log everything and quickly got into that habit. I weigh things to the correct portion sizes so I know my intake is correct. The lose it threads have been my biggest support. You can do this!

Would you consider Ozempic? Great for those with insulin resistance and it can force a complete habit change.

And yes is the answer to your question, using Ozempic, 29 lbs gone, 40 to go

There is a huge shortage of ozempic that's predicted to last the rest of this year. Diabetics who are prescribed it to manage their blood sugar levels are reporting they are unable to get their prescriptions for it. It's also very expensive and not guaranteed to work.

And yet...
I'm on it
Can get it
Can afford it
And it's working
So your reasons to not use it won't be the case for everyone. And it could possibly help OP.

@slithytoveisascientist I would consider this. I don't know where to start with it all. I'd rather do it privately as our GP is really hard to engage about anything, last time I was weighed with my GP he gasped saying you have put on a lot and I wimped out of saying anything and ran home crying !

My dh doesn't want me to try any drugs because of the potential side effects but I can no longer walk easily, im constantly out of breath which is now hindering exercise and I feel in a constant cycle of im never going to lose weight.

My weight is taking over my life.

I asked the dr for a referral to weight management as I’m struggling. My referral was refused because my BMI isn’t high enough despite being categorised as obese.

The dr has prescribed orlistat so I’m seeing how that goes. You have to aim for a low fat diet with it to avoid the side effects.

In the past I’ve lost weight and managed to stick to a healthy diet but since having a child it’s been hard. I need that accountability to keep going.

Thanks @Danikm151 I do need to go back to the GP I think. He told me to cut out all cakes snacks etc. thing is I have done that but no weight loss. I'm quite shocked no weight loss so I must be doing something wrong. The plus side is I am no longer eating so much rubbish but very sad I'm not seeing any results in weight loss as a result.

The only thing that does help and weight loss is extremely slowly is low carb. But t also makes me extremely depressed.
I don't know why, but after a few weeks doing low carb I literally feel like ending it all. Even though my mh is usually fine.
My body doesn't lose weight easily at all. It has all spiralled out of control after dc.

Before dc I was never outside of healthy BMI. Now obese.

I think what stands out to me is there is a lack of personal responsibility in your op. “Weight loss doesn’t happen for me”. It doesn’t just happen for anyone unless something is wrong, you need to make significant lifestyle and diet changes for it to happen.

you also blame the kids, pcos,stress and tiredness, all of which do make it harder but obviously you can lose weight.

the reality is, you need to accept only you can do it, no one else is to blame, it will never just happen and you need to put the effort in . In addition carrying extra weight leads to tiredness, snacking, and a more sedentary lifestyle, irs a horrible vicious circle you need to break out of. I’m breaking out of it now, as you can tell from my user name.

ultimately you need to want to loose the weight more than you want the food. It’s like a light switch in your mind.

go and take off all your clothes. Look at yourself in the mirror. Properly look. At your face and body. Are you comfortable with your appearance? Or do you wish to change it. Then do some exercise, try to walk fast, run, do sit ups. See how you cope. Were you able to do it, or did you struggle?

use it as a wake up call if you struggled or are unhappy and vow to do it. Cut the snacks out, meal plan, get 30 mins exercise a day. Build up. Drink lots of water.

you can do it, you just need to get to that mindset.

He told me to cut out all cakes snacks etc. thing is I have done that but no weight loss

he was lazy. You have over compensated by eating more of other things. Your calorie intake is enough to maintain or increase. So possibly portion control is an issue.

Saxenda is another option - same family of drugs as ozempic and works in the same way. Has some stock issues at the moment, as does ozempic, but it is the specific weight-loss approved dose and version so isn’t placing as much pressure on stock of drugs for diabetics and is available from many of the more high street online pharmacies (Boots, Lloyds, Superdrug etc) via private prescription from them.

I am on it currently and just over month in and thoroughly impressed so far - I’ve already lost 19lbs, takes the will power out of it and been on holiday in that time too which is usually disastrous for me for weight gain

I would defintiely look at a private prescription for orlistat, saxenda or Ozempic.

Saxenda didn't work for me but I know loads of people who it did.

Drugs is a scary step but for me, the weight gain (and I was still gaining) and associated symptoms was scarier.

I too took no personal responsibility. I was fucking exhausted, suffering a breakdown, nothing worked because I couldn't make it work.

I see it as the weight loss equivalent to anti depressants. A stepping stone to help me along until I can do it for myself.

I'm still not quite in the right mindset but I'm SO much closer than I was.

And now I can't overeat and can't really eat high fat.

And I'm 2 stone down.

It's not for everyone but it's helped me and I think I'll be able to get mentally more capable to one day be in the right mindset .

I do appreciate the position you're in. I have PCOS as well, and insulin resistance.

First of all, while I wouldn't suggest disregarding your DH entirely, you have the final say when it comes to your personal health whether or not he agrees. He does have a point regarding side effects and the potential risks of medication.

Second, you may have to do the heavy lifting when it comes to self-advocacy with your GP and that means being ready for the conversations, which I absolutely appreciate can be very emotional.

If you haven't done so already, I'd recommend starting with requesting a complete metabolic panel including fasting glucose and the full thyroid hormone and antibody test. With PCOS, it is so very difficult to lose weight until you're on a level playing field and if you don't have the complete picture of where you're standing, you might still end up with a frustrating result.

After that, then speak to your GP about medications. And if you can, find a very good endocrinologist - that was crucial for me in dealing with all of the interlinked metabolic issues.

I've been on liraglutide for a long time, on and off since 2017. My word of warning is that it is perfectly possible to take it and remain overweight; unless you also address eating habits, it's not going to help and you're in a similar position to me with DCs that have appetites. It really isn't a magic solution to anything, but it does help if you are willing to also put in the work.

Everyone told me my PCOS and insulin resistance and thyroid issues would improve when I lost weight. Unfortunately they have not; I'm telling you this so you know that it's possible these conditions may not reverse once you've hit your goals. Whatever path you find through this, you may need to be prepared to follow some version of it forever, or at least keep monitoring it. I'd love to say my insulin resistance, hormone issues, and thyroid became normal once I hit 8st but the fact is that they didn't, and it's not likely they're going to.

@Fattygettingthinner yes I'll accept that I don't take responsibility but right through my 20's I was underweight.

I was diagnosed with pcos during my first pregnancy 8 years ago. since then my weight has rocketed from underweight to way over weight. I never did anything before to stay underweight but now I am obviously getting things terribly wrong I don't really know what to do. My exercise has gone down due to ankle and knee problems because I'm so fat and now I do feel perpetually stuck as I've gone on various diets and the scales haven't moved (and this includes recording every single calorie daily) saying that low carb does help but still very slowly but I get extremely depressed after a few weeks as in feeling terrible intrusive thoughts even though I have one of these thoughts when eating regularly.

So yes I am not taking enough responsibility but equally my life has changed so much in the last few years I have no idea what I'm doing, I went on 800 calories a day for 3 weeks and lost nothing. I feel like there's something not quite right. If I'd have done that before dc I know I would have lost weight. Maybe she as well is playing it's part (I'm 38 now)

Age not she *

Op don’t be defensive, as said I’m there, or I started literally about a month ago taking responsibility and dealing with it.

all of our lives change, many of us were slimmer when younger without effort. In this you’re not alone.

you can ask your doctor for a full blood panel to check no underlying issues. On 800 calories a day it is humanly impossible for you not to be loosing weight if you’re very overweight now. So this means you underestimated your calorie intake. either on a daily basis , maybe snacks, maybe portion size, maybe drinks, or some extras at a weekend. You have not achieved the humanly impossible.💐 at obese and on a 800 a day you’d be dropping weight fast.

id ask to be referred to a dietician. It’s clear you’re getting to the stage you will deal with it, and you need to if it’s impacting your health and mobility.

I can’t say I understand the intrusive thoughts if you don’t eat carbs and sugar. Other than maybe you feel deprived and it gets you very down.

for me, it’s low carb, daily exercise, and a shit ton of water. A month ago I struggled to walk up hill on the treadmill for 3 mins. Now I can jog ten mins, however I was previously very fit. You need to build up small. Maybe rowing would work if you’ve ankle and knee issues. Strength training would definitely help.

you can also maybe look at counselling, as there could be an underlying mental health or environment issue that’s causing you to mistreat yourself. Be it unhappiness, boredom, habit, trauma etc.

Definitely see your GP because if you aren't losing weight on 800 calories then there's something wrong somewhere. I'm losing weight on 1550-1800 at the moment and weigh 54kg. Im 5'3" so short and peri-menopausal at 46 I'm supposed to be maintaining but not got the hang of it yet. The heavier someone is the more calories they need just to provide their body with the energy it needs for basic functions.