Sorry, this is a long one!!
I have always had a weight problem although I’m not currently hugely overweight and never have been. My problems have always been more psychological; poor body image, the need to be slim to be liked, self-loathing due to inability to maintain a healthy weight etc.
I was told by my mother that I was fat when I was 14 and from then on I was always on “a diet” and felt that she felt I was only worth anything if I was slim. It hurt me a lot, although I didn’t realise it at the time. I know now that she was trying to help me but in my opinion she went about it the wrong way.
I have a teenage daughter who is overweight, not hugely but shows no sign of being worried about it and I have never made a thing of it due to my own experience as a teenager. I hoped she would grow out of it as she only put weight on when she hit puberty. My daughter is not active at all and loves all the “wrong” foods although I try to limit these. I want to help her (for health reasons, not how she looks because I love her whatever) but she has never asked me to. She knows I go to slimming clubs but I don’t ram dieting down her throat, I just get on with it. I don’t want to hurt her by suggesting she cuts down on “bad” (you see how my mind works re food, good/bad!!) foods and gets more exercise but I worry that her health will suffer later in life if she doesn’t get healthier now.
Any advice on how I can broach the subject without setting her on the unhealthy path I’m on?
thanks if you have got this far!!