I am 19st 7lb

[newmee2023]

Posting it here so I can refer back every so often.

I put on 3st over lockdowns which I've struggled to shift- I lose 5lb during the week then put it back on again!

I'm 5ft 10 and feel like a beast.

My skin is red raw under my boobs/belly due to sweat.

I love clothes and make up but nothing fits me and I've lost motivation to do my hair make up as feel so shit.

I get out of breath walking up the stairs.

My work uniform is close to splitting and as it's so tight and I sweat so much the wet patches are so obvious.

I'm sure I'm a borderline alcoholic, I drink every night unless I'm working and am fed up of waking up everyday feeling shit 😞

I can only have sex with dh in doggy position as my belly is too big for anything else (sorry tmi but want it all written down)

I put of going out with friends and doing things with dc as I feel so embarrassed.

I want to lose as close to 3st as possible for mid April as I have a big event I really want to go to and want to feel good when I go.

I have loads planned over the summer and know I'll feel shit and not enjoy any of it if I still look/feel like this.

I really want to be 4st down by the summer.

15st 7 is quite a good weight for me, still heavy but I know I can look good at this weight.

All my visitors have now gone so today is the day and I've no excuses.

I'll check back in four weeks on the 1st Feb to say how I'm getting on the again on the 1st of March.

From today I'm not drinking, walking somewhere everyday and calorie counting on my fitness pal.

Best of luck.
I wasn't the same weight but lost over 40lbs last year just by stopping constant snacking and adjusting portion sizes.

You can do this

I sympathise it really does sneak on. I was actually thinner during the first lockdown due to sooo much walking. I’ve written down a list of changes I’m going to track to focus my mind. You may have good days/average days/ bad days, just get back on it 👍😁

My plan is
20 mins walk before work and half an hour after work (if I do less I’ll record it )
porridge/weetabix or eggs for breakfast
soup or salad and fruit for lunch
protein and veg for tea
Trying dry Jan (I’ve just drank every day for 14) if not dry weekdays.

Good luck

You can loose this weight..it is not impossible.

Use my fitness pal as you said

Don't restrict yourself too much. Allow yourself some chocolate (or whatever your downfall is) So buy the little "funsize bars" or low cal crisps etc don't have huge amounts of tempting food in the house..but if you go cold turkey on most of this stuff you'll fail

Exercise! Slow at first - walks etc. as you get fitter go swimming etc!

Don't fall off the bandwagon if you have one bad day. It happens and you don't put tons of weight on in one bad eating day.

Consider the fasting diets

Consider a weight loss class

All the best!! You can do it!!!!!

Good luck on your journey. I'm a similar weight but I cant stop eating atm due to steroids. I'm like a t-rex'd sized locust

You can do it ! I lost four dress sizes .. my fitness pal / intermittent fasting/ watch the carbs but not low carb ... you've taken yourself seriously by making yourself accountable .. take some pics for yourself and regularly - it's so lovely to put them all together .

I was 19 st 1 lb at my biggest

I lost 2 stone with slimming world and just sat there at 17 St 7 lb, after putting a bit on.

In Feb 22 I went and had a gastric sleeve and have lost 6 st 6 lb and I'm currently 11 st 6 lb

I feel great and I look great 👍

It's rubbish, isn't it? I go to an NHS funded weight loss 12 week plan which is great. You can go around again if you've not reduced your BMI sufficiently.

I take medication (no excuse btw!) that the doctor said would cause weight gain, I was fat anyway. I'm 15s7lb and need to lose 6st for spine surgery. I've lost 1s7lb since May last year but I've lost the will now!

Good luck op, you can do it but I ntbe meanwhile I'd recommend getting a couple of inexpensive bras that are the right size. I'm 19st 2 and a G cup and shorter than you and can say with better underwear you'll find it easier to exercise etc. Boobs or Bust is a good one to get a new size. If you've got a tummy overhang that's raw, can you fry talc or something similar to dry the area? Clothes that fit will also be less sweaty so again, can you get some basics in clothes and order a new uniform.

Feeling like shit isn't going to motivate you to lose this if you feel to shit to be motivated to move.

You are probably a habitual drinker rather than an alcoholic. I definitely got into a pattern of casual daily drinking ( just a couple of glasses) and it was quite hard to break. What I realised was that aiming for total abstinence or streaks didn’t work as all I was thinking about was that party in 2 weeks time where I was bound to fail so why bother? Instead I basically decided to stop drinking at home. That has been pretty easy to stick to and I’ve probably cut down by 90%. Good luck!

I empathise and sympathise. I am a stone lighter than you but inches shorter too. At least you're doing something about it, well done!

In the meantime, to ease the under boob and under belly sweat, I strongly advise folding one of these under each boob and your belly. It will draw out the sweat and significantly reduce the discomfort of the moist feeling that then rubs and is so painful. I only use them if I am going to be doing something sweaty or it is particularly hot but they are great. The exact ones I use are out of stock but something similar will work the same. They need to be washed each time for hygiene but are easily washable and re-usable.
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Also blow-dry under your boobs/belly after the shower so you know it's fully dry before you get dressed. Use talc if you have to. Those steps will really help remove the discomfort of rubbing raw bits.

Good luck in your journey 👏

@newmee2023 fingers crossed for you. I’m a similar weight - 19st 6lbs and 5’11”

I’ve gained over 3 stone in 5 years - and 2st was over covid. Peri-menopause and depression /fatigue aren’t helping motivation.

I’ve gone from a pear shape to a big apple and I can’t look at myself in mirrors anymore.
I’m normally a 16 - well used to be. I’m now ceeeping into a size 22.

same issue with sex and zero body confidence.

I’m paying £9 for local 24 hour gym and going at least twice a week - just using the cardio (treadmill at a good walk) to warm up after stretches and then I love the weight machines. I also love not paying for a long shower at home… bloody energy bills.

I’ve started going for a walk each day. Two if I can be arsed. Just round the block minimum - try to make it smile or two in a circuit to home. Or I drive somewhere and wander for an hour. Just getting out more. Exploring different places. I love snapping random bits of scenery or objects and listening to podcasts whilst I do it.

I was paying for premium My Fitness Pal but cost went up so using weight watchers app instead for now (don’t attend it’s just to give me a food diary and boundaries). It works for me as I’m competitive so like to see how I’m doing. I don’t like it as much as fitness pal so saving for the annual version of it. Fitness pal premium helps ensure I get the macros/vitamins etc I need for my immune system and stuff to stay healthy. It’s not necessary for most folks though.

j weigh myself daily. As if I do it weekly I’m like - ohhhh I can treat myself and I’ll just behave rest of the week and then I go off the wagon for a month.... I like daily as I learn when and how my body fluctuates weight due to ovulation or period. I can see that it’s not going up continuously which is comforting. Even if it’s the same for a few days it doesn’t bother me. Long as it slowly works it’s way down.

I do free yoga with Adrianne and other via YouTube to help core and get more limber. I can’t do HIIT as my immune system is buggered and it brings on shingles etc.

i do allow myself treats otherwise life would be miserable. But it’s moderation. Everything in moderation. I’m not a big drinker so that helps.

taking in more fluids. Water/brews/herbal teas etc. helped my skin, sleep and I feel better.

im also trying to clean up other areas of my life which can impact me emotionally and lead to me feeling down. So tidying and fixing up the house. Sorting out boundaries with problem folks and situations. Getting better income sorted. Etc

good luck. You aren’t alone.

why not check in weekly @newmee2023 for more accountability?

Hello
Please can you tell me how the 12 week nhs group works? I wonder if I may be eligible

Hello OP
Just sympathising. I am at my heaviest ever and was okay with it until I saw some of the Xmas photos
Am horrified

Are you able to join a gym OP? I was heavier than you when I started and probably drank too much. I found having the accountability of a booked class or PT session the next morning meant I couldn't drink.

If you can get a PT I'd recommend it. Mine started out with me very slowly so I didn't injure myself (balance and body weight exercises) and I now go 4-5 times a week nearly 2 years later.

I'm still technically overweight (but no longer obese) and I'm far happier because of increased fitness and strength.

I started at a similar weight and paid for a gastric sleeve with Tonic Surgery. Now 11st on the nose and the happiest I've ever been. Maintained for 2 years with ease so far.

The statistical chances of losing the weight, getting to a healthy BMI and staying there for 5 years is less than 1%. This is based on Denise Ratcliffe, the NHS expert on obesity and bariatric surgery

Op I was similar to you. 5.5, 18.5 stone and a heavy drinker. I lost just over 6 stone slowly over 4 years although the last year was helped by a new diabetes meds as I'm a type 2.

It can be done but I am greedy naturally ( put 2 stone back on last year ) and I found that the diabetes med helped with giving me not much of an appetite.

I also used to drink more than I should and I hardly drink at all now as tbh on ozempic it makes you feel sick if you imbibe too much fluid.

Is this something you could consider? It's a weekly injection and you can get it if you are more than 3 stone overweight off script for weight loss. There are loads of drs and clinics that offer it now.

Honestly? It was like a switch had flipped for me. I just didn't overeat anymore.

You can get it privately for around £150 to £200 a month. I completely understand if you can't afford this - I don't think gp's are prescribing it for weight loss atm only for type 2 diabetes sadly and I think they should consider it as it really works.

Otherwise if appetite isn't an issue for you by all means calorie count, it's a really good way to lose weight it just didn't work well for me that's all - align with slimming world, Cambridge diet and WW unfortunately.

I feel your pain in your words. That was me not that long ago and it was killing me bith mentally and physically.

Good luck to you OP i mean that sincerely. I really hope you can get the 3 stone off, it will be such a confidence boost to you 🙌