How to get past self sabotage

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I've struggled with my weight all my life and I'm now about 7lbs off my heaviest ever. Christmas obviously isn't helping!

In the past I've always found calorie counting worked best for me. I'm not a big eater during the day but I usually have eggs/protein for breakfast, some kind of shake or soup for lunch and then save around 700 cals for a decent (balanced) evening meal. Problem is, I've gotten stuck in this 'one day off a week' cycle where I feel like because I've been 'good' for 3 days, I 'deserve' a 'night off'. So I'll cook up a storm, open the wine etc. The following day I'll then be nibbly and not stick to my 1200 cals and then yeah, I just go round and round in circles, never really getting anywhere.

Has anyone successfully broken this type of self sabotage and gotten out of the 'night off' mentality. I do love my food and view cooking as relaxation so to not do that feels like I'm depriving myself of something. It's all 100% in my head!

Would really value any tips or stories if anyone has successfully conquered this sort of thinking?

I don't want to be pedantic but to me "self-sabotage" is when you have some kind of mental block that means you are ambivalent about Weight loss and you keep sabotaging yourself because you don't really want to lose the weight. I don't know if that is true for you but it sounds more like a physical cause. It might be you being too deprived in the week, calories are too low to be sustainable for you, so you end up overeating at the weekend. If you increase your calorie allowance you may lose weight more slowly but you would be more consistent.