I’m considering a new regime - only eating what my husband eats

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Not the most generalisable of diets, as probably not applicable to many others. But my husband is only a couple of inches taller than me and almost a couple of stone lighter (probably, he doesn’t actually weigh himself but he has barely changed body shape in the 20+ years I have known him)

We eat together for almost all our meals. He works from home, I work elsewhere but I usually get home for lunch. So we basically eat the same stuff already, except I snack and he doesn’t. So it’s just stopping snacking which is pretty basic really, but I’m going to consider snacks and think ‘would Dave (not his real name) eat this?’ and then not eat it, hopefully.

What do you reckon?

Worth a try? Try to walk a bit more too and you’ll lose something. Weight loss is all calorie deficit, maybe make your portions smaller too.

Obviously not snacking will help.

try reading 'why we eat (too much)' as well though to understand about weight set points and why two people with similar diets won't both have similar patterns of weight gain/loss.

Well, it's worth a try. But men tend to have a higher metabolic rate and carry more muscle mass by default, so portions that would keep his weight stable would probably put weight on you.

When I gave up snacking I lost a stone very quickly (in 6 weeks) and then it’s been a gradual loss of 1-2 lb a week since then total loss of 2 stone so far and I have half a stone till I’m at my target weight. At first feeling hungry wasn’t pleasant !!!! But I think feeling hungry is normal and I’d just got used to the mindset of making sure I didn’t ever feel hungry when I needed to change my mindset to accept feeling hungry plus I made sure I made time for meals and to enjoy them and eat consciously rather than mindlessly snacking and not even enjoying what i was consuming

I reckon his upper body muscle mass is equivalent to my lower body muscle mass 😄

He does exercise more than me but I have been doing more myself recently too, strength training and running.

The fact is he eats a lot less than me, so matching what he eats has got to be a good start.

Bullshit.different bodies different needs.you cannot go on what you have by what ha has it will have completely different results.you will either binge because you've restricted your needs.be miserable because your hungry or other things.tou go on your hunger.your body your sex your DNA means you need completely different nutrition,time,portion,feeling,wellbeing,lifestyle,sleep,job,emotions.

I think it's worth a go! Report back on yr progress. Even a few pounds lost is useful information

Not married but if I ate what my son age 16 ate I'd be too full to move!

Not sure how anyone can argue against stoping snacking as a weight loss strategy. Go for it.

It’s what I notice most about my DH (who is overweight) - he snacks a lot. I don’t, really. As a PP says, you get used to a level of hunger - I don’t feel hungry by not snacking. My DH ‘feels hungry’ but IMO could train himself not to!

Cutting out snacking will obviously work but trying to compare yourself to another person with a different metabolism, may just lead to nothing but frustration.

No but mentally it's useful.

I diet every second day. Less depressing!!

The people saying your needs are different... it's very unlikely that a slightly smaller, somewhat less active woman would need more calories than a slightly larger, somewhat more active man.

Ah, it’s just a joke really. An acknowledgement of the unsurprising correlation that DH is slimmer than me, healthier than me, and doesn’t snack like me. And not snacking is a pretty good goal, weightloss wise.

Not snacking isn't a good goal if that what your body needs! Diet culture has trained that into you.does a baby not snack.a toddler.before we were manipulated into 3 meals a day or no snacking we are intuitively,whenour body needed it.if your actively having to stop a snack when your hungry then that's just as bad for your body.
If your body has a required amount a day snacks can fall perfectly into that.
We demonize so much with diet mentality. Snacks based.sugar based.carb based. Fruit based. Goodness.from one thing to the next there is someone making money off out need to be thinner.we believe anything.

No one is making money off my attempt to not snack…