Revenge Body!

[NwNmOldFace]

Name change as I don't want this associated with previous posts, been around enough to know about beakers, the perils of overnight outdoor laundry and the like!
Not going into the outing and irrelevant details beyond that next June I will have to share a room with physically and emotionally abusive ex from 10 years ago when I attend a good friends wedding. We'll both be going - there's no way around it, neither one of us will be able to not without being conspicuous by absence. So, I have 12 months to lose the weight I've put on during the relationship with him and since we split (about 10 stone, and yes I recognise this is unlikely achievable but if I aim high and only hit 50-75% I'll still be happy!). I also need to move away from my frumpiness and so if anyone would like to join me please do feel free! Main plan is calorie counting, increased exercise, stress management and sleep. Also planning a six week alcohol free boost to get me started. Today's weight: 325lbs.
P.s in anticipation of the usual MN concern, I will be going with DP of four years who knows everything, is extremely supportive and won't tolerate any crap, I'm doing this for me not him!

I agree about finding the right motivation. For me, I need three things regular exercise first thing in the morning, if I have suffered that then I’m less likely to undo my good work with food, a good nights sleep to not trash my will power and a holiday planned to make me do the exercise in the first place.

Im also going to put up some photos from Womens Health in a few of the food cupboards to help add motivation…. Not sure what DH is going to think though!

Oh you so need to do this. That is great motivation. I’ve just started on the centr app. Exercise and nutrition and meditation all in one place. You could modify a lot of the moves and you can pay for a treat in one go for further motivation

OP and PPs, may I join too? I can't believe what a slob I've become -- a flabby chipaholic whose dancing days are now lost in the mists of antiquity ... along with my waist.
Some of you have mentioned walking. I like to revisit this story by David Sedaris as motivation to get up off my lard and out the door. If a chubby, sedentary male can walk his way to Fitbit fame (and even have a garbage truck named after him), we can too.

You sound brilliant OP, I really think you can do this.

I'm following your journey because I've lost and gained the same stone and a half for the last 3 years and it's getting me down. I've lost 3-4 stone using Slimming World in the past and actually enjoyed the process, but it always goes back on eventually.

Also, like you I have an event in about 12 months time that I want to feel better for. I great friend of mine got engaged recently, and her hen weekend and wedding will be on the cards in May and July next year. She is very slim and glamorous with equally slim and glamorous friends. I am the complete opposite and I don't want to stick out like a sore thumb!

At the moment I only want to loose a stone, but because of my yo-yoing for the last 3 years it may as well be a lot more - that's how much of an insurmountable task it feels.

I've decided to try a 'no diet' approach this time. I'm just eating three small meals a day and having an evening pudding (I've got a big sweet tooth). So today will be porridge for breakfast, a wrap for lunch and then chilli and rice for tea. Not counting calories, weighing or measuring - just cooking from scratch, packing in lots of veg and being sensible about portions. If I manage all of that in a day, I'm allowed a pudding.

My reason for taking this approach is that actually, the meals I eat are pretty good. The reason I'm fat is that I binge on crap nearly every day. I feel that if I could just get in control of the binging I'd make massive improvements to both my physical and mental health, even if weight loss is slow or marginal.

I quite like exercise and run at least twice a week and also do a HIIT session once a week. I can't run when my children are off school though, so that will be hindered quite a bit over the summer holidays.

I've been doing this for about 10 days and I've lost around 5lbs so far. I know a lot of that's water weight etc, but trying to use that to feel positive.

Sorry for the ramble, but it feels really good to articulate my train of thought!

No need to ask to join folks, tbf this started with me recognising that I needed somewhere to check in regularly for motivation, checking out my progress and a little accountability but it's almost cathartic to get it out there! More than happy for anyone to tag along and use this to help you.
So week 1 weight loss is 2lbs and I am ECSTATIC! Simply because I'm due on this week, so to have lost anything is considered a small miracle (my record was with SW when I put on a whopping 9lbs with the help of my monthly visitor 😳🤯).
My search for the perfect dress continues (not buying anything yet but it's lovely looking at what is available).
I did a thing yesterday too - thanks to a comedy of errors was coming home at 9.30pm with a hungry niece and injured knee, which would normally equal Dominos and a bottle of Irish cream (Tesco's, but other brands are available 🤣). Instead we did hit McDonalds but I got a grilled chicken wrap and fruit bag with a mini ice cream, halfway through it dawned on me that I was full. Previous pattern would be to power through and finish it anyway - last night the dog got a treat!
My final thought for now is that I'm continuing to reframe thoughts. I am not fat; I have fat, and I can lose or gain fat according to my behaviours, but I am an attractive woman with a successful career, beautiful home and there is no reason to feel inferior for habits which haven't served me well in the past. Happy habit changing folks :)

Dug out the collagen this morning and seem addicted to Babybel cheese...not sure what that's all about! Happy Jubilee everyone (and to those not celebrating, happy extra BH. Unless you're working, in which case thank you for your service and enjoy the extra day whenever you take it!)

I lost 9 stone in 9/10 months so def achieveable! Went from 20 to 11. Good luck!

Don’t give up.

Been there so many times myself when you think fuck it, I’ve got plenty of time, then before you know it it’s the day of the event that you was getting thin for and you feel such a let down, either the same weight or bigger.

10 stone in a year isn’t out of the realms of possible either. My sister was 24 stone and she was losing over a stone a month…..

Things I can recommend.

Nutracheck, it’s £3.99 a month or an annual fee of £23.99 if it’s on offer, it’s like a way better version of my fitness pal. I really really like it. All the foods you search for come up in pictures, there’s not much I haven’t been able to find on there. There is a forum too, I read through daily for motivation.

Intermittent fasting is another that i like, I’ve done various forms of this. One I do often is only eating between 12-6pm.

Tik tok, I search weightloss, and all the before and afters inspire me to keep going. Some are incredible transformations.

Exercise, I was going to the gym, but it’s a faff and takes too much of my day up getting there and back and my workout, so I’m doing home workouts now. I religiously do 30 minutes every day. I sat with pen and paper and went through every problem area, (my full body to be blunt) and devised exercises to target those areas, tik tok is another good one for this, I will type in things like how to get rid of mummy tummy, how to get thin thighs, how to get rid of bingo wings and all the videos come up.

water, I drink a 1.5l Buxton every day, I open it in a morning and make sure it’s gone before I go to bed, often it’s gone by dinner now. I could drink more but that will do. It’s an improvement of drinking none.!

Oh yes and collagen tablets, I got some from my protein, I take them every day, and I bought some st Ives elasticity collagen moisturiser, I use that daily, makes me feel like I’m being proactive in preventing loose skin as that terrifies me. You can dry brush your skin aswell.

Ive lost 16lb since end of feb, not much given how long since I started but I feel better knowing I’m doing something. And I can tell in my body shape now, which I think the exercise has helped with for the inches.

The number on the scales is irrelevant to me this time around, it is literally just a number. Go by how you look, inch loss is what makes you look thinner! Good luck x

Thanks @danni0509 some really good tips there I'll certainly check out Nutracheck as well. Had a lovely Jubilee lunch guilt free and yes doggy walking is definitely the way to go rather than gym!

Well sure enough the time of the month wiped out some good efforts! But that's okay, it always does & now things are settled it will go back down. Cleaned the whole house yesterday (skirting boards - damp cloth and a tooth brush!) before giving the summer house a lick of paint. I ache in places I didn't know I had so am guessing my body counts it as exercise!

Sorry to dig up an old post but came across yours @NwNmOldFace (while searching 'frumpy' which is how I currently feel!) and notice it was almost a year ago and your goal date isn't far off. How have you gone on, did you continue on with your good start?

I've made my own start today, no refined sugar products and no eating after 6pm - 2.5hrs so far and counting...!