The things people say!

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Never realised before how much my weight is tied into my confidence (or lack of it) or what people think of me! I've struggled with my weight since I was a teenager and pretty much done every diet out there. At times I've been tiny (after near starving myself) and at my biggest I was 17stone. I'm currently 15 stone and not feeling very confident or beautiful at all.

Yesterday, a well-meaning friend and I made this flip comment about how her mum is very body confident despite her size and friend adds on, 'she's bigger than you but loves her body'. Such a small, innocent comment but I got stuck on this idea of 'bigger than you'. Like how BIG does she think I am?!

I know she didn't mean to hurt me or anything like that (I think she was trying to encourage me) but it's funny how people's little comments can put you into a wee spiral.

Anyone else had 'helpful' comments like these? How did you respond? 😊

I think that's what you'd call a "back handed compliment".

I am overweight, and desperately trying to get down to a more manageable weight in terms of health and what I can wear. I'm sick of looking on the plus size section and finding nothing but granny clothes or fashion clothes that really shouldn't be made in a size 20.

15 stone isn't enormous...... and the only person who can make you feel confident is yourself. Find the positives - I've got really thick glossy hair and unusual coloured eyes, and that's what I try to see in the mirror, rather than my stomach or double chin......!!