Feeling rubbish about my weight loss

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I have loads of weight to lose, maybe another 6/7 stone. It really quickly fell off during the first few weeks of changing my eating habits but now it seems to have just stopped. I'm trying not to "diet" but instead make life long better choices. Ive not been completely denying myself so I don't feel the need to binge all the stuff I've been craving. I'm using MyFitnessPal so I know I'm not consuming excess calories because I log everything. I've been going to the gym on top of eating better but I'm not putting everything down to exercise as I know it's mostly diet that will achieve fat loss.

My cousin has recently lost tonnes of weight, she looks like a different person, all within about 4/5 months. Every time I visit her or see her posts on social media, it makes me feel worse about my own journey because i know I can't lose all the weight that she has in the same amount of time. I know comparison is the thief of joy and all that, but I can't help looking at her and feeling intensely jealous that it just seems to have worked for her and isn't for me. It's making me wonder why I'm sacrificing my favourite foods and wasting my time at the gym when it just isn't working.

I've lost almost 2 stone, although it's been almost 2 stone since about 4 weeks in. No one has even noticed because I've got so much to lose, which is also making me wonder why I'm doing it, because everyone clearly already sees me as fat. I'm on an antidepressant that is known to cause weight gain and want to come off it but I know my mental health would suffer. I don't know what to do. I want to look and feel good about myself but right now, after weighing myself for what feels like the hundredth time and still seeing the same numbers on the scales, I just want a pizza and a massive bar of chocolate.
Has anyone else been through similar and made it through the other side? I'm hoping that I can push through this misery and achieve what I set out to do, but I feel hopeless at this moment.

How did she lose it so quickly? Sounds like some kind of crash diet? Whereas you said you aren’t really dieting so guess it will take longer. That’s what happened to me no one noticed I lost weight until I lost 4 stone as I have so much I need to lose!

I don't know how she did it in all honesty. I have some suspicions that she may have had gastric surgery but I can't say for sure.
It's now getting to the point where I don't even want to eat.

Do you feel better in yourself for eating well? My weight loss absolutely was not a straight line, I also lost quickly before it slowing down but then other weeks even though everything was the same would be a fair bit! Please don't get to the point you don't want to eat. Have you worked out your BMR?

I am in a similar position. I have lost 3 stones quite quickly via SlimmingWorld. I have at least 2 more to go.
Since Xmas my weight loss has slowed down considerably. It's very dispiriting. I've not changed anything from the days of weight dropping off.
I keep telling myself to keep going as I can't afford to stop at this weight. It's not easy though.
I haven't told any of my friends about losing the weight. Not one bastard has noticed. I think I'll have to find new friends 😄
Because I'm quite bloody minded, I'm determined to keep going just to stick it to my friends. Only joking. Sort of.

@DidgeDoolittle

I am in a similar position. I have lost 3 stones quite quickly via SlimmingWorld. I have at least 2 more to go. Since Xmas my weight loss has slowed down considerably. It's very dispiriting. I've not changed anything from the days of weight dropping off. I keep telling myself to keep going as I can't afford to stop at this weight. It's not easy though. I haven't told any of my friends about losing the weight. Not one bastard has noticed. I think I'll have to find new friends 😄 Because I'm quite bloody minded, I'm determined to keep going just to stick it to my friends. Only joking. Sort of.

A switch to calorie counting would probably help you, as you lose weight your bmr falls and calories should be recalculated. Of course slimming world is more of a one size fits all and doesn't take account of this until you're maintaining which is bizarre but obviously works for some!

First of all, well done for losing all that weight. What an achievement. Yes, i had a lot of weight to lose, started crossfit and paleo and never looked back. Paleo is now a way of life and I feel so much better restricting carbs. But at times, when I did want that pizza that badly and that chocolate (normally just before my period) , i did have them and simply restricted my calorie intake or carbs the next day eg I wouldn't have 100g blueberries or my chocolate protein bar for the next two days. Worked for me. You can't restrict yourself all the time. To be fair, no-one noticed i was losing the weight for a long time and only started commenting when i got to wearing size 10/12 clothes. I couldn't care less though what people thought - i was too determined.

OP have you looked into possibly changing the antidepressants just in case there is something out there that does not cause weight gain or something you can take with the antidepressants? A very good friend of mine who also lost a lot of weight found that cortisone was causing weight gain and it drove her mad at the time as her doctor wouldn't take her off it or give her another solution. She went to another doctor who prescribed her certain vitamins with the cortisone (i can't remember what they were) but it stopped the weight gain and she was so much happier after that.

You will push through the misery - and then you have to maintain your new target weight. Trust me - that's even harder than losing the weight to start with in my view.

Keep going! You have already lost a significant amount of weight. I respect and admire you because it's not easy. You have shown that you have great strength and self discipline.
Forget about other people's weight loss. As you say, you don't know how they are doing it- it might be gastric surgery or it might not be safely. But just focus on yourself.
Remind yourself of your motivation. Remind yourself how you are becoming healthier through your diet and exercise. Keep up with My Fitness Pal- it's great for accountability.
Speak to your GP about a possible change to a more helpful antidepressant.
You are doing everything right. Maybe you've just hit a temporary plateau. But don't give up. You're doing so well.

I'm going to speak to the GP and maybe ask about changing antidepressants. I don't think that it will help with the weight loss to be honest but I'll give it a try.
I will continue with this journey. I'm actually loving the gym at the moment anyway and I'm not necessarily missing any of the food I've stopped eating. I just feel like I'm sacrificing things and not seeing the result and I guess it's disheartening.

Have you readjusted your calories since your weight loss?
The less you weigh the less cals you need.

Mute your cousin on socials! I mute people all the time if what they post makes me feel negative. You don’t have to look at it. She can post whatever she likes but you are simply under no obligation to look. It’s self care. 💙