What to do about this ?

[MistletoeHolly]

Hello all,
I am currently a stone overweight and most of it has piled on due to an addiction to sugary stuff, so two weeks ago (after not being able to button up my trousers) I said right that’s it, I’m cutting down my sugar. Prior to this I would eat healthily all day and then after dinner in the evening I would eat a chocolate icecream at the least and at the worst it would be - a chocolate icecream, 6 x chocolate biscuits and a few squares of chocolate. I wasn’t hungry, just addicted to the sugar and it became habit.
Since cutting out my evening indulgence I’ve not really had any cravings and am getting used to not having it every night.

My question or worry Is this , I have a works do this weekend which is a 3 course including dessert how can I get out of eating the dessert because I’m afraid it will trigger something in me or should I just eat it on this occasion as it is out of the blue? And carry on with healthy diet afterwards ?

Enjoy the treat. Completely cutting things out of your diet will eventually catch up to you, and once you do eat it you'll end binging. So enjoy the meal, then carry on as normal the next day. Losing weight and keeping weight off is a commitment, and life gets in the way sometimes and will include times when you want the sweet treat, or the extra alcohol etc, so you just have to have the right mind frame of
'I can enjoy this, and it not affect the rest of my week'

If you don’t want the dessert, you could ask for a coffee instead.

I would personally take the view that one dessert won’t ruin all the good you’ve done but it’s up to you.

Cheese and biscuits or fruit salad ( if there is one).

I just agree with the others and think that you shouldn't have that dessert at all. It will give you the taste for it and it's likely you'll go back to eating sugar. Is there a cheese and biscuits option? If not I would ask for coffee. That dessert would only take a few minutes to eat but it could destroy your diet. Why not run to the bathroom when it's being served? By the time you come back it'll all be over!

I have a friend who never eats dessert because she doesn't like it. She just says 'no thanks' when they go to put one down in front of her. You could do that. Or you could just say you are too full to eat it. I have often pushed a dessert round my plate because I didn't fancy it. If it comes and you fancy it then eat it and then go back to eating healthily next day.

Sugar is an addiction, and for a lot of us it's best treated that way. I know I'd struggle to have a dessert without reawakening those sugar cravings - much easier to stay off the stuff altogether. Since it seems to be your gut feeling (pardon the pun) that that would be true for you too, just politely decline, or do as others have suggested and ask for something non-sugary. Honestly, no one will give it much thought, so don't jeopardise your good run but risking throwing yourself off course if it's important to you not to do so.

Hey everyone, thanks for the replies and advise. A few of you have suggested declining the offer of the pudding, only prob is it has already been ordered as we had to say in advance what we want before the meal so the restaurant can account for it. I’ve got sticky toffee pudding on my order!!! I was thinking of saying oh actually I’m not gonna eat this because I’m full but I don’t want to invite any attention and or comments from my new work colleagues as going by past experience, people tend to try and talk you into eating stuff like that by saying “oh it’s Christmas you’ve got to have a sweet treat at Xmas” and I just find that kind of thing embarrassing and irritating lol

Maybe I could secretly wrap it in a napkin when no one is looking and flush down the toilet lol 😂

Why not just tell the waiter not to bring it/swap for coffee if you really don’t want it? Trying to hide it is a daft plan. Someone will notice.

Just say on the day you're full and can't manage it. Someone else might well take it off your hands; if not it's a sunk cost so nothing lost by not eating it.

If you do want to eat it when the time comes, it's not the end of the world as long as you draw a line under it and get back on the wagon the next day.

The last work do I went on, the puddings were so horrible no one ate them! Rubber blancmange and Christmas pud with the texture of a bath sponge.

Thanks everyone. Think I’m over stressing about this for nothing. I’m gonna see how I feel at the actual event; there’s a good chance that I will actually feel too full after a starter and a main, and if not, I’m just going to let myself indulge and get back on the wagon straight afterwards. Thanks for your advice x