I need serious help :(

[MonicaBingaling]

I can’t stop eating. Since suffering from depression and stress happening in my life I have been eating constantly. Literally stuffing my face with all the worst junk food day and night. I feel so ashamed and disgusted with myself and I wake up every morning feeling so bloated. I’m too scared to weigh myself but I know I’ve gained over a stone :(

I’m so devastated as last year I worked so hard and successfully lost over 3 stone and was a size UK 8. And now I’m slowly getting bigger and bigger.

Please can someone help me/join me to start again? For some reason I find it easier to lose weight in summer and winters are so hard as I crave all the carbs and sugar! But I need to try and sort this out!

Please help x

I’m in the same situation. Managed to lose weight, and after illness and depression I have put the whole lot on and can’t stop eating.
The first thing is obvious - you need to start by treating your depression. I finally went to the gp who put me on sertraline and it’s made such a difference - wanting to get up in the morning, and with the energy to start moving and planning my meals. Once you are able to do that, you can start thinking about diets. Good luck x

@Nichebitch

I’m in the same situation. Managed to lose weight, and after illness and depression I have put the whole lot on and can’t stop eating. The first thing is obvious - you need to start by treating your depression. I finally went to the gp who put me on sertraline and it’s made such a difference - wanting to get up in the morning, and with the energy to start moving and planning my meals. Once you are able to do that, you can start thinking about diets. Good luck x

Glad u are doing better, I am already on anti depressants, I just find this time of year difficult as I get SAD condition.

Over eating has made me more depressed so I’m going to try being a bit healthier if I can.

Are you changing your eating or waiting zx

What kind of diet did you do, and did you go on a maintenance plan or stop? Could you try to just do maintenance calories (or whatever your personal plan is for maintenance) for the winter? If you can just hold there you can look at the situation again when it's easier and it will help break that cycle of beating yourself up. I yoyo dieted 5 stone twice in the past and have gone for a different approach this time. I lost 10% and went on maintenance. I am not as slim as I'd like but at least I am no longer obese. It was easy in the summer, now it is much harder (I also tend to get SAD). I have bad days but get back to tracking afterwards because I don't want to be in that pattern 3 times over.

Starting is the worst because you'll really crave the junk.
I am just completing a month of health, where I've committed to not missing the gym and decided not to eat any chocolate or drink any booze.
It was torture to begin with, but now I am in the swing of it, I am extending it to mid December.
Is it worth trying similar? Don't go on a crazy diet just commit to cutting out two or three unhealthy things for a month and see how you go.

@Webbedlife

What kind of diet did you do, and did you go on a maintenance plan or stop? Could you try to just do maintenance calories (or whatever your personal plan is for maintenance) for the winter? If you can just hold there you can look at the situation again when it's easier and it will help break that cycle of beating yourself up. I yoyo dieted 5 stone twice in the past and have gone for a different approach this time. I lost 10% and went on maintenance. I am not as slim as I'd like but at least I am no longer obese. It was easy in the summer, now it is much harder (I also tend to get SAD). I have bad days but get back to tracking afterwards because I don't want to be in that pattern 3 times over.

I was calorie counting and not eating many Carbs.

Your idea is good but I just want the fat off 😥

@Liverbird77

Starting is the worst because you'll really crave the junk. I am just completing a month of health, where I've committed to not missing the gym and decided not to eat any chocolate or drink any booze. It was torture to begin with, but now I am in the swing of it, I am extending it to mid December. Is it worth trying similar? Don't go on a crazy diet just commit to cutting out two or three unhealthy things for a month and see how you go.

You are right I get junk food withdrawals. I think I just need to throw myself into it and start! Thinking of binning all remaining junk food in my house and going for it .

I find bread is the worst for me ! Makes me crave more food and get sleepy and no energy.

It sounds like you are doing great xx

Finish the junk and then say to yourself you'll start!

If bread is your downfall then cut that out for one month. Be strict. I bet you'll feel so much better when that month is up!

Hi,
I'm on another thread and I'm losing weight - but slowly. The plus side of losing it slowly is it's sustainable and I can still live! I can have a meal out with friends, I can have a mince pie (although I don't because bleugh). I can't lie, I would love to have lost double the amount of weight I have (2st since June) but if I have to choose (and it seems I do!) between doing it in a way I'll stick to even though it's slow, or rapidly but knowing it's short term and I won't change the fundamentals then I'll go with slow and steady. Obviously other people might be able to do rapid and then stick to that forever but I can't so I needed to be honest with myself about what I could do and what I was PREPARED to do which are often not the same thing.

Things which have helped:

• binning white bread. It just makes me spiral and binge.
• I don't drink much alcohol but when I do it's never wine/beer (this weekend excepted ).
• I weigh myself daily but only count the losses. I know now I don't lose every week, but I will lose over a month (so stay the same, stay the same, big loss, small gain) seems to be my pattern but it's the overall trend which matters.
• I had a crazy sweet tooth. In the first weeks I just stopped and it really helped. Now I might have the odd pudding but I don't have that "omg I need chocolate NOW" thing going on anymore.
• read Why We Eat (Too Much). The single most important thing I learned is that my body is a liar. I feel hungry not because my body needs food, but because my body is lying to me and some of my hormones are playing up. Now when I think I'm hungry I look and think "well I'm due my lunch in an hour so I'll have a cup of peppermint tea and that'll take the pang away" and it usually does, even if not entirely!
• I eat the same evening meal as my family. Breakfast is light (fruit/Greek yoghurt/porridge etc), lunch is often a chicken salad or an omelette or a low cal sandwich and that means I don't need to worry about my evening meal.

Long winded way of saying you need to think about what you want and how you WILL do it, not how you MIGHT do it. You know yourself best and if you know you can't say no to a takeaway or meals out then you need to make peace with losing weight more slowly. If you need to see fast and instant results, then you need to get your head around fairly dramatic changes that take effort and discipline.

Good luck!