I need one-to-one help

[Lostgirl78]

I was wondering if there's someone out there who could buddy up with me. It helps if it's a stranger. My friends and family seem to let me off. I don't much go in for tough love, but I could do with someone to talk to, to support in turn, to weigh in once a week, to tell them what I've eaten that day. And someone who wants to do it for the long term.

I'm looking for a partnership where we won't give up on each other.

I need to lose more than half my bodyweight. I don't care how long it takes, but I need to do it. I don't care what I look like. I just HAVE to be healthy. I've let this go on too long.

I'm a single mother. I'm visiting my sister and her family this weekend, and it's dreadful here. It's an awful, toxic, hellish environment. If I don't sort my weight and smoking out, something could happen to me and then my little one would end up here.

It's a beautiful house in a lovely part of the world and they've got a shitload of money, but the atmosphere is the exact opposite of what I want for my child. I can't cope with it at all.

I'm basically in need of help and I'm in a massive panic. I feel hopeless. Please if there's anyone out there who can help. I will help you in return. It won't be a one-way street. I promise.

I'm hopefully nearing the end of my weight loss journey so probably wouldn't be long-term enough for you, but I wanted to show you some support. I'm a yo-yo dieter, but I've lost nearly 4 stone since the start of the year and am in the healthy range at last though not at target.

I hope that I have now found a sustainable way of eating - I'm following the principles in Andrew Jenkinson's 'Why We Eat (too much).' I do recommend this book, even if the way of eating isn't for you. There's a long running thread on here if you are interested. It helped me to let go of feelings of guilt and low-self worth associated with being obese. You need to understand it isn't your fault and just focus on a better way of eating.

Like you, I am a smoker - I haven't tried to quit recently, as I can only tackle one thing at a time - don't put too much pressure on yourself all at once.

Things that helped me at the start of my journey was knowing that, although it might take time, I wouldn't be 4 stone overweight for the whole of that time - I would be 3 stone, 2 stone, 1 stone ... and looking/feeling better all the time.

It sounds as though your sister's environment is toxic for you. Can you avoid or at least minimise your visits there until you are in a better place?

Wishing you the very best .

I have that book. Thank you. I'll start reading it as soon as I get back (on Wednesday). We live a long way from each other, but it's hard. There's no solution. I think she has some serious issues. Anger, OCD maybe, or a personality disorder or something. I don't really understand. All I know is that the atmosphere is dreadful and we all have to walk on eggshells. I can't see a way out of it because she'd never accepy help. I can't have her bringing up my daughter if something happens to me.

Do you happen to have a Fitbit OP? I'm part of a small friendly group which has daily chats and is great, I could invite you if you're on there.

I do have a Fitbit. I think I have two! I am always one for good intentions! I'll sort it out when I get home and then get back in touch with you if that's ok?

@Lostgirl78 hello, I would be happy to buddy up with you. I have got 7 and half stones to lose and currently on day 4 of the Cambridge diet xx

Hey, I can buddy with you :) I am in a similar position, have put on a LOT of weight over the last couple of years, don't feel like myself at all, don't recognise myself, even with nice hair and makeup.

I know you're not appearance focused at all but I'm similar in that I have become very anxious about not only health but also just practical every day things, and especially socialising. I dread running into people I know in case they see how big I am now. It's no way to live and it is all centred around one solitary thing - my size. I just turned 28 last month, I cannot enter my 30's being this way. I simply can't live like this.

Ok! Do you both want to PM me and maybe we can start a little private FB group or something?

Sure :)

Will do