@putthehamsterbackinitscage
My long term aim is to make some permanent changes to the way we eat as a family rather than being on a "diet"
I think this is very sensible and, actually, probably a major factor in success. I'm always amazed by the number of people who think that they have to cook separate meals for the rest of the family. Nothing wrong with other family members going without pasta or rice or potatoes!
My own rule is that if I'm cooking, I cook what I want. 